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[Guest letmebe_me]

hey everyone,

im just looking for what other people think about this. if youve been in this situation before and can give me some advice it would be helpful, thanks.

ok so basically my parents have known about my 'secret life' for about 4 days now. we havent really discussed it. i dont know how they feel or anything. maybe thats because they dont yet know how they feel. im not sure. i just am desperate to get a bunch of stuff out to them and to let them know some stuff and to help them understand but i dont want to keep nagging them or to annoy them about it you know. because its really hard for them, mymum in particular. i have given them some info from the net which im not sure if theyve read yet or anything but i left a note saying they dont have to read it but i think it may be helpful for them to take a look at it when they feel ready. its there if they want it but they can talk to me. something like that. other than that ever since the day i told them weve not really spoken. sooo basically i was wondering do you think a letter would be good? that way i can get it all out without interuptions and they can sit and read it, take it all in, read it again etc. read it when theyre ready. and then when they feel like it its up to them to come chat to me. its just so hard. im not sure how they feel. i understand its gota be so hard for them right now. its mainly my mum im so worried about her. and scared she hates me or thinks im weird and stuff. so what do you think? too soon? should i just leave it for now? ugh, my heads goin round in circles.

daniel

[MaryEllen]

Hi Daniel,

Try waiting another day or two to see if there is going to be any feedback from them and then write your letter. Try to be sensitive to your mother's feelings but whatever her reaction is, I doubt that she will hate you. Most mothers love their children unconditionally. I'm betting your mum is one of them.

MaryEllen

[Guest matthew41]

Dan,

I know the feeling when the floodgates open and you want to pour it all out. Please try to be patent for a little while. Writing a letter may make you feel better and help you to put some clarity behind your feelings but I would suggest hanging on to it for awhile until you sense that your parents are starting to relax when around you. Then you can offer them the letter and if they resist, wait awhile longer until they are ready. Finding a pace of giving each of your parents information as they are ready to listen, may help them be less stressed about it.

Matt