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Am I Transgendered?


Guest DaJe

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I've never actually called myself transgendered. I've never actually used specific terms for myself, though sometimes I feel like that's just me trying to get around actually saying things, even if they're true. I'm not sure if I could actually call myself transgendered though. It's still confusing sometimes as well too. At first I just wanted to make myself more feminine, and just make myself more girl-like, and dress in girl clothes. Sometimes, I feel like I want to make myself look like a girl, and wouldn't mind if people mistook me for a girl when they saw me. Other times I really want to make myself be a girl. And then other times, I feel like I just don't care. Sometimes it's not that I necessarily want to be a girl, but I just don't want to be a man. I do want to be girly though. It's like, I want people to know I'm not a man, and would sometimes like if they saw me as a girl.

I guess some of it may just me being confused, as well as aprehensive about what may happen. I mean, a lot of these things are big changes. I'm just trying to find a way to word everything I've been thinking the past months. It's sometimes becoming enough of an issue to make me upset with myself. I just don't know. Could I call myself transgendered? If I feel like a girl but am still physically a boy, can I call myself a girl? Also, sometimes I sort of feel like just living as a girl, and seeing how I do, and seeing how I like it. I'm sort of just rambling random thoughts now, but I'm just trying to word it all out in front of myself to help see what I really want.

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Guest Elizabeth K

Actually - you are what you are.

Labels are okay - you may be transgender - probably so if you have those feelings - but only a gender trained therapist can help you find yourself - other than that it's really guesswork. Some here are really transsexual, others are androgyne - a few are intersex, others express their femininity by dressing.

It's what you are, what you feel.

So just look around and see recommendations here on your options. Everything extends from that date with a therapist.

Just my opinion

Lizzy

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Guest Eagledancer

I agree with Aunt Lizzy...you are what you are and we all get caught up in trying to find a label. Labels often lead to divisiveness...which leads to suppression and often discrimination unless you are labled in the ruling class that is. A therapist could help open this information through allowing you to do self-discovery. I have had as many bad experiences with therapy as I have good. I just hope for you that you find what makes you happy whether that something fits in a box with a label or you remain outside of the box! Godspeed...

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