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Guest PizzaShark

Hey everyone. So, I came out to my parents back in November, but since then very little has changed. Im not out at school yet either. When I first came out, my mom asked me if I wanted to get q boys haircut, and although I did want one then, I wasnt ready for it.

Now still being in school, I really want a haircut now. Ever since I can remember, all of my family and classmates knew me by my long (past shoulder lengh), blonde, thick, hair. It's like my signature, but I dont really like it. It makes me hot in the summer, gets in my way, and I wear a hat over it anyway. I want to get a boys haircut, but Im afraid of how everyone will react. Ive never had my hair go above my shoulders before. Although there is summer where I'd be entering high school, I have no patience lol.

Im pretty sure my parents would allow me to the haircut (although i have no idea hat kind of cut I want) but idk hat to od about school and class, any suggestions? Thanks all.

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Guest Stacie Cheyenne

Hi my advice to you, Is going to be short & Simple. I hope your able to do what make's you happy & to be the wonderful & awesome person, You were born to be. Good Luck: Your friend: Stacie Cheyenne:

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I'm sure a haircut will be noticed. Some will moan and say how much better you looked some may compliment your bravery. The trick, i think, is to not worry about what they think and instead concentrate on your feelings. If you want it short go for it. Style will come with time, just like it does for guys. You might want to find out if you can donate to "Locks for Love" who donate hair for cancer patients. As far as when....you will always have folks around.

Hugs,

Charlie

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Cutting my mod-back length hair was the first step I made and I was actually afraid I might regret it because I got more compliments on my hair than everything else put together. I didn't regret it at all-and because I was not on T or anything no one saw anything weird about it though people did mention it was a shame I cut it but it looked good. However I knew why I cut it and it made me feel much better. I haven't missed it at all. Did find out my hair is very hard to get to lay flat really short so most haircuts are a disaster but other than that no problems. I seem to wear it shorter all the time. My daughter has even quit moaning when I threaten to shave it.

Your hair can be a powerful symbol for yourself-enjoy

Johnny

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Guest PizzaShark

Thanks guys, I think I'll gather up some courage, and hopefully get it some few weeks. If I do, I'll make sure to say so! I shouldnt care what others think, after all, it is my hair, you guys are right. I'm looking forward to see uow it'll all turn out, but too bad I have no idea what kind of cut I want haha. I'll probably donate it to Locks of Love, as I have twic before. ThNks again. -Grayson

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All i can say is, don't do as i did....

Bottle up your desire because of anxiety and then one day go mad and shave your hair off and have a few accidents with it.... Yea....

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Guest AdamTheRealGuy

I agree with the person above about the short and simple type of cut. I just asked for a traditional boy's cut, which is the same thing. Just rock your haircut and don't let anyone else stop you from getting it, it's for you more than it is for anyone else.

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Guest PizzaShark

Thanks :) . I aaked my mom and she's ok with me getting it cut, so we're thinking by summer vacation I can get it cut. I'm really excited, and we're looking around at haircuts. I'll make sure to remember that is just for me, that'll be key.

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