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So anyway I was thinking and I kind of like my vagina... for reasons not involving the hole part of it... which frankly disgusts and horrifies me... but I'm not sure I could get rid of it.

So, I know T greatly reduces secretions and all. Is it possible to get a metio and testicular implants and just close up that part... without cutting it out?

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Guest ~Brenda~

Hi Cody,

I cannot directly answer your question since I am MTF, but I think I can share with you some constructive thoughts since we all have to deal with the same questions. Surgery, is a very serious matter. One must be well educated to the risks and rewards that surgery can bring. For myself, I am currently satisfied with my abiltity to look completely feminine without surgery nor hormones. I recommend that you simply take your time with your decisions (especially when it comes to surgery!) and feel carefully how satisfied you are with your gender selection and how your body reflects that.

I hope this helps,

bernie

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I would have to agree with Bernie, but I have come to a point where i know that I need to start on hormones, but surgery is a long way off.

I think that I will have it someday if I can get the money but I am not carving it in stone for as my therapist told me, some people during the RLT decide that they are happy just where they are.

Don't make all of your decissions before you atart, see what happens as you go along.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest StrandedOutThere

You know, I'm just kind of neutral about all the equipment "down there"...but I think I get what you mean. I don't really have horrible dysphoria about those parts. For me, my chest was the most upsetting "wrong" thing...followed by my general shape (because I carry fat in girly places and have a good bit of it, unfortunately).

That being said, I would enjoy a little additional anatomy so I wouldn't need an STP. However, I don't really necessarily need other stuff taken out for me to be happy and comfortable with myself.

Anyway, I think that you can get meta and testicular implants without a vaginectomy. In fact, based on some of what I've heard, some doctors won't even like to do those because there's typically a lot of blood loss...or there can be...or something. They used to be more or less standard procedure for FTM bottom surgery, but I think that is much less the case now. Now, they can't just sew everything closed without taking it out though. Even though T reduces secretions, there's still stuff that has to have somewhere to go (as I understand it). If you want the path closed, I'm almost certain you have to have the equipment inside removed.

I don't know how much privacy you have at home, but you might check out this guy's videos on YouTube:

http://www.youtube.com/user/jacoblotcky

He got lower surgery recently with Dr. McGinn. He talks a lot about the experience and seems to really know his stuff. I've watched a lot of his videos and he reiterates Dr. McGinn's rationale for doing things the way she does. Also, if you don't have enough privacy to be able to watch a bunch of videos, you can join FTM Surgery Info on Yahoo Groups. There's a lot of info on there.

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Guest Evan_J

What Stranded said :) I actually read a little bit about provaginectomy docs vs. the non-vaginectomy docs. Within what I read, ultimately its a matter of "closed" vs "nonclosed". Closing without doing it causes too much moisture/fluids to still be getting secreted within your body. Sewed closed, the lining still secretes. If its going to be closed, the only way to do it safely -or at least minimizing (much better word that "safely" with sounds like "you have 0 risks from this surgery, and it is a "bloody" surgery) the risks and problems that are the result of internal secreting. I also got to see a film of a FtM getting the testicular implants and meta sans -ectomy. It was performed in South America in the film, apparently the "standard" way they do it there. Here in the U. S. a lot of things are going to be dependent upon location, physician, and mindframe of them jointly as to whether or not a SRS surgery "should" be sans -ectomy. Some doctors will feel they are "creating an ambiguously sexed person" and they aren't for it. Some states laws may not accept that (some ask for they report of what was done in the SRS surgery) to resign gender on the grounds that the patient retained the sex organ of the birth sex and therefore is retaining the sex. Some states may just "not like" the idea that the person "has two sets of sex organs". That set up , depending on where you are in the U.S. could also pose additional problems in acquiring health care as some doctors will not deal with someone who has obtained that. The decisions are yours, just know what everyone else will do with whatever decisions you choose. In short, research where you are or plan to be.

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Guest Cody_T

thanks everyone... I watched Jacob's videos, and if mine turns out like his then I'll be totally happy with it. Except that means a hysto or not being able to get a pap smear which apparently is bad? Idk cause I've never gotten one and was kind of deciding never to get one, seeing as they distinctly have to do with the *down there* region.

not to get off on a tangent though, thanks everyone for answering... it was very educating

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