Being One Of The Guys

[Guest brandt]

So I had a church class. And I only know a couple of people. And the rest just see me as a boy. So we had to be seperated into groups. I was actually seperated with one of my guy friends that knew about me and 6 other guys. So one of the guys was all like "it's an all men group". I was pretty happy and hoped that no one would ruin it for me. So we are all doing discussions and the other 6 guys have their own little thing and have their own insiders and me and my friends just sit there laughing at their stupidity. It was pretty funny though. What sucked though is that they were all singing and it required me to try and get down in a low tone voice but I couldn't because my voice wasn't low enough (I sound like a 12 year old boy going through pueberty, it's low just not low enough like bio guys). so practically I was just sitting there watching them. It was hilarious because we get this thing that says "someone puts arms around the other person" and we had to answer questions about this action. And we were all like "we are all men we don't do that". Then we do it while we are present our answers to the class. We sang out our answers to one of the temptation's song. One guy was singing it out and we all were just humming it in a circle. "bum bum ba da bum bum" haha.

So I felt out of place because I was just sitting there clueless to what they were talkin about, but then it was pretty cool because I got to hang out with the guys and see how they really act. I hang around mostly girls and their actions rub off on me. Guys I hang around occasionaly. I'm still trying to adjust to being a "guy" in their terms. I've observed that guys just say what's on their mind and I don't really do that. Guys practically try to be funny in anyway they can and be stupid. Sometimes I really don't get it but then again I actually do that too and yeah haha. Most guys, guys that I know, like to make jokes and make people laugh and be the center of the attention. They think of the most unusual things and stupid stuff as well.

So my experiences with hanging around bio guys were interesting. I got to get down to their level and be one of the "men". One of them always said "men" and I would just be happy because I was a MAN to them. Even though I looked like a 12 year old boy and had a "girl voice" as one of them told me haha. I was jealous of their low voices and I tried to go low. It sounded pretty funny haha, but yeah that was just a big milestone.

I've noticed that the guys I'm around practically just think I'm a cool dude and just like one of them and it just excites me. I can't wait til I go on T and just go out with the guys and do "guy" stuff.

Has anyone have experiences like that?

[Guest Zabrak]

Grats, it looks like you're working through some stuff. Just remember - always look on the brigghttt sidee of life. Making jokes is a good way to lighten the mood and put a smile on your face. This is a good way for me - and perhaps you should try? - to feel better when I'm down. I go find something funny to laugh at. Like youtube vids/failblog or I go harass one of my bros and make them cheer me up.

[Guest Zack L]

I have an experiance similar to this with one of my male friends, he treats me just like all his guy friends, even when we're hanging out alone, or in a group. It's so nice since not only have I known him for fours years, but we also dated for quite a while.

I also get like that when I just pass when I'm out, so exciting. ^^ I get all full of adrenaline at first and stuff til I calm down.

I'm happy for you man, things seem to be going pretty well. =3

[Guest leo]

i guess iv not really been treated as any sex,

but when with males i get treated the same as them but its natural to me i guess

[Guest bronx]

I'm happy for you bro, It brought back some memories I had when I first started to hang out in all male spaces, I guess i take it for granted sometimes forgetting that not to long ago I was where a lot of you younger guys are now.

The first time I was at a men's group, I was 30 and it was at this community center that I would volunteer at twice a week, anyhow they held a mens group every wek and i wouldn't go I would just sit outside until it was over, then one day one of the staff members asked me why i wasn't in the group (they all knew about me) and I was like i didn't want to envade anyones space, he said that I was a man and i belonged there, so I attended the next week and it was great. No one treated me any kind of way, I was one of the guys.

And yeah socializing with guys is way different than with girls. Guys seem to be more like whatever and stuff, where as girls think too much. I'm like that I'm just like whatever, and I always have been. Now I don't have to hide or justify it or anything else.

Happy for you again, it so cool to know your on your way.

[Guest Seth]

BRANDT!

YOU'RE STILL KICKIN', BRAH!

That's awesome, man. I don't really hang out with alot of dudes either, even though i'd love it cuz girls got too much durned drama! Plus, I just feel awkward about being a boy, but not having alot of dude friends, seeing as how I'm like a bio guy: I say what I want, I talk about sex alot and all that other stuff.

But, still, that's rad.

[Guest brandt]

haha thanks guys. its a really cool experience. i'm glad to be one of the guys and that pretty much i don't have to think too much when i hang around them. i've hung around girls too much that their actions pretty much rub off of me lol. i'm an emotional and sensitive guy when it comes to girls though. but yeah haha.

[Guest My_Genesis]

I'm a lot more comfortable around guys, I feel more like I can be myself and not think and worry so much about what I'm going to do or say. Because with girls the experience I've had is I'll say something that I think is completely okay to say, and for them it's really strange offensive, insert other negative adjective here lol. Or vice versa. But with guys I can just say stuff and they react the way I would expect them to.