How can I find a local transwoman, or GG trans-friendly, friend?

[Guest CinnamonSpice]

Hi! I really need a transwoman, or trans-friendly GG, girlfriend (friend who is a transwoman or GG) to be friends with, talk with, meet for coffee, go shopping together, etc.

I have met some wonderful women online, and chat with them often. But there are those times that I just ache to get a real hug, or have someone to walk around and window shop with me, share experiences together, you know?

So my question is, other than my local MTF support group, how can I find someone that would like to do so, who is also physically near me?

I'm not out yet, so I've not even begun to transition yet. So that makes it tough, I think. Any ideas would be most appreciated!! Thank you! mwah!

[MaryEllen]

Our rule 11 prohibits the giving out of personal information such as full names, addresses and email addresses. This is for the safety of our members. I think you would have better luck with your local MTF group. At least you would be seeing them in person and would be able to tell if they were on the up and up. Although some wonderful friendships have developed via the internet, it's still risky and we'd rather you be safe than sorry.

Thanks for understanding

MaryEllen

[Guest Carla_Davis]

Hi CinnamonSpice,

You way want to look here.

MTFMentors http://www.mtfmentors.org/

They assist transgender people, especially those just starting their Journey.

You can search by Locality, City and/or Zip.

I am sure there are a lot of members in California and hopefully close to you so that you can get All the IRL Hugs you need.

I know personally from my own experience how helpful something as small as a hug can make you feel.

Hugs,

Carla

[Guest Melissa~]

It's my experience that(gender) support groups are quite good about privacy, at least in St Louis. I can't stress enough that you should get in touch with local support, real people.Of course I go to lunch etc with some of them. That was an original recommendation of my therapist, and I did take her up on it. There is an issue...that the group I attend, is inclusive, and that's not appreciated by all people. One can't please everyone.

[VickySGV]

I do not know what your location is close enough to help, but here in CA, there are quite a number of options to meet IRL. If you are in the southern half of the state, this event is coming up, and you can come dressed however you would like to. http://www.lauras-playground.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=61066 Closer to June, look for Pride events, because there will be some representatives from the Trans* community. If you are into a spiritual setting, the Metropolitan Community Churches have a great deal of Trans* members, and often social events.

In the Sacramento and L.A. areas there are multiple Trans* support groups and there are adult clubs that while primarily Gay or Lesbian, are also Trans* welcoming, sometimes with Trans* specific nights. I know of one at least in North Hollywood, and another in the Lancaster area. They are strictly adult venues so I cannot give specifics here.