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Swordsman

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Just looking for older FTM transgender guys out there. I never knew it

was even possible until I looked on you tube. I am so excited! Share your

experiences and stories!

Call me T

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Welcome to the Playground, Swordsman. Two of our Moderators, Bulldog (Mike) and JJ (Johnny) are men of a certain age. I'm sure they'll be along soon to welcome you.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Hey T, welcome aboard. I'm Mike one of the 2 old rascals that Carolyn spoke of :) Not sure where JJ is at right now; might be out hiking in the woods. But anyway, it's alwys nice when another guy joins up as the girls really out number us here. But, it's nice getting pampered by all of these lovely ladies. :score:

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We certainly do need more guys here. Welcome to Laura's. I discovered i could live as myself at 63.

Hugs,

Charlize

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Hi T. I'm the Johnny or JJ they're talking about. I know what you mean about the sudden realization this was even possible. Only I was even older-I started transition 5 years ago this week at 63. Not only haven't been mis-gendered in 4 years or so I am even accepted as male in this small conservative Southern mountain town. Life is better than I could have ever imagined before I transitioned.

When I came to my realization I had a million questions and a desperate need to say the things I had kept locked away for so long. If you find yourself feeling the same you have found a great place to ask those questions and talk to others who will not only understand but share their stories and knowledge as well.

Welcome to the forums

Johnny

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Age is not a hinderance or boundary! There are lots of us (both genders) that have started our journey's late in life. I'm in my early 60's. Welcome aboard!

Jani

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Actually there is a significant difference between men and women in transition age. With women transitioning in the 50s and 60s is common. But with men the common age is 30s through the 40s. There has been speculation about the difference in the way male brains and female brains handle things being the causative factor but there is no real evidence except that the very pronounced difference in demographics exists.

When I was considering transition I did extensive research and could not find another FTM who transitioned in their 60s though there were many MTFs who had or were. Life circumstances had dictated my choice and ultimately it hasn't made a difference.

But the important thing is that, as everyone has said, age is no barrier. In some ways the experience and wisdom gained from living are an asset.

Johnny

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Heya T.........welcome to Laura's Playground. Great site with friendly, helpful and knowledgeable members. I started transitioning a little over a year ago and I am now 61 years young. I can't speak for the others but know if I was a youngster right now, I would be pestering my mother for hormone blockers and T. Even if it didn't happen for me at 12 it is happening now and I am just fine with that. It was the hand I was dealt and I am not going to lament about what could have been. When one finally has the ability to go after a dream they should never say I am too old to do that. Take your excitement of what can be and run with it.

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im 60yres and have taking hermones for 2yrs I were a 42c bra is it normal that my girls are tender but my nipples have not bigger is this normal ?

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Thank you all for the welcome! I see my Doctor on Feb 17th. I wrote him a 4 page letter and mailed it a couple of days ago. I thought a letter would cover everything better than trying to explain it all in a visit. He is a very kind, compassionate Doc that actually listens to his patients! I am 56 and have always felt male inside. I am so excited to start my journey. I am soooo looking forward to the changes. I am thankful that there is a community here to talk to!

YAY!!!

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Hey T, I'm impressed that you sat down and took the time to write a letter to your dr and explaining things. That's good, as he now will have some insight into you and your gender issues. Lets us know how things turned out.

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Hello, This is my first post. I am 60. Been on Testosterone about 1 year. 3 months post top surgery. Mac?

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Hi and welcome to the forums Mac.

I'm 68 -soon to be 69-and started T 5 years ago. Unfortunately finances have dictated that I am non op so far. Someday -but meantime it hasn't affect my being correctly gendered. It's mainly a comfort thing for me- mental and physical,

Make yourself at home and feel free to post all you like once you've read the T & C.

Johnny

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Hello Mac,

Welcome to Laura's Playground. :)

MaryEllen

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Welcome, I am 69 and transitioned 39 yrs ago starting T 2 weeks before my 30th BD. I did all my surgeries starting the following year. I am sure there is lots of knowledge and experience here for you to draw from.

Jerry

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Hey Swordsman,

I'm 55 and began my FTM journey this week! I have shared the news with a couple of very close people in my life and plan to tell my grown son today (a little nervous about that). I have loved tapping in to Laura's Playground this week to discover what good company I am in. I have a great therapist who has agreed to work with me, and I think that will be a critical piece of the puzzle.

I find that in my excitement over my own journey, I need to also keep the needs of my loved ones in sight. My partner and I have already had some very challenging discussions where we needed to get really open with some raw emotions about the potential for our future. She needs someone to talk to too... she is also exploring Laura's for support! My son might need something too...

Happy journey, and maybe we'll be able to help each other out along the way with the great support of guys like Johnny and Bulldog!

~Stefan

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Welcome Stefan. I'm glad you found us. it sounds as if you've got your feet well placed on your path. Perhaps you might want to post in the introduction forum so more folks can get to know you. Hopefully you'll find the kind of support that i found here. Laura's has made my journey much easier as i find i'm not alone in so many ways.

Hugs,

Charlize

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Thanks, Charlize. I hadn't seen the Welcome Forum before, but now I found it and will be sure to post there. I had a great talk with my son, and he was everything I had hoped (and honestly, expected) him to be. The only concern he expressed was that it was going to be hard for me and he didn't want that. We'll navigate through what he will call me as we get further into the process - Momma doesn't seem like it's going to fit! He isn't at all concerned about how his 2 year old daughter will handle it... it will be all she knows of Gram Stef, so no problem :)

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