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Guest sara w.

i've just written the note that im going to leave out for my mom and i wanted to screen it by all of you

Dear mom I have something to tell you but i want you not to hate me I'm really worried about

what you will think of me, please i have a hard time already, and I

could really use your support, I may be a guy on the outside but on the inside I feel like a

girl, right now I am most likely sleeping, please don't wake me up I want to give you time to

think about it, if you hate me I beg you don't tell anyone, im not yet ready to tell anyone

else, I want you to know this is hard as it is, and your support would really make me feel

much better, and if you feel that this is just a phase, I assure you it isn't and if you

hate me please don't do anything just give it time, i'm begging you please, please, right

now I need you, i have read online about this sort of thing, and alot of the children who are

like me usually go on living normal lives when they have support from their parents, and

those who are hated by their parents usually end up hating themselves and thinking that

they don't belong in the world I really want you to understand this is really hard for me.

love your daughter

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Sara that is beautiful.

What more could a parent ask for from their child. You show complete trust and love for your Mom. I'm sure it will work out.

Know that we all love you, you are a brave dear one. Mia.

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Guest Donna Jean

Oh, God...............

Sara, that's just beautiful ...it made me cry.

This is a hard but needed thing for you to do.......I send you my very best love, Sweetie....very best.

Mia is right......

What more could a parent ask for from their child. You show complete trust and love for your Mom

Good luck, Honey.......I'm sure it will work out for you.......fingers crossed for you.......

HUG and KISS

Donna Jean

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Beautifully written, I don't know how anyone could fail to love and support the person who wrote that note.

You are a true sweetheart and I hope that your mother can see that and support you.

We all love you here and can't wait to find out what happens next.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Irielle

Oh Sara, your letter made me cry and it's bad because I'm at work. :)

It's a wonderful letter and it's from your heart, your mother should be proud of you. I am.

Iri

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Guest sara w.

im back she has the note right now, she hasn't talked to me, im not sure if she has even read it yet beacause its still folded up, but she has it, the worst is over.

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Sara,

We are all hoping for the very best.

If she has questions that she might want to ask of somebody older, you can sign on here and start a PM to me and I will be glad to try to help explain.

Love ya,

Sally

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Yes sweet heart let us know and Sally is the one to have Mom talk to. That is if need be. So happy for you....Mia.

So you made two people cry Donna Jean and Irielle.

Maybe you should start writing for your local news paper...Mia.

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Hi,

the letter is really good. The part with boy outside girl inside is nice.

You get the hole story to the point that you are a girl without saying that you want to be a girl. That is the point I think make the parents afraid that they get a drag queen instead of a football star.

But I would not write "your daughter". This is maybe a shock for her. Just write your child or kid. That makes it neutral and sounds not so hard for the first moment and it shows that you will be her kid equal to the gender you have.

Greetings

Nelly

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Guest sara w.

this morning she woke me up, and she said "hi, I found your note, we'll talk about it when i get home, theres nothing to be worried about"

from what she said and how she said it im guessing(hopefully) that she accepts me :D!!!!!! just wanted to let you all know that before i go to school.

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Guest Donna Jean
this morning she woke me up, and she said "hi, I found your note, we'll talk about it when i get home, theres nothing to be worried about"

from what she said and how she said it im guessing(hopefully) that she accepts me :D!!!!!! just wanted to let you all know that before i go to school.

Oh, Sara, Honey....it's gonna be wonderful...

This will work out....I just know it will!!

Get back to us, Hon...let us know....OK? We care about you!

Good luck....

Donna Jean

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Guest Irielle
this morning she woke me up, and she said "hi, I found your note, we'll talk about it when i get home, theres nothing to be worried about"

from what she said and how she said it im guessing(hopefully) that she accepts me :D!!!!!! just wanted to let you all know that before i go to school.

Wow I'm so happy for you! It sounds like your mother is going to be supportive and that's wonderful news! Keep us posted :)

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Oh, Sweetheart, that is so great!

She told you that there's nothing to be worried about, that means that she still loves you.

You are so lucky,

Sally

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Guest Elizabeth K
this morning she woke me up, and she said "hi, I found your note, we'll talk about it when i get home, theres nothing to be worried about"

from what she said and how she said it im guessing(hopefully) that she accepts me :D!!!!!! just wanted to let you all know that before i go to school.

Oh......

What can I say

Please let us know....

Lizzy

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Guest sara w.

I just got home and i got a phone call from my mom, from the sound of things she either thinks im confused, or she wants to learn more about it, or both, I was so nervous I couldn't explain much, I just hope it was the right time to tell her. right now im terrified, oh and one more thing i've already told another one of my friends and he thinks its ok aswell :D, so far thats 3 peopl who know, and im also kind of proud of myself, I told my mom less than a week after i told my first person :)

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Guest Elizabeth K
I just got home and i got a phone call from my mom, from the sound of things she either thinks im confused, or she wants to learn more about it, or both, I was so nervous I couldn't explain much, I just hope it was the right time to tell her. right now im terrified, oh and one more thing i've already told another one of my friends and he thinks its ok aswell :D, so far thats 3 peopl who know, and im also kind of proud of myself, I told my mom less than a week after i told my first person :)

I KNOW its scary and a huge step - PLEASE stand your ground on this sweetheart. You don't want to back out, and then have to come back later and worry about this all again.

We are thinking about you. GO GO GO and Good Luck.

Lizzy

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She didn't just tell you to forget about it so, that's a good sign and she seems to want to talk about it, you have to just let her know that it is real and give her all of the information that she needs. If you need it, my offer still stands, I can talk to anybody's mother except mine! :D

Love ya,

Sally

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this morning she woke me up, and she said "hi, I found your note, we'll talk about it when i get home, theres nothing to be worried about"

from what she said and how she said it im guessing(hopefully) that she accepts me :D!!!!!! just wanted to let you all know that before i go to school.

That's great, Sara.

Hope it continues to go well.

Wayta be brave, Sweety! :D

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Guest sara w.

she wants to talk about it when i'm ready, im glad she respects my wishes and all, but if it were really up to me, there would be no talking what so ever, im way to scared, I hate that about me :'( im just a big chicken, im too nervous when somthing thats very personal comes up, when i was starting puberty and she was complimenting me on how big i was getting i felt embarassed or my stomach went in a knot, I need advice on telling her about it without fully confronting her, and she thinks that the internet is making me think this way(I think, I can never really get a straight answer out of my mom basicly she said "so you looked this up on the internet?" I said "yes" she said "well im just wondering beacause that can be kind of confusing" and I said "its not at all I understand it perfectly"

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My sister asked me if I was getting bad advice from somewhere.

I told my therapist and when she stopped laughing she told me that she had never even heard of someone being talked into being a transsexual.

It is hard for her to understand and I will be first to tell you that you can not be any better than the second biggest chicken here - the line forms to my right!

Be patient but be firm don't ever give her any reason to think that this isn't real - you're doing great so far.

She hasn't ruled it out, sshe just wants to be sure, she does have your best interests in mind, be patient and she should come around.

Love ya,

Sally

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