Controlling ones emotions

[Guest G_Unit]

Hi Gals,

I'm really wondering how to control my emotions from my male side when really wanting to be female 24/7. I have a friend who is really supportive of me wanting to be a girl. She gives me tips when i ask.. One tip she has repeatedly used is to be more motherly and less like a boyfriend. Well I really care about her a lot.. and I can't quite shut off the emotions i feel for her. She's like my little sister but not really my little sister. So i'm wondering how I can really control my emotions when i'm around her so I can be my womanly self. any suggestions are appreciated.

Stacy

[Charlize]

Stacy dear, I'm a little puzzled about your feelings about this friend. What are the emotions you wish to control? If you are romantically attracted then being motherly might not work. As a friend you can just be kind and motherly, as a potential partner these qualities might be different or certainty different at times.

If the latter is the case perhaps it might be time to discuss your feelings with her.

Hugs,

Charlie

[Guest G_Unit]

It's a mix Charlie... She wants me to treat her like a sister. I asked the same. I just can't get past the relationship part.. I had this issue with my half sisters but it was easier cause i got to be around them when I would go to my dad's. So it shouldn't be to different. Maybe it is time for me to discuss how i feel about her.

[Guest G_Unit]

Charlie to put my previous post more simple to understand.. I see her as more a girlfriend than a sister.. and I'd like to change that.

[Guest]

This is a difficult dilemma G. For me, I have so many girl friends, the greatest majority if I approached them as a romance, I would loose their friendship, or at a minimum they would retract in our friendship, to me being just an acquaintance. I have to hide away any attractions out of respect and valuing them as friends. That can be a challenge but I manage. The side ripple is, I get a chance to be intimate with them and share all kinds of cool stuff in their head and heart. Most times I see that a relationship with them isn't a healthy choice for them or me. That is a new feeling for me. I like it. It also takes me to levels underneath, in them and me, that guy girl romances or relationships ever had to offer for me. My AA sponsor also held back my reins for a long time. She kept telling me I could have all the sex I wanted in the first years of sobriety, If I get healthy enough, after that I could add partners too. Giggle. That has been good advice. I haven't had a partner in 1.75 years, but that works for me. Giggle. I want to remain in the girl's club far more than someone's significant other. My day will come for that too, I think.

Temper all this, as we are not exactly in the same peer group. I am in the older generation. (Now there is a phrase I thought I would never say! Giggle.) Hug. JodyAnn

[Guest sally-jane]

the best way i found it is to get to know her and i mean get to know her talk about what women talk about ie men, clothes, hair, and so on then you will lose all of the feelings as you will feel that you are sisters dont go in the there as a man mind im sorry to say it but that what it is and you just need to talk and understand her and it will become 2nd nature

sally

[tracy_j]

I would agree there Sally

I find most women very attractive but on getting to know them I find I like to talk about things like hair, clothes, shopping and children etc. This seems to take the edge off things so I find that I have gained a friend for cheerful chat but the sexual angle has gone.

Things in this way are obviously very frustrating sexually but it is nice to have girlfriends. I find this one of the strange things about being very feminine in thought.

Tracy x