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Quitting Nicotine For Good (again).


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No No don't feel ugly;y. You didn't start yesterday and it takes more than one attempt.

We are with you kitten. Ahhhh that's better I can hear you purrrring. By the way Lent starts Wed. the day after Mardi Gras.

Where are you Liz?

Anyway keep posting and keep this thread alive....... B) Mia.

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No No don't feel ugly;y. You didn't start yesterday and it takes more than one attempt.

We are with you kitten. Ahhhh that's better I can hear you purrrring. By the way Lent starts Wed. the day after Mardi Gras.

Where are you Liz?

Anyway keep posting and keep this thread alive....... B) Mia.

Yea, i don't even feel gross anymore (well actually i do, but only cuz of smoking again. lol). It was the silliest excuse, but i'm gonna say Tuesday at midnight i'll stop. Like FOREVER. Gods, will it work this time? It had better!!! :o
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Guest April63

Just stop smoking! Please! You gave in once, but keep going. Don't let a few mistakes stop you from fulfilling your quest. You really need to do this since smoking is a horrible habit that will get you nowhere.

April

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$#@@. Ok, it was nice short run...but i just had a really bad trigger hit me. I did some yoga practice, god it felt great, then decided to go for a walk and breathe the clean air of 2 days with minimal nicotine intake (like less than 2 smokes). I took my electric razor, and felt so gross that i had to shave, so gross that i had hairs growing out of my face and neck that i had to go find a butt. I need to buy a pack now... :( when does Lent start? It's going to be my next attempt. Noo, i'm not giving up on this thread, but i just feel so ugly right now i can't help it.

That's how it goes.. don't panic.

I managed the whole day today.. the bacon shop doesn't sell smokes. Next time that happens instead of smokes why not buy a nice body spray or something? Last time I was in that "self hate need a smoke" cycle I bought a really nice scarf with the same money I had for a pack.. and I felt good after. It's about redirecting the urges.. finding something else that rewards the pleasure centres.

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Britany,

The most important thing to remember is that none of us or mad at you.

We are sorry that you are having such a hard time, but do not get mad at yourself and feel that you have failed.

Nicotine is one of the most addictivr drugs on the planet, it is eight in the same league as heroine in that aspect.

Failure in the first attempts to quit is not a complete failure, it is only the first steps.

We are all here for you and want to help you quit, everyone wants to see you healthy.

You had mentioned before that you weren't going to dip into your transition money - did you know that some doctors will not perform SRS on patients who smoke - they have to quit at least 2 weeks prior to surgery - it causes slower healing and can leasd to complications.

How's that for incentive?

Love ya,

Sally

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Britany,

The most important thing to remember is that none of us or mad at you.

We are sorry that you are having such a hard time, but do not get mad at yourself and feel that you have failed.

Nicotine is one of the most addictivr drugs on the planet, it is eight in the same league as heroine in that aspect.

Failure in the first attempts to quit is not a complete failure, it is only the first steps.

We are all here for you and want to help you quit, everyone wants to see you healthy.

You had mentioned before that you weren't going to dip into your transition money - did you know that some doctors will not perform SRS on patients who smoke - they have to quit at least 2 weeks prior to surgery - it causes slower healing and can leasd to complications.

How's that for incentive?

Love ya,

Sally

Well I've only had like 2 from the pack i bought today, put the rest away, and am trying deep breathing exercises every hour...so far been working for like 3 hours, but yikes,i can't believe i got more in the first place. i really don't wanna have to wait until wednesday to give an honest attempt again.

(and so continues my count by count struggle to stop this #$@%!!!)

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Guest Kelly Ann

aaaawwww Brit...you've done soooo well. Why let a fine thing waste to the past? The future is IN FRONT...the past is waaay back there. It's really nice not having to care about a lighter...I just keep a magnifying glass handy for fire...then again I suppose I might use my glasses B):P Oh Oh...it's the twin follies...gotta go :blush:

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Guest Elizabeth K

Hey girls and guys - MARDI GRAS! Sorry - not much posting - outta town this weekend = Lenten season starts Ash Wednesday which is in two days. It ends at Easter.

Oh - yes

GREAT GREAT GREAT

You can do it You can do it You can do it You can do it You can do it

NO CIGARETTES - wow

YEAAAAAAAAAAA

Lizzy

I am giving up white food totally (not going on soul food - duh) no potatos, no rice, no bread, no mayonaise - and most importantly - no SUGAR!

