fully crossdresing and affairs question

[Niobe]

Hello All,

I'm new in this forums but I have a question that I need to address. I've dressed for few years on and off, but wanted to know if someone out there is in the same boat as me.

Basically, I get very aroused when doing so and to the point of meeting with guys for intimacy.

I have been very very selective, but ultimately, would like to just end up with a partner who understands this metamorphosis when it happens.

I've read many of you have a wife and she knows, but this is not my case. I hope I;m not the only one with these type of feelings and emotions when one transforms.

Thanks for anyone taking time in read and reply to me.

btw, am currently 49yo. : )

Niobe.

[VickySGV]

I am about 20 years older than you, and your situation is not hopeless, but it will take its time to develop. You may not get a 100% heterosexual male to be your partner, but it is not unknown to happen if you are careful and persistent. Relations that I have seen in your direction are between Demisexual individuals for whom it is the person that they care about without real regard to the gender or actual sex organs, but where physical intimacy (as opposed to generally known sex) happens and is satisfying to each partner in their own limits. Of course you can still get Mr. or Ms. RightNOW, but take time looking for Mr or Ms Right instead.

[Guest Clair Dufour]

Your not alone. I'm 69 and dressing to go to a drag show this evening. While its mostly younger people and hipsters I manage to meet people my age or younger that I can relate to and have fun. You just keep trying and be a nice person.

[Niobe]

Thank you both for your replies. I'm surprised as I would've expect more than just 2 replies. I wonder if there is really support in these forums? or perhaps the topic was not "strong" enough?

I have to say that Clair's point of view is encouraging!

Niobe

[Guest AshleighP]

You are definitely not alone in these feelings. Embarrassingly, I have had the same desires, worse yet I have acted up them only to end up feeling guilty and ashamed. The only thing I can figure is I am looking for acceptance of my dressing and have taken that to the extreme on occasion. It can be a challenge to separate the sexual desire from the desire to just feel like and dress like a woman. I am a happier person when I differentiate the two.

I can say that I do find strength and the acceptance I need here on this site more often than not.

[Charlize]

For a great deal of my life dressing was certainly very arousing and carried with it many fantasies. I never acted on those thoughts in real time but they were certainly there and as Ashleigh mentioned i felt ashamed.

As far as responses go....give this space time. As a forum we often take awhile to see or to feel able to respond to a post.

Hugs,

Charlize

[Jani]

I think Vicky's point of finding Mr. Right vs. Mr. Right Now is valid. It's just like finding a friend. You start being acquaintances, you learn more about each other and the friendship grows IF it feels right for both parties. In today's Facebook world the word friend is no longer understood as it once was. Friendship is a special relationship. Niobe, it will take time to find the right person for you and hopefully the effort you put forth will bear fruit and you'll end up where you want to be.

All my best,

Jani