Whats it like being a full time transvestite?

[Guest]

Does anyone here do this? I'm kind of manly looking and like the look of short hair and no make up. Whats would it be like? Any do's and donts?

[Guest]

Don't use the outdated term "transvestite".

[VickySGV]

I am full time, and on occasion I do go out without makeup and by now the no makeup, no bra, and otherwise slob days are no different than most other days. I have to use wigs to get short hair these days. but it is still just me. I do not give off male clues any more and look butch as opposed to masculine. (Your HRT $$$$$ at work!!)

Since you used the word you did though. I suspect that you are actually speaking about Gender Bending or a more obscene term I cannot use on the forums here. Going out with no makeup, flattop hair do, or a Marine Corp "high and tight" style, and beard shadow and wearing pretty or sexy dresses can be done, but it is risky to a whole world of worry. I will not say, do not do it, because I have friends that do that sort of thing, and they are nice ordinary folks, but they do take more negative reactions than I ever have. (One of them throws some fun parties, and zie is also a recovering addict, so the parties are free from intoxicants and there is fantastic vegetarian fare to chomp into. ) For now at least Gender Queer aka Gender Bending has a long way to go in public acceptance and lets face it, no blending in to where you are just one of the other folks.

As Joann said , Please do not use the word Transvestite here in the U.S. since it is used by people wanting to hurt TG people in general. I once owned the term, but that was 20 years ago. One of us on the Mod staff can help you retitle this post if you would like us to.

[Guest Clair Dufour]

Of course you can. While most CDers love going full fem the reality is most of us can't do it day in and day out. But, what most of us can do, if we don't have to wear a suit to work, is wear womens clothes that are a knockoff of mens styles. The stores are full of jeans, shorts, cargo pants, tops, blouses, sweaters you name it. All made to give women that want it a macho look. A lot of women have short hair but, the difference is how they comb and style it. I wear womens clothes every day and have since the 80's. In those days everything I had was from Gitano. I wore my hair longer in those days which helped. Even with rings in both ears few people noticed then and now and those who do know how to read the signals. For going out in safe places, adding a bra/forms and padded panties covered with a coat or jacket (as many women do) takes it to the gender bending level but not to what most cis people consider crossdressing. Those in the community quickly read you. Look at what women are wearing these days days. There's not a lot of frill. If you want to see how macho women dress, go to a lesbian bar. Don't worry they won't hurt you, just beat you at pool!

[Guest]

Oh no, no, no... You will never catch me cross dressing! I won't be caught dead in men clothes. Giggle. Well I take that back, In my copper mine boots and oil skin outback coat I look pretty macho for a girl...

Oh never mind I went through the whole dressings, guilt and purge thing for years, well yes it was one of my needs... I'm a girl! And wow does HRT work wonders to support that idea. Do your thing, be your authentic self, live long and be happy. My gender therapist loves the fact that I am a crazy feminine ball of girl fire and she is my best supporter, that I am doing the exact right thing. Some day soon maybe people will pay you that compliment too. Hug. JodyAnn

[Charlize]

I once read the definition of transvestite in the dictionary. It describes a person addicted to wearing women's clothing. Fortunately it is an archaic word. While still used as mentioned above it is more of a putdown. Trans* or cross dresser are considered less offensive. I always loved to go out as myself but i never did until i shaved my beard. As Vicky noted be careful. It is easier and safer to be stealth so try to be with friends in safe well lit locations. I live by that and i pass quite well at this point(i think) but as a woman there is less safety. Gender bending can be like a red flag to some men.

Hugs,

Charlize

[Guest]

You no longer "pass" Charlize.

You are seen as a full fledged woman.

Huggs,

Joann

[Guest]

im going more and more full time. the better i look the more looks i get. I know i dont look like a girl, but I'm not. Should I feel shame? its an overload between dressing as me and going out as me.

[Carolyn Marie]

Never feel shame for cross dressing,Lexi. It hurts no one, makes you feel good about yourself, and satisfied an inner desire to let the female side of your personality express itself.

"Society" is going to think whatever it wants to. A big section of society thinks that just being trans is an "abomination." We know how true that it is, right? Same with cross dressing. Do what makes you happy, Lexi. That's all you need to know.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[Guest]

Never feel shame for cross dressing,Lexi. It hurts no one, makes you feel good about yourself, and satisfied an inner desire to let the female side of your personality express itself.

"Society" is going to think whatever it wants to. A big section of society thinks that just being trans is an "abomination." We know how true that it is, right? Same with cross dressing. Do what makes you happy, Lexi. That's all you need to know.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

right on!!!

[Guest]

Don't use the outdated term "transvestite".

Thats how I describe myself. I like the "trans" in it. Plus thats what strangers call me, and not the ones who are trying to be mean.

[Guest]

You no longer "pass" Charlize.

You are seen as a full fledged woman.

Huggs,

Joann

I don't though .