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Guest Itzika

Top Surgery  

30 members have voted

  1. 1. How many of you, identifying as androgyne, want top surgery?

    • Want top surgery
      21
    • Doesn't want it
      9


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Guest Itzika

Aagh. Tough question. Tougher than it should be...

Nine days out of ten, I want top surgery. I don't have any use for my breasts, they don't make me look any better or feel any better, and I have no intention of ever having kids. I prefer being flat-chested--I feel like I look better, I feel better in general, and I just like presenting that way. But that tenth day, I wouldn't give up my curves for the world. Even when I wish I had a guy's equipment and not a girl's, well, I'm never going to really have a guy's working equipment and I'd want to shoot myself (non-fatally) on that tenth day if I did have top surgery. Right now, I want to be flat-chested, but I want to keep my curves... I want a binder right now. (Mom is very sad because she thinks I'm so pretty--and so do I; I just don't want to look pretty like that all the time--and she's so sad that I want to change my appearance and I'm not happy with my body as it is.) So I checked "Want it", even though in the long run, I'm happier keeping a full figure on one side and changing it day-by-day. ... I'm strange like that.

~Rey

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  • 3 weeks later...

Yes, I want top surgery.

Even though I'm lucky to have a very small chest, it feels alien to me.

It also looks funny as I've built more muscles: I'm starting to look like a guy with a small chest.

I'll be much more of myself without chest. And the thought that someone'd see my chest kind of

guess it through the clothes and think I'm female is horrifying.... I want to build nice male chest/

chest muscles/pecs, which I'm working on, and I hope to have a surgery only after I've built impressive

chest muscles: in case the surgery interferes with the exercises somehow, like if there're complications or

poor healing.

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Guest Deeedoo

I used to really want it...sometimes I considered doing it myself. Now, I still don't really like them and think they're a nusiance, but I sometimes still want to have them. I want to somehow be able to get rid of them or conceal them sometimes and let them exist other times.

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Guest Sable Dove

I suppose I'm the first male-bodied to reply, so I suppose my answers are inverse. I wouldn't get top surgery, as it would entail me gaining breasts, which I have no real care for, to be honest. I'd go for whatever developed on their own, but I have no desire to help along in that particular department.

Of course, if this is only about reduction surgery, just ignore me. =|;3

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Guest androgynous
I suppose I'm the first male-bodied to reply, so I suppose my answers are inverse. I wouldn't get top surgery, as it would entail me gaining breasts, which I have no real care for, to be honest. I'd go for whatever developed on their own, but I have no desire to help along in that particular department.

Of course, if this is only about reduction surgery, just ignore me. =|;3

Bio-Male here too.

Well I had a dream once where I had breasts :lol: But it all seems to permanent, I don't want that either. I swing way to much in my gender-moods that I won't go for that. Changing your body is certainly permanent, and moreover most people will still treat you like one or the other, because it's hard to other people to treat you as "both" gender. I think that's important to realize, because the threat of doing this for the acceptance of others isn't the way to go I guess. So dig deep and think it over more than one time I'd say.

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im FTM

and i want top surgery for many reason

one im big chested, causes me bad back etc

two i want a male chest and always have done, having breast dont look right

three i want society to see me as a male not female

and four i have no use for them, i deffo wont be breast feeding or anything

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Guest Irielle

I would love to have breasts and dream of implants some day. Having said that, I don't think it would work for me. There are times when I want to present as totally male and breasts would prevent that. I'm stuck but I can dream. :banghead:

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Guest ollie13

Every single day I look at my breasts and feel like they should'nt be there.

They have always felt totally alien to me!

I hate everything about them.

I've always thought about top-surgery, but am not sure if I could go through with it.

I bind everyday and do a pretty good job with that ( I have quite small breasts...)

On me, boobs are bleugh.

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Guest androgynous
I'm doing it to feel more comfortable in my own body.

And furthermore. Theres no need for anything to be 'thought over'. I know what I want, and I've wanted it since forever.

/Shaney

Well, this is the androgyne forum right? I don't understand why this topic is being posted in this section in the first place., since in my opinion it has little to do with androgyny. :huh:

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Guest Ryles_D
Well, this is the androgyne forum right? I don't understand why this topic is being posted in this section in the first place., since in my opinion it has little to do with androgyny. :huh:

Asking what surgery non-binaries want/need in terms of surgery has little to do with non-binaries? I realize this is the androgyne forum, but we don't have a general non-binary forum, so this'll have to do, and I doubt anyone would say that other non-binaries aren't allowed here.

I want top surgery, I also want genital nullification and someone to break and reset my pelvis so I don't have that curve. The first will happen, the second might not but I'm going to try, the third is impossible and is more of a pipe dream than anything. The reason I want this is because I'm a neutrois, and I feel just as dysphoria as a MtF or FtM would, but I don't want the same results. I want to have a neutrois body. I may have to pass as "Ma'a- sir... er... Ma'am?" or aiming for a 50/50 split of "he"s and "she"s, but that doesn't mean my body can't be what I want it to be. And what I want has a great deal to do with my gender identity.

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Guest adamblue

Welp.

I didn't vote because the answer is: I'm not sure!

:rolleyes:

But, if i could wave a magic wand, my chest would be very small and less of an "issue".

lol

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Guest Cazz333
I would love to have breasts and dream of implants some day. Having said that, I don't think it would work for me. There are times when I want to present as totally male and breasts would prevent that. I'm stuck but I can dream. :banghead:

You colud have size A breasts which are small as a female and you can bind them to be male.

