The Yin & Yang of Cross-Dressing

[Guest Stevie]

The Yin & Yang of CD

The highs and lows of CD, I feel this in myself and hear it in others. Sometimes the feminine part of me is strong and very noticeable and other times it’s the male part of me.

I’ve always been fascinated with the Chinese philosophy of yin and yang, the balance of all things. Things, which appear to be opposite, are not only harmonious with one another but also dependent on one another to create that essential balance in life.

When one element is strong the other corresponds with the appropriate weakness to keep a perfect balance. The black and white circular yin and yang symbol perfectly illustrates that strong and weak balance.

We all have male and female in us all to varying degrees and now as a newly discovered CD I sense that fluctuates in me on an a daily basis, creating its own balance and equilibrium.

I think when I was younger this would have driven me nuts but now at a more mature and hopefully wiser age I feel very comfortable just flowing with it.

I hope these thoughts might help some who may be struggling with this up and down feeling. It seems to be not only natural but also essential to our health.

Just my thoughts,
Stevie

[Guest Amber L.]

I don't believe I've ever heard it put any better. I have the same sense as you about crossdressing. I enjoy my feminine side as well as my male side. You hit the ball out of the park. Hugs. Amber L

[Guest KatyDesire]

Stevie, I think your description of it being a balance between 2 parts is spot on.

The only exceptions are the hypermasculine men and the hyperfeminine women. But then they really are quite abnormal, and one really should pity them !

[Guest Eve Caillard]

I totally agree with you, Stevie. I have feminine times, and less feminine ones. And the odd masculine day, too.

Eve

[Guest Stevie]

Thank you Amber, Katy and Eve, I really appreciate your positive comments. Being such a “babe in the woods” I wasn’t sure if I should share my thoughts. Now I’m glad I did, many thanks.

Katy, I know what you are saying; in our society there are those who have thoroughly buried it. Interestingly, if you look at the yin yang symbol right in the middle of the large (strong) black and white area is a dot, white in the black and black in the white. That shows that even in our strong state there is still that opposite element. I like to think right at the heart of it.

I sometimes wonder if the, I like the word you used “hyper” individuals aren’t just being that to cover up what they fear is there? Just a thought.

Big hugs to you all,
Stevie

[Guest KatyDesire]

Stevie,

My guess is that you're right - I think a lot of the ultra-masculine, beer-bellied, skirt-chasing types are covering something up. Unfortunately (for them, in my opinion), many are not.

[Guest Eve Caillard]

Stevie

You can share your thoughts here. It's a safe place for all of us.

I have a lot of difficulty fitting into the 'masculine' world. I can't gel with other men and groups of men. I never knew why until I accidentally rediscovered I am a CD.

Discovering this helped me realise I have a kind of 'unique?' meld of feminine and masculine in me and I've been so much more content with myself since.

Some of the girls here seem to be to be very macho in their male side, and I actually find this very intimidating. But as girls they are hugely supportive and a great help!

It's a confusing world, but I feel better and a more complete person for being here and knowing that everyone here is in the same kind of boat. It's quite unique.

Hugs,

Eve

[Guest Elyssia]

You took the words right out of my mouth eve, i don't really fit in the masculine world exactly as you described.

Work is 99% guys in my workplace and most of the time i spend my break times alone or in silence not able to join in or contribute.

It is a confusing world

[Guest Eve Caillard]

I'm glad to know - really know - I am not the only one who feels this way!

Thank you!

[Guest Debutante]

Very well put. I find this happening to me over the years.

At an older age, I rather welcome being at peace, and having the feminine a more dominant part

of my life... getting cross dressed more often that I can, given my busy schedule.

[Guest TinaGrey54]

The more I think about it when my feminine side comes out I feel more of myself. I have been learning to love my feminine side more as she needs and craves love from me. This all stems back from a traumatic experience in my masculine life. I also have been reading post here in the crossdressers sections and really find that I am not alone in my feelings. Emotions run high with me.

[Guest Stevie]

I am much more comfortable with the feminine side as well… I’m getting closer everyday ;-)