I Am Taking A Big Step @ My Next Therapy Session

[Guest Sofiadragon]

I am going to be going to my next therapy session as the real me, & honestly I

am nervous about it, I don't know why I am so nervous about this 'cause this is

going to help me out allot when it comes to my transitional status w/ her, & all

but something in me is telling me that it is too early & other parts of me are

saying that I should have done this w/ her @ the firs session, so I am all

about the whole thing. Anyone got any advice for me, lol.

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Do it - your therapist will understand - its a GOOD thing and it really helped me. I guess I have gone to ALL my sessions except the first two, dressed as the real me.

Lizzy

[Guest Zabrak]

I think it will really help if you show your therapist your true self.

[Guest Donna Jean]

I think it will really help if you show your therapist your true self.

As do I, Hon......

Do it.....

XXOO

Donna Jean

[Guest Sofiadragon]

I think that, that was the push that I needed 'cause now I feel well enough to do it, & I know that I am doing the right thing, but I just want to know why can't my mind make up it's own mind on what to do?

[Guest Zabrak]

Everyone needs reassurance once in awhile.

[Sally]

I think that, that was the push that I needed 'cause now I feel well enough to do it, & I know that I am doing the right thing, but I just want to know why can't my mind make up it's own mind on what to do?

I have been to every session except three in my female appearance, it just feels better.

It is so much easier to talk about your feminine side when it is right there.

I went to my first to sessions with only female undergarments.

She suggested that I should come as Sally and offered me a letter explaining that dressing as a female was part of my therapy.

I turned her down because I knew that I just wasn't ready for that, at the next session I asked her if I could have one of those letters to put in my purse - I had gone in a dress!

The only other 'male' appearence was the time I had a wedding consultation too soon after my session to be able to change.

Enjoy your day en femme!

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Elizabeth K]

You will do fine. Dressing as you are is a self affirmation of who you ae. It may terrify you at first, but then you won't ever want to stop dressing as you are.

Good luck

Lizzy

[Guest julia_d]

Just nerves Hon.. quite normal. Is this your first time "outside" as the real you? If it is a little hint.. don't try too hard, try to relax and let it all hang out... above all have fun. I have said some crazy things to doctors and shrinks over the years.. a laugh is worth many hours of analysis XD

Once I was asked "How do you find yourself in the mornings?" .. and my sharp as a knife reply.. "well I throw back the covers *gasp* and there I am!!"

Not what they were after, but we had a good laugh about it and moved on.. sometimes it helps to be just a little crazy.

Go with the flow and be yourself and everything will be just great.

[Guest leo]

haha julia_d that was well witty

i agree with what everyone says, how do you expect your thearipst to understand how you feel if you dont show them?

[Paula ult]

Sofia hun,

I wrote you a reply on the TransFamily board too, go to your second session however you feel comfortable unless your therapist urged you specifically to come dressed as Sofia. My therapist never asked me to come dressed as Paula, the first few sessions i went dressed androgynous, at my third session i told him i would come dressed as Paula but i didn't want to give him a heart attack, he just laughed and said thanks for the warning, so the next session i went dressed, the secretary gave me a double take at first but quickly regained her composure and nobody in the waiting room ever gives me a second glance, so from then on i have been Paula and he uses the correct pronouns too. I look forward to meeting you Saturday at the meeting if you are going.

Paula.

[Guest Sofiadragon]

Once I was asked "How do you find yourself in the mornings?" .. and my sharp as a knife reply.. "well I throw back the covers *gasp* and there I am!!"

Not what they were after, but we had a good laugh about it and moved on.. sometimes it helps to be just a little crazy.

That put one hell of a smile on my face, I wouldn't have thought of that one lmao!

[Guest Sofiadragon]

She hasn't said that she wants me to come as the real me or tryed to force me in any manner but she has just said "let me know when you are ready to be reffered to by your fem name" & I have been building up my confidence by going to my local LGBT center's Transfamily meetings as the real me & the support of them has really helped out allot but I am still nervous about heading to a mall or something as the real me, but when it warms up my wife & I are going to take our son (who is too cute by the way pic attached of wife & son @ christmass, I love them both so much) to the local zoo & I am going to be going as Sofia 'cause I like zoo's & I am always @ comfort @ them for some reason I don't get it but oh well but I am going to do that as well as going to my meeting w/ Brooke on Monday as Sofia & I think that doing that as well as going to my meetings as the real me will continue to help build my confidence even more.

Here is the link to the photo's http://www.flickr.com/photos/26733936@N08/3215976381/

[Guest Angelgrlsue]

This is something I would like to do with my therapy sessions. In my case it is a little more difficult. I do not drive and have to use public transportation to get to my appointments. I'm definately not ready to come out to the public yet in en femme. Good luck to you Sofia, I'm sure you will do fine.