{My wife tole everyone I was giving up jokes for Lent - ha, she wishes...}

Lizzy

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You can do it, a lot of people substitute something for a cigarette so when they have the 'urge' they automatically do the other thing until the urges diminish.

You must be careful what you choose, so many choose food and turn into blimps (I never had that excuse, I never smoked, just ate).

Find someting that you like (and can do in the middle of the night) and each time you want a coffin nail (Term from the thirties) do the other thing until you never reach for the cigarette first - then guess what - you've won.

Now I can't do this for you, you have to figure out waht to do, but I'll go with you and when I want to go to the kitchen for a snack I'll do something differnt and lose a little weight while you quit smoking.

Love ya,

Sally

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You can do it, a lot of people substitute something for a cigarette so when they have the 'urge' they automatically do the other thing until the urges diminish.

You must be careful what you choose, so many choose food and turn into blimps (I never had that excuse, I never smoked, just ate).

Find someting that you like (and can do in the middle of the night) and each time you want a coffin nail (Term from the thirties) do the other thing until you never reach for the cigarette first - then guess what - you've won.

Now I can't do this for you, you have to figure out waht to do, but I'll go with you and when I want to go to the kitchen for a snack I'll do something differnt and lose a little weight while you quit smoking.

Love ya,

Sally

Hehe. Ok, its a deal! I tossed my nearly full pack in the garbage this morning around 8:30 a.m. It was only like 1/3 empty, but i had this really cool dream that said something like DO IT! Well actually it was more like a shopping center, and i was a cat and had to jump really far out the window cuz the steel doors were all locking. anyways, the dream had to do with my quitting nicotine, i just know it :lol:
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Hehe. Ok, its a deal! I tossed my nearly full pack in the garbage this morning around 8:30 a.m. It was only like 1/3 empty, but i had this really cool dream that said something like DO IT! Well actually it was more like a shopping center, and i was a cat and had to jump really far out the window cuz the steel doors were all locking. anyways, the dream had to do with my quitting nicotine, i just know it :lol:

Good for you!

I am here for you, and we all want you to make it this time.

I'll be in and out during the day, but if you feel the need, just send me a really long PM about anything until the urge passes.

I've emptied my mail box so you've got space, I'll respond as soon as I get back - you're going to make it this time, Kitten or in view of the dream should I say Cat?

Love ya,

Sally

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Years and years ago a lecturer at college told me how his boss in the 1950's gave up smoking.. He saw an advert in a local paper along the lines of

"Give up smoking.. guaranteed new method.. send £10 for details and kit to xxxxxxx "

So he duly posted off his £10 and a few days later his "kit" arrived.. a postcard with the words written on it "don't buy any more"

He was so annoyed at being ripped off that he didn't buy any until he had got his £10 back.. which was in those days about 4 months.. by the time he had his money back he didn't feel so bad about being conned.. because the method had really worked, he was now a non smoker.

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Years and years ago a lecturer at college told me how his boss in the 1950's gave up smoking.. He saw an advert in a local paper along the lines of

"Give up smoking.. guaranteed new method.. send £10 for details and kit to xxxxxxx "

So he duly posted off his £10 and a few days later his "kit" arrived.. a postcard with the words written on it "don't buy any more"

He was so annoyed at being ripped off that he didn't buy any until he had got his £10 back.. which was in those days about 4 months.. by the time he had his money back he didn't feel so bad about being conned.. because the method had really worked, he was now a non smoker.

WOW. that's so cool. hehe. I wonder what you could buy with that much money back then? Must have been a lot.

(Meanwhile, I'm past 12 hours again, and twiddling a lot of baby carrots)

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WOW. that's so cool. hehe. I wonder what you could buy with that much money back then? Must have been a lot.

(Meanwhile, I'm past 12 hours again, and twiddling a lot of baby carrots)

I made 24+ hours, but then had a really bad dream...like really bad.
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I made 24+ hours, but then had a really bad dream...like really bad.

Exactly how bad, Britany?

Did you get some more cigarettes?

Sally

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Guest Elizabeth K

Pauline - Mardi Gras is today. Lenten Season starts tomorrow. You are WAY AHEAD - grin. Good practice - so really, you gotta fresh start at midnight tonight!

