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OK, give me a sec to set this up.

My wife holds romance parties selling adult stuff for a living. This week she held one at a local restaurant in the conference room.

Ladies only.

Why? Because women will not talk about, buy or even look at adult stuff when men are around. They don't feel as free to be honest about who they are and what they like or need.

I went full time a month ago. This past Saturday I sat in that room, at the table with everyone else - flanked by two genetics - with whom I laughed and talked about products...

And they never suspected I was a genetic male. If they had, they wouldn't have been as involved and may have left.

This was also my first trip to a women's public bathroom. (the ones at work are unisex). Two trips and no one gave me a second look. Waiting staff also used the feminine without a second thought.

I still have some work to do...I want to get the eyebrows sculpted and do something (anything!) with my hair. But it's nice to know that I was accepted as my true self.

Now the makeup tip.

If you haven't already done so, switch to the power stuff. Walgreens and other stores usually have it. It's a tad more expensive ($14 for one) but it's worth it. I use a base (I go 'nude' to match my skin tone...I'm very pale) and you have to get a translucent powder to seal it in.

Ladies, it goes on in about 3 minutes.

Throw on some eye shadow (brown on the lid with blue in the crease) and eye liner and I'm done. For work I just wear the base and sealer.

3 minutes and you're done with your makeup!

Thought you could use a tip that would give you MORE time for a change.

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Congratulations!

Don't you feel all special?

You should!

I believe the term used around here is, WOO HOO!

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest RainBird

Hi Rayne,

Congrats on becoming full time and passing!!

It feels wonderful when people can see the real you ;)

Waxing eyebrows when done properly enhances a more feminine appearence for sure!

I actually had mine done earlier today lol!

Yeah the subtle, natural looking makeup actually is often more effective than big applications to be honest.

When I apply makeup I use a little mascara, some concealer around the eyes and a brush of loose mineral powder that matches my skin tone, it actually makes quite a difference to my appearence in the sense of passing easier in public :)

Hugs!

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Guest Donna Jean

Oh, Rayne...............

That's wonderful!!! That's what we've all been trying to reach for so long and you got there! Congratulations!

I'll join the others in being happy for you and it's just one more testement to the fact that we CAN do this successfully!

BIG Hugg......

(did you buy anything nice? ;) )

Donna Jean

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Guest KristieTS

Congrats! This is something that I hope to be able to do one day. To just walk into a women's restroom and be ME and do MY thing without THEM looking at me or whispering, or even wondering "hmmmm....". I just want to go on about life living as a woman, but first things first.....

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Guest Elizabeth K

Rayne

Your posting just really helps all of us who want to do what you did! THANKS so much...

Powder - the mineral cosmetics are expensive - bit they are so great! They go on easliy and you use a brush. They seem to last forever and are more natural.

The only thing I can add is I find to 'cheat," use the lip gloss freshners instead of lipstick. They go on in a second and give color without having to look in a mirror. Only remember the color in the tube is about half as bright when applied, so a bright red will be a light cherry when on - not a bad thing.

Lizzy

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That is sooo awsome! Congrats. I would love to go full time. But for now I just get the joy of of beinging called miss at work. I work at a nurssing home and they all call me mam. I love it. But anyway congrats agin. I bet that feels so great.

Always karma

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Guest Rayne
Rayne

Your posting just really helps all of us who want to do what you did! THANKS so much...

Powder - the mineral cosmetics are expensive - bit they are so great! They go on easliy and you use a brush. They seem to last forever and are more natural.

The only thing I can add is I find to 'cheat," use the lip gloss freshners instead of lipstick. They go on in a second and give color without having to look in a mirror. Only remember the color in the tube is about half as bright when applied, so a bright red will be a light cherry when on - not a bad thing.

Lizzy

If my development helps in ANY way, I'm more than glad. I know how hard it is to go through this transition and the stigmas attached to us (ie, Rocky Horror or The Bird Cage) don't make it any easier.

But I'm changing the way people see us by changing the way they see me. I'm not what they expected as a woman...they expect a drag show at work and it was just the same old me - with a slightly bigger chest, of course.

They've come to realize that I'm still the same person and I hope that's changing some people's perceptions of us.

Yes, if feels GREAT to walk into a ladies room, do what I have to do and leave with no whispers or police officers waiting at the door. Having the female drivers license helps in that regard as it gives me confidence...but so has the attitude of, "This is who I am now, get use to it". I'm not pushy about it, but I'm not hiding either.

Rayne

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Guest ~Brenda~
OK, give me a sec to set this up.

My wife holds romance parties selling adult stuff for a living. This week she held one at a local restaurant in the conference room.

Ladies only.

Why? Because women will not talk about, buy or even look at adult stuff when men are around. They don't feel as free to be honest about who they are and what they like or need.

I went full time a month ago. This past Saturday I sat in that room, at the table with everyone else - flanked by two genetics - with whom I laughed and talked about products...

And they never suspected I was a genetic male. If they had, they wouldn't have been as involved and may have left.

This was also my first trip to a women's public bathroom. (the ones at work are unisex). Two trips and no one gave me a second look. Waiting staff also used the feminine without a second thought.

I still have some work to do...I want to get the eyebrows sculpted and do something (anything!) with my hair. But it's nice to know that I was accepted as my true self.

Now the makeup tip.

If you haven't already done so, switch to the power stuff. Walgreens and other stores usually have it. It's a tad more expensive ($14 for one) but it's worth it. I use a base (I go 'nude' to match my skin tone...I'm very pale) and you have to get a translucent powder to seal it in.

Ladies, it goes on in about 3 minutes.

Throw on some eye shadow (brown on the lid with blue in the crease) and eye liner and I'm done. For work I just wear the base and sealer.

3 minutes and you're done with your makeup!

Thought you could use a tip that would give you MORE time for a change.

Rayne,

Thank you so much for your tips! Congradulations on being truely female! Kudos!

bernie

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Guest Kelly Ann

My heart is singing because it is Rayneing upwards...again...and who'da figgered? What wonderful acknowledgement Rayne....thanks a bunch, Kelly Ann

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