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By VickySGV · Posted
Best of luck with all good fortune for the healing of those feelings. -
By VickySGV · Posted
Eighteen years is not nearly long enough if your reputation has been damaged to the extent that you will absolutely never get employment of ANY SORT and your potential work life is 30 years. Even people in Trades work do not want to hire you at the lowest sweeper levels. You cannot work in some fields where you are professionally licensed (and you lose the licenses as well) because you work with actual minors. We are not told what the person's "Day Job" really was in this case but Drag performance is NOT a job any time to get rich on unless you get a full fledged entertainment contract like RuPaul. My friends here that do Family rated Drag performance cannot live on it and have other highly responsible jobs in other parts of the entertainment industry or some other fields To come up with that figure, actual proof of loss must be given to the jury and they must accept it if it meets the Preponderance Of The Evidence rule for Common Law levels. $51K per year would be the salary of a Teacher or even Licensed Vocational Nurses neither of which could be filled by a person required to registered as a child molester or abuser as this was. The $250K punitive damages were the lesser of the awards so this overall verdict was based on sworn and verified evidence of the amount of actual damage. My 40 year career was in the legal system where I had to know courts and the law system including slander and libel. -
By EasyE · Posted
Gender rarely enters my dreams. I dream a lot about traveling and being on a journey somewhere. Recently, I did dream that I was out in public wearing one of my female sleepwear items. I remember thinking I had better get inside before someone saw me. -
By KayC · Posted
Hi @NoEli6 - Thank you for sharing your story and concerns over your feelings. I cannot give you statistics or even a valued opinion on the difference in MtF and FtM experiences and who faces the most challenges - But from my own life experience and my personal unique Trans journey I can say this - I think we ALL as humans bring our own baggage and unique challenges with us ... and the vast majority of that has nothing to do with our Transgender identity. Everybody ... Every Body ... will face their own unique obstacles and fears, but also their own unique victories and growth. This is what Life is ... and what is most noble is when we can live as our true authentic selves and celebrate and support others in the same way. So ... I hope you can let go of your concerns, embrace others with their own peculiar (and sometimes harmful) faults. Live your Life as you are. And please stay with us and share your experiences with others. This is what we call Community. -
By KayC · Posted
Happy Pride everyone!! (my first year to be able to openly participate) -
By KayC · Posted
Great statement of support!! Thank you @Carolyn Mariefor sharing. -
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By MaeBe · Posted
Thank you for sharing your story with us, Kay! It’s not nonsense of which you write! I am glad to hear your family is with you. It truly is wonderful having support at home. 💜Mae -
By MaeBe · Posted
Dreams, the latest battleground of dysphoria. My dreams have been a battlefield between my socialized gender and the gender I’m living. I feel like I should personify myself in dreams as feminine, however I find I’m “male” is many. It’s been difficult waking up when I remember the dream, as if the dream is telling me I am male and I am lying to myself. In these dreams, I do tend to have gender struggles, though; a recent dream had me choosing between gendered bathrooms, being “forced” into the men’s room by the women’s being opened from the inside by a woman and “scaring” me off. I felt wrong going into the men’s room, same as I do in waking hours, and it adds to my stress that I don’t seem to honor myself in my dreams. How do you dream? Do you embody your lived gender or your socialized one? -
By Kay3Seven · Posted
Hello! I'm Kay. And, I'm no good at introducing myself. Far too indecisive to be simple or easy. So I figure if I put it all out here, transparent and honest with y'all and myself, maybe I can make some real connection, maybe some life long... dare I say... friends!... anyhooo. The "quick" overview of my life: I'm 38, was born in 87 in Idaho where I still live(sigh) A happy little boy, I ran and jumped and played in the dirt. I was exactly what most imagine when they think of happy little boy, but only on the outside. By first grade I knew I was different. I got along with the girls better, and had lost most interest in boy dominated things. I was raised with 1 older and 1 younger sister. We played dress up, and with barbies, and I was happy. I still had lots of boy qualities tho, loved getting dirty and climbing things etc. So, nobody saw that I was different. By third grade I knew that I wasn't supposed to be in this body. I started a new school, lost my couple friends, couldn't explain to anyone why I was sad, and mad and I started acting out. I got into trouble nearly daily. I was diagnosed ADHD, and stuffed full of meds. It just made things worse. I remember feeling like I could tell anyone anything that I felt inside. So I acted out more, getting into fights, skipping school to just wander around town alone. Then the summer between 3rd-4th grade came.. that summer was spent with my dad and step mom, and step siblings. That summer I was molested by my older step brother, he also molested my sisters and a couple neighbor kids. It messed me up in ways I didn't understand until I was much older. I was scared, but finally told my mom just before Christmas that same year. Then it all unfolded, life was never the same. But not in the way you might think. My step brother went away, and all of the kids including myself went into therapy. For years. (Now, the part I didn't understand for a long time) I knew that what happened was wrong, and I was not to blame. But, I also never felt like I was damaged from it. It was a thing that happened, but I moved on very quickly. I did not want to be in therapy, so I refused to cooperate for years. I went thru a handful of counselors and therapists. I tried to open up once, about wanting to be a female. They said "it must be