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Hi Everyone,

I just wanted to introduce myself, my name is Dan, I am 45. I knew when I was very young that something just wasn't quite right with my body. I did everything I could do be more like the person I felt I was than the one I was born as. Living with being a man inside a female body has been the toughest road I think a human can endure. Especially since where I grew up in the Great Plains Area there really was no resources of any kind to look to for help. It is hard to have a full blown relationship with anyone when no one understands. I come from an area where most everyone is in the closet about transgender issues. So I am hoping to find some new avenues of support. Well I guess I will add more later just wanted to say hi. :mellow:

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Guest ~Brenda~

Welcome! Welcome! Dan!!!

You have arrived!! We have been waiting for you. I strongly suggest that you get to know Zabrak, Zack, Leo, MrAwesome, bronx. Liam, and many others!! We are all here to listen and to help. Please come in, I have candles burning, and the atmosphere is warm and soothing. Here have some tea, ans some crackers. Or maybe you would rather have a beer, that's cool to. I have any refreshment you would like.

Welcome Dan,

Let's talk!!

bernie

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Guest Zack L

Welcome to the playground! I'm glad you found this place -- we're all here to help. Some of the girls will doubtlessly be along soon with food and other nice things. So come on into the community and stay a while...it's fun here. ^^

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Hi Dan,

I see a few people have already dropped by to say hello and Bernie has already gotten you some refreshments.

Feel free to ask questions any time, we are here to support each other.

Be sure to post you responces to others as well, we care what you think too.

Enjoy your time here.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Pól_Eire

Hey Dan,

Welcome to the playground! It's good to have you here. Hang around, post. We're here for each other, and now that you're here, we'll be here for you too.

-Pól

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Hi Dan and welcome, i think after you read some posts you will find you are by no means alone, there are quite a few transitioners here older than you, I'm 57 and MtF. Seems everyone i have talked to knew at an early age and struggled their whole life.

Paula.

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Guest Donna Jean

Hello, Dan!

How very nice to meet you!

If you've been here any amount of time now, you'll already have an idea of what it's like here!

It is the most wonderful place on the web for us...and that would make it the very place in the world!!!

There are so many really sweet folks here...you'll never have a problem talking to people and getting love, help and answers.

Hon, just relax and enjoy yourself!

****HUGGS****

Donna Jean

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Thanks to all of you for making this a little bit easier to get use to still trying to find myself around the site and yes I keep getting a bit lost here. But in time I am sure I will figure it all out. So far my visits here have been eye opening to the fact I now know I am not alone in my transition. At least here I feel I am understood, where the rest of the world would rather close a blind eye. Thanks again my new friends for the warm welcome. :D

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Welcome to Laura's, Dan. You're not alone. There are many folks here who've had similar experiences. Feel free to add your input.

Gennee :D

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Guest MrAwesome

Welcome, Welcome. My name is Lewis, and I'm the awesome-est FTM on here. ;) (the name says it all.) I'm always sniffin around and postin on the FTM forum. I have a blog I just made, that I'm working on turning into a guide for FTMs, http://lewsftmguide.blogspot.com/ , I think the next posts I put up in there will be about work outs, and diet. (I find if I write about it and give other people advice about it I have to stick with my advice and not be lazy. ;P) And I'll probably do a post about coming out, now that I think about it. So feel free to refer to there for basic stuff. If you have any questions feel free to post them in the FTM forum, and we'll be glad to answer them. *hands you some slightly more nutritious egg salad sand which* Feel free to drop me a message sometime.

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Guest ~Brenda~

Hey Lewis!!

Thank you for your strength!! I have been reading your posts and I have to say... you give me strength!!!

Keep posting your ideas!! The are awesome!!

LOL

bernie

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Thanks Donna,

I have been wondering around the site reading up on some topics and finding that I have a lot to learn still. But very thankful for the support I am finding here so far. Thanks to all :D

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Guest Elizabeth K

WELCOME WELCOME WELCOME

I kinda took the weekend off - so here is a late hello.

I see you posting already and I am impressed! You will really be an asset here! Me? I grew up the other way - mtf - but i am in the deep south - so there are some resources here, if not much understanding. So look around and ask questions!

Glad ta meech ya!

Lizzy

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Guest MrAwesome
Hey Lewis!!

Thank you for your strength!! I have been reading your posts and I have to say... you give me strength!!!

Keep posting your ideas!! The are awesome!!

LOL

bernie

You really think so? :D well... *struts around showing off muscles* I am very strong aren't I ;) My awesome manly-ness radiates so far that I give anyone within 28 miles strength, I can't imagine what happens when you read my Awesome Thoughts and ideas! ;)

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Guest mia 1
Hey Lewis!!

Thank you for your strength!! I have been reading your posts and I have to say... you give me strength!!!

Keep posting your ideas!! The are awesome!!

LOL

bernie

REALLY ?

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