I'm basically a crossdresser, but...

[shayla98]

Dressing up as a woman is one of my life's greatest fulfillments and joys whenever I get a chance to do it. Which is very rare. I'm also happily married(to a woman) who I love whole-heartedly.

However, one of my inner most fantasies about Shayla is not only to dress up and walk around as a woman, but to go out on a date with a man, have dinner and a great conversation. I also wouldn't mind if we went dancing and follow up the night with a passionate kiss. I'm so glad I can share this on this forum, because other forums that are strictly crossdressing don't cater to 'sexual' desires. I'm hetero, but I just think it feels good to be treated like a lady as well as looking like one. Don't want to get all political on what validates a woman. This is just how I feel as Shayla. I feel so girly and coy whenever a man would just hold the door for me or go out of his way to say 'excuse me'. Don't get me wrong, cheating is cheating, so I would never do this in real life to disrespect my wife.

[Charlize]

I'm a long term married person but i certainly enjoy being treated as the woman i am. Traveling south has the advantage of being "mam'ed" and having doors held for me. It simply seems to validate my womanhood. I must admit to getting a kick out of having a pass or special interest shown to me from a man who would otherwise pay no attention to me. It is an eye opener. Like you i'm faithful but that doesn't mean i can't enjoy the chase. I just have to keep it in control and that a skill that takes some time to develop.

Hugs,

Charlize

[VickySGV]

At most CD "Clubs" there are going to be men who will be happy to fulfill those fantasies for you. We don't talk about them much here, and they are not allowed as members here. The term for them here is Admirer, although there are more dergoatory terms for them IRL. I have met one or two who respected my limits, but our interactions were short and they went on to other Girls with wider limits.

[Guest]

Too bad she doesn't know about Miss Shayla. You could both go out together as a gender swap date.

Out of town weekender, thift store shopping, male for her, female for you. A night of dinner, dancing and romance. That might be a much safer fantasy and a new empathy for both of you. Hug. JodyAnn

[shayla98]

Thanks for the suggestion JodyAnn, but that's just not going to happen.I think the desire to dress partially stems from being rejected in my adolescence years since I hardly had any luck with the girls. The need for attention grew the more I was rejected. Then I always was intrigued in television shows and movies where a male character got into a situation where he had to completely disguise himself as a 'convincing' woman. I always envied the female sex for being able to turn men's heads in a trance by just walking down the street. What power! That's what made me wonder, if I couldn't get attention from the girls, maybe I could get attention by 'being' the girl with my convincing features. Although I'm married, the yearning to be admired and even flirted with sits with me even today.