a way to cope with a male taking advantage of me" and "you don't want to be a girl, your confused"... it really put me behind mentally having an adult tell me that I didn't know how I wanted to present externally. It was the first person I told anything to, really made me shut down. I didn't get a passing grade in any class since that day. I kept my secret, and lashed out at the world. My poor mom, I drug her thru the mud for years. She's the most amazing person, I wish I would have known that she would love me no matter what. But... I didn't. I got into fights, out past curfew, and ended up on probation, even did some time in juvenile detention. It wasn't all a bad childhood tho. My mom loved us kids, we grew up poor, but loved. *Details you'll need later: I spent a lot of time cross dressing from about fourth grade on. Even more confusing, once I discovered my sexuality by myself, I knew I was very primarily attracted to women, but also learned that I very much enjoy an*l play... very confusing set of circumstances at a young age.. Back to it now. Once seventh grade came around my older sister came out as bi-sexual. She was in ninth grade, and she was my hero. And it nearly gave me the strength to talk to my mom about myself. But before I could I overheard a conversation between my dad and stepmom, tearing my mom down, saying that my sister would be "normal" if she had a better mom... it hurt my soul so much watching her get bullied, losing friends, and being the odd one out. I went deeeep back into my hole. I didn't come out of that hole for 22 years. I dropped out of school the day I turned 16, and went to work. I found lifelong friends in the automotive racing community, I forced myself to be an alpha male type. It was the hardest years of my life. But at least I wasn't alone. I'm still great friends with a couple of them to this day. Years after high school, and probation and all the woes of youth I found myself to be very lost in life. I had just gone thru a major heartbreak, I was 22 and spiraling into a dark place. My best friend talked me into moving across state to go to college with him, and so off we went. I would call boise Idaho huge, but it was big to me. That's where I met my now wife of ten years. She's amazing. We have a nearly nine year old daughter, finally this year bought a home. She has a great career, I'm still not super set on a career, but have always had a good paying job. (I think I might go to back to school, shhhh, let's keep it between us as to not jynx it...., hopefully I find a job I can love instead first.) My loving wife is the reason I was finally able to come out, to process my hectic life, to start transitioning, and to be myself for once. I had a coming apart a couple years back, I was horrified that I would lose her, lose my daughter, my close family and my friends. I was so wrong. Apparently she's always known something was off. She had some mild worries that I might be interested in men from the way I carry myself, my interest in more femme things. She was relieved when I finally told her, she had been living with the fear that I was going to leave her someday for a lifestyle that better fit me. She was scared to lose her best friend. I'm now happy to say, my wife and daughter, mom and 3 sisters, and my closest friends are all in the loop. And they all support my changes. I'm very lucky, dare I say blessed... lol. I'm still not out publicly, if your from idaho you might understand. It's very hard to be different here. But I'm coming up on 8 months on hrt, have had 6 laser sessions on my face, still working on my weight, I'm a chunker(sugary things are my weakness lol.. and I've been slowly over the last couple years wearing things I love. I paint my nails, I wear mascara, I'm not really hiding things from the world. But also not pushing it into the light. Wow... I can go on like this forever! If you've made it here, thank you for sticking with me! It feels good to be able to put all of my nonsense somewhere. xoxo, Kay -
By Mikayla2024 · Posted
thank you !! 😊 thank you girly! I was at Walmart today and my head shifted towards the women’s clothing while carting (not Mario Karting - just to be clear) by it. I felt all kinds of euphoria. See, I would buy online but I don’t really know my size(s) off the bat yet or what fits me, but I want to start presenting as feminine at home and socially asap. Going out in androgynous clothing even though it’s mostly lulu is causing gender dysphoric symptoms to flare a bit. Once I figure out my size(s) I do plan to shop online, SHEIN being one of those places as my wife is also addicted. I heard jersey and I assume you’re a sports fan!! But, I can SO imagine your walk-in closet 😍😍😍 -
By awkward-yet-sweet · Posted
I think trans women have more visibility simply because there are more of them. Note the numbers on this forum...way more folks are MtF than FtM, it seems, and the FtM subforum is less busy than other areas. I have some guesses about why that might be in society, but its not very relevant. Being a minority of a minority of a minority is just part of our experience. Not good or bad, it just is. But yeah, you don't have to be MtF to experience crime. I was assaulted and injured back in 2022. My attacker didn't know about me being FtM/intersex, but clearly identified me as being under the LGBTQ+ umbrella. It was reason enough, I guess. Since then, it is really rare for me to leave home by myself for any reason. Not that my problems are any worse than anybody else's.... quite the contrary, as I suspect I probably have it easier due to my family situation. Just a personal example that crap happens and none of us are totally shielded. -
By MaryEllen · Posted
Rule # 4 of the community rules 4 Be supportive of all members. Implying that a particular member's problems are less pressing or valid than those of others is not allowed. Likewise, invalidating the experiences of another member or suggesting they're overreacting to their situation or faking a crisis is forbidden. If you feel unable to respond supportively to what a member is discussing, choose instead not to respond at all. -
By Nonexistent · Posted
That's interesting, I didn't know that. I do need to work on this with my therapist. I have so much self-hatred/embarrassment, and a lot of it relates to being trans. Thanks.
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