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Article: The Shifting Language of the Transgender Community


Carolyn Marie

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People love to play with words!

It is one of the most complex of problems when learning any subject and gender plus associated issues is no exception.

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I particularly liked this line in the conclusion. "Once you learn the language someone prefers, embrace it, as more and more publications, workplaces, and schools are beginning to do" As i listen to and read the debates amongst ourselves this idea of openness to the desires of the individual seem most important. I also know that my view and vocabulary of and about myself are in a flux and may perhaps always be like that.

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Charlize

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"'In English you cant refer to an individual in the third person without either gendering them or referring to them with a word that generally connotes lack of humanity-youre either a he or a she or an it,'said Susan Stryker, director of the Institute for LGBT Studies at the University of Arizona."

Oh, the irony.

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