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finally plucked up the courage this last week to tell a couple of my closest friends about my crossdressing. I was completely taken by surprise at their support and lack of judgement. as far as they are both concerned I am still the hairy biker they know and love albeit sometimes in heels and a dress. It took a lot of courage but I am so glad I managed it.

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Guest Kenna Dixon

Good for you! And how fortunate you are to be surrounded by people who see you as the same person no matter what clothing you're wearing.

I have a dear friend in Bilston whom I've known for almost three decades - although I see him only once in a great while. When I told him of my transgender condition, nothing at all changed between us (except that his response enhanced my respect for him as a fellow human being).

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Congratulations on coming out, Saffron. I'm sure you feel great at this moment.

:thumbsup:

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Being a hairy biker in a dress takes so much courage especially when we share who we are with friends. Somehow if you are like me sharing was the first step towards the loss of shame and guilt i always felt. Be well and enjoy your freedom.

Hugs,

Charlize

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Guest Wanda Michelle

Saffron ~ Good for you! That's great news. So happy for you and glad to see you have such a wonderful friend.

Hugs,

Wanda

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Guest saffron

thank you all for the kind words and support. being open with two of the most important people in my life was one of the hardest things I have ever done. just knowing I have friends that I can turn to when I need it is such a relief. for the first time in my life it feels good to be me :-)

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Guest angelaiwish

I recently came out to my high school friend Megan . she was really cool about it ,I was so scared to tell her I didn't want to lose her . she was totally surprised but she said she doesn't care one way or the other what I wear as long as I am a good person . OMG ,what a weight off my shoulders

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Guest Eve Caillard

Hi Angela

Good to hear you had a great success story there! You all have way more courage than I have. I came out to my wife when I restarted cross--dressing. That was tough, but she took it OK.

Eve

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Guest Debutante

How wonderful to get such support!

I, on the other hand, have been so underground with my cross dressing

with fears due to shame and guilt. I did come out to two women I knew out of state.

But fear doing this close to home, given work,etc. this might disadvantage me. I am still working

building the courage and acceptance in myself. Luckily, I have such a supportive wife...

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Guest danvis91

I have been in the closet so to speak since I was in high school. I had not told anyone. I was trying to hide it from everyone. I was found out by my mom when she found my stuff. I was also found out by an ex When she found me wearing her pajamas. But until last weekend, I had not told anyone. Then after 2 years of hiding things, I told my current girlfriend. She took it hard because of my overly masculine personality. And I have been extremely judgemental and hard on this community because I have wanted so badly not to be found out. I was a hypocrite. Since then she has gone through her old clothes and found me some things to wear. From panties and bras to dresses and pants. She already has a makeup bag for me and it going to help me learn how to take care of my body in a feminine way. She is being more supportive tHan I could have hoped. I wish I had told her sooner. But I didn't. She is being highly supportive and that is more than I can ask for. Now other than the transition period where she and I learn how to function. Together when I am dressed and things like that. The only problem is she thinks that I am going to change my gender. But other than that the experience of telling her had been rewarding. But I don't think I can tell anyone else. I am from a conservative family won't understand.

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Danvis

It's wonderful that you found that courage and your SO is so supportive. My story is very similar to yours and I fought it until around 47 years old. Now we shop together and do many girly things together, except that I dont 'dress' outside the house, yet.

She's very comcerned that I'll need to transition in the furture! But at this point I pretty happy. I do underdress and wear small forms while out and that makss me feel great.

Good luck for your future., and welcome to Laura's.

-Fiona

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Guest danvis91

Thank you. I am out at 24. It has hard to honest with her with this still being hidden. I feel good now that it is out. And we are going with her rules. And I am trying not to push our boundaries that we have set.

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Guest danvis91

me too. It's hard to know when to do it but it is such a weight off of your shoulders. Good luck to you when you decide you are ready.

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