YEAAAAAA

Lizzy

GO GO GO

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Guest Donna Jean
Good job on reaching 24! Keep going, 72 is getting closer!

April

April is right, Honey....closer...closer.......

I'm sending energy to you......!

Huggs!

Donna Jean

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Guest Kelly Ann

Here's a mouthful of ICEBLUE mint chicklets...much these...argh...don't swallow 'em. Are you OK? Think of smelling the breeze from off the water...it's high, not low tide...and feel the sun on your face. Somewhere, who knows how far away, somebody is making lasagne...mmmmm...you'd never smell it with a snoot full of nicotine encrusted nostrels. Just stay away from the chocolates. I have heard that there is a clinic that uses stun guns to stop smoking...it's stuffed in the cigarette pack so when you reach in YIKES!!!! It does seem a trifle extreem...I'm pulling for you girl, it won't get easier either...LOL...put your knees together and JUST SAY NO!!! LOL, You can do it...It's been since before Thanksgiving for me...still...and yep sometimes I would LIKE to light up...but I won't because I can't. Pulling for you all the way...Kelly Ann

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Here's a mouthful of ICEBLUE mint chicklets...much these...argh...don't swallow 'em. Are you OK? Think of smelling the breeze from off the water...it's high, not low tide...and feel the sun on your face. Somewhere, who knows how far away, somebody is making lasagne...mmmmm...you'd never smell it with a snoot full of nicotine encrusted nostrels. Just stay away from the chocolates. I have heard that there is a clinic that uses stun guns to stop smoking...it's stuffed in the cigarette pack so when you reach in YIKES!!!! It does seem a trifle extreem...I'm pulling for you girl, it won't get easier either...LOL...put your knees together and JUST SAY NO!!! LOL, You can do it...It's been since before Thanksgiving for me...still...and yep sometimes I would LIKE to light up...but I won't because I can't. Pulling for you all the way...Kelly Ann
I won't even like bother explaining myself this time. LOL. Let's just say i made 12+ hours yesterday since 7:30 a.m (my groggy and nicotine withdrawing mind had somehow convinced me Lent started at sunrise!!!), then i broke and had another just before midnight, and now am almost back to 12 hours again? like whyyyy is this like soo difficult!!! 2 smokes all yesterday, like 1/3 pack the day before (and rest tossed out), 1 smoke the day before, 1/3 pack the day before(and rest tossed out)?? Make this cycle stop i'm telling myself. If i can get to 24 hours today, i can go to sleep and wake up with almost 36 hours free. That's my goal right now. lol. But at least i'm not technically wasting money, as the 2 packs i've so far garbaged since starting this thread i would have smoked in the amount of time i stayed off nicotine for. So that's some comfort at least...
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Oh Honey,

This is one of the hardest things to do in life, I just know that I would never be able to quit, si I decided to never start.

That system works pretty well. :D

If you can't make it cold turkey, have you loked into patches - Patches? Patches? we don't need no stinking patches!

Maybe today will be the day, I hope so.

Just hang on, Sweetie,

Sally

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Oh Honey,

This is one of the hardest things to do in life, I just know that I would never be able to quit, si I decided to never start.

That system works pretty well. :D

If you can't make it cold turkey, have you loked into patches - Patches? Patches? we don't need no stinking patches!

Maybe today will be the day, I hope so.

Just hang on, Sweetie,

Sally

I hate stupid patches!!! Like yea, i'm like supposed to be quitting nicotine, and still am USING nicotine with those things. hehe. but might be the only way. I tried them before, but wasn't really this dedicated to quit, and so they didn't work as well maybe? idk. :P
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Just don't do it the way that 'Bill McNeal' (Phil Hartman) did it on "News Radio", He was trying to quit smoking and he collapsed and when they opened his shirt he was wearing 20 patches and he had sneaked a cigarette!

No smoking while wearing a patch and wear only one at a time - it doesn't make you quit any faster.

Love ya,

Sally

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The good news is you're trying. The mo' betta' good news even though you keep falling off the b us, you get back on.

Heard that their is an oral medicine prescribed through Dr's. that helps dramatically with cravings.

Also a friend of mine actually two went to a hypnotist both swore he was ineffective, but both quit......and for good I'm talking ten and twenty years....Yes I'm that old Mia :P

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