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I finally was able to dress yesterday. Its been a long while but my wife bought me a wig for my birthday and it came yesterday I just had to try it on. After putting it on my wife wanted to see what it looked like and saw I was not dressed up so she told me to get dressed properly. I have a wonderful woman in my life we say and talked in our bedroom I was dressed up and she was fine it was great. She did ask me if she could divulge my secret to my sister in law and that scares me a lot. I agreed though because my sister in law is her best girlfriend she is going to tell her but under pretense that I don't know that she is divulging my secret. Hopefully my sister in law can keep it if not then I guess I get outed. That's the scary part is wondering how people will react. Especially family. We shall see how it goes and maybe good maybe bad. I did get into see my therapist Thursday so I can't wait I did enjoy talking to her.

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It is lovely that you are getting support from your wife and perhaps soon your sister in law. My sister in law was much more supportive than my wife at first. She was also very quiet about what i told her. It may be a positive thing for you.

I was so happy to speak to my therapist as well. I somehow felt that a weight had been lifted when i left her office the first time.

Enjoy being honest as you can.

Hugs,

Charlize

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I am of the opinion that there comes a time when we have to be open about things as it becomes too stressful not to be. I think it is usual for a girl and her best friend to share everything anyway. It is good that your wife asked you, as your consent will alleviate any conflict she may feel.

Release in a controlled manner is better than being outed by accident but I will admit it can be scary and unpredictable at times!

Tracy

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Guest Jocelyn1975

Well due to snow my wife won't be able to talk today lol. (Anxiety rising) but hopefully it will be a good thing and yes at least she had asked me first I did appreciate that

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Guest Eve Caillard

Good luck Jo! You have a great, understanding wife! My wife knows, tolerates, so long as I keep it discreet to myself. I am lucky to have that understanding.

It is a great help, so you are in a good place!

Eve

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Guest Lynnette Rae

My wife read that the spouse helps to pave the way for others in the family to accept. She read that as long as the spouse is supportive then others will follow suite. I have my wife to thank for telling most of my family with my permission of course she said she would never tell anyone without first asking me. Although when she told one of her oldest friends the friend can't keep nothing to herself and told family members I didn't want knowing yet. But the cat is out of the bag (lol) and it is a good thing. I wish you the best on letting your sister in law know. We are very lucky to have supportive wives and they are rare.

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Well my wife let the cat out of the bag and told my sister in law. Apparently she wasn't surprised. I don't know if I should be relieved or offended lol. Its good she's ok with it but she did inform my wife she wouldn't stay. My wife and I are going to keep working on it and hopefully it will work out. My wife is really trying, so that's good. My wife is supposed to help me dress up tomorrow since I may get the day off. That would be a good birthday gift but we shall see what tomorrow brings. ❄❄❄❄❄

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Guest Lynnette Rae

that is good news, did she give a reason as to why she wouldn't stay though? Enjoy your makeup day I was supposed to have a dress up yesterday but things were so busy and hectic yesterday. I did get to go out in heels and my forms and it was very obvious I had breasts. I also carried my purse. I didn't have any makeup which was a bummer as we did have to rush out of the house I barely got my housework done as it was. Again enjoy your dress up day and your birthday.

Hugs and KissesXOXOXO

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