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Okay, my friends always point this out whenever we go to eat or anything (which we do a lot, haha!! Taco Bell is just cheap enough for us juniors.)

Well, whenever I drink something- like pick up a glass, my pinky is always out, as if I went to like...manner-learning-school...>_><_<... or something.

Other guys do that, too, right?

I've been questioning my...'maleness', I guess you could say, lately.

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Guest Little Sara

Maleness is not contingent and/or dependant on masculinity.

Drag queens are considered men, and male, so yeah, I wouldn't worry about a pinky. I guess if you're still worried you could retrain yourself not to do that.

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I live in the mountains in the U.S. west. The fabric of choice is fleece. With cold weather and runny noses it is so easy to ahem clear it off with your fleece sleeve.

I do it and every time I do I think is this the way "girls" would do it.

Yes it is. Next time check it out.... :P

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Guest CharlieRose

Yeah, it's funny how you sort of lose permission to do some things. Like, guys can still do it, but... it's weird.

Like I picked up my cross-stitching again. I love it so! It's like painting by numbers and satisfying to me, even though it is painfully slow for other people. But I like it; I find it fun.

But I can't take it to college. I just can't.

"Dude, you sew? Why?"

"Because I was raised as a girl and my mom taught me!"

":huh:"

It would just be awkward. It'll be one of those things I tell people when they get to know me better. (Ha ha ha, "I have something personal to tell you.... I... I sew. Oh, and I have a vagina." :P)

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Yeah, it's funny how you sort of lose permission to do some things. Like, guys can still do it, but... it's weird.

Like I picked up my cross-stitching again. I love it so! It's like painting by numbers and satisfying to me, even though it is painfully slow for other people. But I like it; I find it fun.

But I can't take it to college. I just can't.

"Dude, you sew? Why?"

"Because I was raised as a girl and my mom taught me!"

":huh:"

It would just be awkward. It'll be one of those things I tell people when they get to know me better. (Ha ha ha, "I have something personal to tell you.... I... I sew. Oh, and I have a vagina." :P)

My boyfriend knits. :P Quite openly too. He use to sit for hours just knitting.

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I'm in colorguard.

Not the most manly sport, but beware insulting the guy with the six foot metal stick. Never mind the pretty silk on it. =D

Plus I can toss a quad on my rifle. I'm just SO sexy. ~_^

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Well, I learned to sew, knit and cross stitch while I was presenting male and I never had any body question it. He was much older but there was a huge football player, a Defensive Lineman for the Los Angeles Rams named Roosevelt Greer, he crocheted and no one ever said a word to him about it.

Do what you enjoy, now I wouldn't suggest walking around with a full hip sway, that could get you noticed.

Love ya,

Sally

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Okay, my friends always point this out whenever we go to eat or anything (which we do a lot, haha!! Taco Bell is just cheap enough for us juniors.)

Well, whenever I drink something- like pick up a glass, my pinky is always out, as if I went to like...manner-learning-school...>_><_<... or something.

Other guys do that, too, right?

I've been questioning my...'maleness', I guess you could say, lately.

Mannerisms are learned.

The pinky thing was learned. Either by you being taught conciously or by subliminal self-teaching while "trying to be a girl". If you can learn one set of mannerisms you are free to learn the other if you like.

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Guest KageBoy171
Yeah, it's funny how you sort of lose permission to do some things. Like, guys can still do it, but... it's weird.

Like I picked up my cross-stitching again. I love it so! It's like painting by numbers and satisfying to me, even though it is painfully slow for other people. But I like it; I find it fun.

But I can't take it to college. I just can't.

"Dude, you sew? Why?"

"Because I was raised as a girl and my mom taught me!"

":huh:"

It would just be awkward. It'll be one of those things I tell people when they get to know me better. (Ha ha ha, "I have something personal to tell you.... I... I sew. Oh, and I have a vagina." :P)

Haha! Well, I did cross stitching or something when I was like...ten but it was too dang tedious so I gave up on that. My art skills changed to photography in the last two years. XD

Yup I love knitting :3 It keeps my hands busy when I'm not cooking or doing the dishes!

Dishes are the devil! I hate doing them, unless I am somehow in the mood to make my place not look like a pig lives in it. : D

I prefer taking out the trash, or vacuuming.

I'll retrain myself, then. It's even worse cause I have very feminine hands. I get so lazy that my nails grow longer than normal, and I walk around so much that I feel I would use them for combat if I get jumped. haha.

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Dishes are the devil! I hate doing them, unless I am somehow in the mood to make my place not look like a pig lives in it. : D

I prefer taking out the trash, or vacuuming.

<--cofesses to having packed the dishes in a box and only uses disposable so he wont have to wash them. shhh

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Guest April63

Dang, Evan. Lazy time, huh?

I don't think the pinky thing really matters. I never really did it, but I don't think I would notice anything unusual if I saw another guy do it.

April

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Since this topic is going round and round let me add another "non girly thing" that I've sen time and time again that natal woman do. When they are on their bikes and racing they use the old farmers thumb and nostril to clear out the gunk in their noses just like the guys.

Stereotypes are dying off. Look at the women with their sleeved tattoos, and I remember the day back in the early 90's when I saw a woman with a single tattoo on her leg and I was shocked, shocked I tell you.

So let's not be too conscious of the gender habits and forget Miss Manners. lol Mia. :P

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I live in the mountains in the U.S. west. The fabric of choice is fleece. With cold weather and runny noses it is so easy to ahem clear it off with your fleece sleeve.

I do it and every time I do I think is this the way "girls" would do it.

Yes it is. Next time check it out.... :P

I didn't think girls even did that! I try not to do that in front of girls because I feel like they'd probably think I'm way disgusting lol.

I'm not in the actual mountains though so I haven't had the need to do that much lately :P

About the pinky thing...I don't know, I don't think I do that. Yet another of my behaviors to analyze...

Is there a reason you do it, or is it not something you'd ever been conscious of?

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Guest KageBoy171
About the pinky thing...I don't know, I don't think I do that. Yet another of my behaviors to analyze...

Is there a reason you do it, or is it not something you'd ever been conscious of?

Honestly, I never noticed it until my friend Sarah mentioned it.

I was like "Huh?" and looked down at my hands and my pinky was out. I was like "Craaap. >_<" But I'm trying to train myself not to do it anymore. It's just embarrassing. I was got a hot emo boy today. XD

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Guest Aleckzandre

Don't worry, I do the pinky thing too, but I'm a theatre geek and I always assumed it was a subconsious dramatic thing. Probably doesn't help, but yeah, I do that too.

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