Thank you!

[Guest]

This site has given me the support to realize who I am. Every one here is so positive, which means alot when you go out every day and hear things like "that man is in a dress," or "look its a transvestite" or just snickering. Yes I may look odd and out of place but dressing like this feels right. A skirt and heels are part of me. I gave up on passable, I know Im not a girl and dont want to be one...

[tracy_j]

I can see where you are with this.

I am a little further in the spectrum I think as although I am not a girl I don't think I am a man either. As such for me it's a very uncertain world. It's nice to be in a group with other people who understand more than most people in society

Tracy

[Carolyn Marie]

Thanks for the feedback, ladies. It's good to know that we're doing things to help, and doing them in ways that make people feel comfortable and safe. That knowledge is important, and appreciated.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Eve Caillard]

Hi LexiNexi

You've not been here for a while (?) so I'm pleased to see you back! And I totally agree with you. What you say brings back to my mind a moment over which I am now crippled with shame.

Before I understood that I am a cross-dresser (and I am now, and very happy, too), I visited a UK heritage site with my family. In entering a room, a guide stood ready to assist visitors. It took me only moments to realise the gorgeous blonde lady was in fact a man. I said nothing to her and ignored her, but you know how momentary glances can say volumes. I was a typical blunt Englishman with no interest in these kinds of folk.

Now, as a changed man / girl I look back, I utterly cringe with embarrassment. I just wish I'd had the courage to stop and chat with her. She looked fabulous, even though she did not pass. She was amazing.

So what I am saying is there is still much ignorance out there. I was exactly one of the 'ignorant' until circumstances caused me to change my life radically.

Apart from some hostility, I think a lot of it is ignorance and puzzlement. I was not hostile, for all I felt was curiosity. My deep question was; "why?"

Society has a long way to go to make what we want acceptable - but that said, I think people are far more willing to be flexible these days. A recent visit to a supermarket where on the checkout a trans lad was trying to pass (and very well too) as a female, was very encouraging. An elderly lady (in her 70s) in the queue ahead of me was full of praise for what s/he was expressing.

Happy Christmas, all.

Eve

[Charlize]

Lexi, Thank you for being a part of this group. The power of Laura's comes from the diverse, caring nature of our members. Like you this site and the support i have found here helped me to realize who i am.

Lots of hugs and wishes for a beautiful happy new year.

Charlize