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Guest Georgia

I feel guilty.

I am only busy wearing fancy dresses, buying fine lingerie, experimenting make-ups and wigs, choosing shoes.......

But when I read about you, girls and ladies, struggling for your true nature, against wifes, parents, friends: these are real dramas, while i am playing with the "doll" I feel inside me, who fills myself with immense joy......well, I feel SELFISH and GUILTY !

Love and hugs to you all, girls and ladies in distress.

Georgia

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Guest ~Cadence~

I don't think you have anything to feel guilty about, love. We all do what we must to be happy, in many different situations with different priveledge and benefits. Some of us must struggle to get society to accept an identity only we can see. Some of is have to struggle to get family, friends and loved ones to accept our true nature, which they may never accept. Some of us have to deal with shame imposed upon us by a society that doesn't understand the pain that can come from suppressing who you really are.

You have nothing to feel guilty about. You have all of your own struggles and pains. Do not bemoaned the privileges you have. Embrace them and love them!

Hugs

Callie

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  • Admin

Sometimes people write a script for themselves that amplifies the problems they have doing the things they like to do. Many do not ever ask or broach the subject for years, and when they do find it was a non-issue with some work and patience. It's only hindsight though that my troubles were LESS than I imagined. them to be.

Why feel guilty about just being who you are? I was the one in my head who had to give up the idea that I could not do it. When that happened I was fine. You are just ahead of the curve in your life, the others will get there if they work on it, and won't if they do not work on it.

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Others have said it so well. There is no reason for you to feel guilt. We live the lives we do and often create our own difficulties. Enjoy the fact that you are creating your own heaven. I have let go and am doing my best to enjoy this being myself as well.

Hugs,

Charlize

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Guest Christina200

Be happy Georgia - that's what life's all about and it's certainly not something to apologise about. Shout about it from the rooftops!

Chrissy x

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Guest Roberta-Belinda

No need to feel guilty Georgia. I gave up feeling guilty long ago. On Friday I spent the whole day as Belinda and wore my favourite skirt with a pair of vaguely black hold up stockings. I was dressed up for nearly fourteen hours and loved every minute of it.

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Guest Roberta-Belinda

Georgia you ought to be feeling proud not guilty your gallery pictures are stunning. I wish that I looked as glamorous as you when I am dressed as Belinda.

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Guest Razilee

Maybe it's because I'm Catholic, but I tend to take guilty feelings seriously and not simply dismiss them. Exactly where are those feelings coming from? What are they trying to make you aware of? Comparing myself with others always seems to get me into trouble. Is it that you don't feel you fit into what you think this group is about? We are a very diverse, inclusive group. I expected your guilt to be akin to mine, feeling guilty about not being honest, to myself or to others. That's very difficult in our bigendered society.

I do not have the drama of dealing with coming out to family either, but I don't feel guilty about playing with my inner doll. She's my favorite playmate. I glad for this playground too however.

Love :wub:

Raz

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There's no reason for you to feel guilty, Georgia. Cherish the moment you are in.
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Guest Georgia

It's marvellous to meet you Ladies and Girls, you and your cheerful smiles of great sympathy.

I will try to answer to you individually in a collective letter, with collective immense hugs:

Callie:

My privileges and benefit: I will embrace them and love them as the lovely playing doll inside me.

Vicky:

True, sometimes we look at our problems with the wrong spectacles.....But sometimes we have no other choice to change them, at the moment !

Charlize:

We possibly create our own hell as self punishment for being so free and happy ?

Chrissy:

You make me think about the "himn of the Joy" of L.Van Beethoven !

Roberta-belinda:

I avidly read your kind letterabout your feelings when wearing stockingsas a really complete being "en Femme".

I totally agreee: The greatest achievment of our joy.....

Razilee:

Yes, I feel guilty about not being honest to myself and to my family: You are a fine analyst !

Vivian Michelle:

I'll try to celebrate in harmony my being Me !

P.S: Bretagne : une merveille !

Gennee:

Right! I'll be totally who I'll try to be who I am.....

And take care of your lovely amber skin !

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