I like my breasts and my body in general except that I need more muscle and fitness. It's more how I feel in terms of gender than wanting a more male/ androgynous body. If I could have both sets of equipment working properly than I'd take the chance. Still, it's probably not going to happen so, I'll stick with what I got. Besides I may want children someday.

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Guest Valentine

This is an interesting question, and one that isn't easy to answer.

While I wouldn't go out and pay for it, even if I had the money, I would accept it if someone were offering. (Small ones, adding a cup size or so.)

The same goes for bottom surgery, although I would accept that no questions asked, at least the removal part.

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Guest Javey

I'm thinking i want top surgery. It seems to me, It's easier to fake having boobs then to fake not having them. I'd rather stuff a bra then push em' down all the time. But still, i kinda feel the same way you do. I switch around a lot. But I'm preeettty sure i want it.

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Guest maplepower

I definitely want top surgery. When I was 4 years old one of our neighbours got breast cancer and had both of her breasts removed. I responded "If I ever get breasts, I'm going to cut them off too!" (I also ate everyone's crusts because someone said it would put hair on your chest.) Anyway, I have never accepted these masses on my chest. And there is no God... I'm a freakin' Double D! I am actually afraid to go outside now that it is warmer. In the winter I can hide under coats and baggy sweatshirts, but summer is my season of shame and fear.

Unhappy Androgyne

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Guest Ryles_D
I definitely want top surgery. When I was 4 years old one of our neighbours got breast cancer and had both of her breasts removed. I responded "If I ever get breasts, I'm going to cut them off too!" (I also ate everyone's crusts because someone said it would put hair on your chest.) Anyway, I have never accepted these masses on my chest. And there is no God... I'm a freakin' Double D! I am actually afraid to go outside now that it is warmer. In the winter I can hide under coats and baggy sweatshirts, but summer is my season of shame and fear.

Unhappy Androgyne

But crusts make your hair curl, not put it on your chest! D: (I would not touch crusts for years because my hair was curly enough already. :D)

I know, God's really not fair sometimes. I started exercising... nad I went from a C to a D cup. >_< Not faaaaaaiiiiiiir!

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Guest maplepower
But crusts make your hair curl, not put it on your chest! D: (I would not touch crusts for years because my hair was curly enough already. :D)

I know, God's really not fair sometimes. I started exercising... nad I went from a C to a D cup. >_< Not faaaaaaiiiiiiir!

Oh Crap! But I was right about the spinach making my muscles grow, right? (And I ended up with curly hair so you were right.)

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Guest Casey7890

Yes, I definitely want top surgery. I hate my breasts, they feel wrong and look wrong, they are not supposed to be on my body.

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Guest conna

i dont want them completely gone becuase i plan to have kids some day but i would like them dramaticly smaller, like AA instead of CC/B yeah im lopsided. lol.

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Guest Ryles_D
i dont want them completely gone becuase i plan to have kids some day but i would like them dramaticly smaller, like AA instead of CC/B yeah im lopsided. lol.

I'm guessing you'd want to breast feed? Is it for the bonding or the nutritional/immunal/etc benefits? If you plan on having a male-bodied partner, this is something to consider- but many men can breast feed. They don't magically start lactating, but after a few weeks of an infant suckling on them, they'll generally start- you could try getting a breast pump a few months before your due date and using that to simulate the suckling. Most people suggest starting with 5-15 minute sessions 3 times a day, and increasing it to 15 minute sessions every 4 hours as the due date gets closer to increase the supply. Also, you can get human breast milk. It's not as good as you/your partner's, but it is an option.

I suggest this because I'm pretty sure that any form of breast surgery around there carries a risk that you'd lose the ability to lactate. You should ask your surgeon just to be safe, and you could ask that they try and preserve it as best as you can.

My partner and I plan on having kids, but I couldn't survive keeping my breasts until then- which is how I found out that men could lactate.

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Guest conna
I'm guessing you'd want to breast feed? Is it for the bonding or the nutritional/immunal/etc benefits? If you plan on having a male-bodied partner, this is something to consider- but many men can breast feed. They don't magically start lactating, but after a few weeks of an infant suckling on them, they'll generally start- you could try getting a breast pump a few months before your due date and using that to simulate the suckling. Most people suggest starting with 5-15 minute sessions 3 times a day, and increasing it to 15 minute sessions every 4 hours as the due date gets closer to increase the supply. Also, you can get human breast milk. It's not as good as you/your partner's, but it is an option.

I suggest this because I'm pretty sure that any form of breast surgery around there carries a risk that you'd lose the ability to lactate. You should ask your surgeon just to be safe, and you could ask that they try and preserve it as best as you can.

My partner and I plan on having kids, but I couldn't survive keeping my breasts until then- which is how I found out that men could lactate.

i want it for the bond

im just not gonna have the surgery

they get in the way sometimes but they are also amazing for getting what i want sometimes, i mean im only 16 but if i let my friend poke them he buys me ice cream and i love ice cream especialy with cookies in it. lol

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  • 7 years later...

For me the question was never though to answer: yes I do. I never ever liked my breasts, I never feel comfortable in it and while I love every part of my imperfect body I hate my breasts. They just feel like... they don't belong to me. They're not part of my body, they're like... I don't know how to describe it. They're just "wrong" if that might helps to explain. Since I have them I wanted them to go away. And I'll have my top surgery. It's the best decision for me. I know I know, big choice and stuff but I thought a lot about it and I'm sure it's the best for me.

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