Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

Makeup - Where to start?


Guest BobbiLee

Recommended Posts

Guest BobbiLee

Hi Ladies,

I am really wanting to try to get some makeup soon but I have no idea where to start or what to do or what to get. I have walked the makeup aisles at the store lately but there is so much. I have tried to watch what my wife buys but since she is not starting from scratch, I am not sure what I need or don't at this point. I have very thin lips so that is one area I want to work on as well as minimize my nose as much as possible. With that said, what do you all recommend I get to start?

Oh, and while my wife knows, she is leery of makeup and wig at this point so this is something I need to keep quiet for now so obviously I don't want to break the bank as she watches the finances.

Hugs!

Bobbi

Link to comment

I watched many tutorials on u tube probably hundreds and then slowly developed a plan from what i felt would work for me i did make mistakes and found that starting with the cheap stuff is a good way to find what works as you will wind up with a lot of things that just dont work once you find your look then go to the good stuff it is worth it

bobbisue :)

Link to comment
Guest Sarah Faith

I'm gonna echo what the poster above said.. Youtube tutorials will go a long way.. When I was first transitioning many moons ago I really wanted to learn how to do makeup.. So I bought a bunch of cosmetics and gave it a try... The result did not end well I looked pretty terrible... So I ended up watching tons of youtube tutorial videos from some of my favorite musicians and what not as well as just other people on youtube.. Well this gave me an idea of what to buy, what techniques I wanted to try.. From there it was just practice, doing it every day and always trying to do better.. With experience came knowledge of what looked good on me and what looked kinda bleh... and from there I was able to make more informed decisions.. now a days I am very good with my make up and I dont have some giant supply of stuff I'll never use. I have a small bag with all of my cosmetics and I use pretty much all of it fairly regularly. So I guess all in all, tutorials and trial and error are your best bets.

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

I also watched lots and lots of Youtube video's as well as visiting various websites.

My thoughts are to just play around a bit and get used to the ideas. Remember to moistuise and keep your skin in good condition. Also remember less is more with regard to makeup. It is very easy to overdo it (which I do often? :unsure: ). There are a lot of variables. It may well be that your wife's face shape, hair colour, skin type and tone etc vary from yours so products and ideas she uses may not be ideal for you.

I remember one website I used quite a bit in the early days. Called Nerdy Girl - It appealed to me as I am a bit nerdy :D

Hope it helps :)

Tracy

Link to comment

Hi Bobbi,

Another way to go at this is going to one of the better makeup stores or counters and getting some lessons. Most are very accommodating and understanding; it won't be the first time they've been asked. After all, it doesn't matter who they sell to, they really just want to make a sale. What I've done in the past when trying to update my look or change it is to approach and explain and if they're receptive and willing, set up some time. You'd be surprised at how accommodating some can be. i.e. They'll set some time with with you when the store opens or close to closing so it's not crowded etc.

And don't overlook drugstore makeup counters. Some still have an actual cosmetologist or at least a makeup expert in charge of the counter. And most products won't break the bank like some department stores can do.

I had a wonderful experience at the CVS where I live. I was looking for some new foundation for summer and a young lady was stocking product. She asked if she could help me find something. Normally I say no that I'm just fine but for some reason, I just said that I was looking for some new foundation but I wasn't sure. She bounced up and told me about herself and offered to help. She was in cosmetology school and more than willing to help. I certainly learned a few things specific to me and she was very helpful. She was able to use her kit to try a few different shades and techniques to see what looked best vs. what I was trying to accomplish and in the end I was very pleased. While your experience(s) may vary, you never know...

Link to comment
Guest Kaylee

I see Tracy mentioned face shape. Huge concideration for sure.

I would say start with studying your face and determine what your good points and bad points are.

I saw you mentioned this lips and a desire to thin your nose. Those self help tips are all over youtube as the ladies have already stated.

Find something positive though. The old adage "if you've got it, flaunt it comes to mind.

Me for example, I have a round face, high cheek bones and really long eyelashes. Mostly, I concentrate on my eyes to draw attention. Long, plus curl, plus mascara... equals stupid amount of eyelash.... and batting eyelashes is a weapon ha ha.

The bad, I have really heavy lids, and no amount of youtube videos helped me cope with that. It simply took many many hours in front of a mirror.

I know budget is always an issue, but certain things you should just not skimp on. A good face primer I feel is very important. It helps to smooth the skin, and helps keep all your hard work attached to your face. I use store brands of liquid foundation and powder as opposed to say "Sephora".

Loreal seems to be the only one who works with my skin tone (more of a pinkish hue). Only you can determine what works best for you, but going super cheap is a risky proposition. I also found pretty fast that having a few decent brushes makes a huge difference because the videos often say... blend blend blend.

Being fem is a lot of darn work. Had I known this before coming out... I would have started working on it sooo much sooner ha ha.

Good luck hon. Eventually it will all fall into place and only take 1 hour instead of 2 ;P.

Hugs,

Kaylee

Link to comment

Things, I suggest to get started:

Foundation/BB-Creame

Concealer

Blush

Eye-liner,black

Eye-shadow (have fun with the colors)

Mascara-Black,

Eye-brow crayon/pencil (match your eyebrow hair color)

Beard concealer

Bronzer (optional)

A good brush set

Make up remover

Nail polish

Nail polish remover.

Lipstick

Lip liner

BTW-Not cheap!!!

Minimum stuff would be blush, an eye shadow, a BB Cream, lip liner, lipstick, blush and mascara. You can then just get a blush brush, an eye shadow brush and a brush for the BB cream.

Hugs,

Marcie

Link to comment
Guest Danielle J

Another thing you can try is a virtual makeover Mary Kay has an app that you can download your picture to so can try different colors and styles on and see what works best for your coloring. I also had heavy eyelids and was able to have surgery covered by my insurance because it actually affected my peripheral vision

Hugs Danielle

Link to comment
Guest Sarah Faith

Hi Bobbi,

Another way to go at this is going to one of the better makeup stores or counters and getting some lessons. Most are very accommodating and understanding; it won't be the first time they've been asked. After all, it doesn't matter who they sell to, they really just want to make a sale. What I've done in the past when trying to update my look or change it is to approach and explain and if they're receptive and willing, set up some time. You'd be surprised at how accommodating some can be. i.e. They'll set some time with with you when the store opens or close to closing so it's not crowded etc.

And don't overlook drugstore makeup counters. Some still have an actual cosmetologist or at least a makeup expert in charge of the counter. And most products won't break the bank like some department stores can do.

I had a wonderful experience at the CVS where I live. I was looking for some new foundation for summer and a young lady was stocking product. She asked if she could help me find something. Normally I say no that I'm just fine but for some reason, I just said that I was looking for some new foundation but I wasn't sure. She bounced up and told me about herself and offered to help. She was in cosmetology school and more than willing to help. I certainly learned a few things specific to me and she was very helpful. She was able to use her kit to try a few different shades and techniques to see what looked best vs. what I was trying to accomplish and in the end I was very pleased. While your experience(s) may vary, you never know...

Well getting help finding the right shade of foundation is usually a pretty good idea, I did that as well. I would agree that it might be helpful learning what techniques might compliment ones features better.. So definitely a good way to start, though tutorials will also definitely help. The one thing that regardless of how you start nothing is going to substitute practice, practice, and more practice. No one is going to be able to teach someone to draw a razor sharp clean line on their own eye lid. Makeup is a bit of an art in its self and takes time and practice.

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   2 Members, 0 Anonymous, 176 Guests (See full list)

    • missyjo
    • Petra Jane
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      80.7k
    • Total Posts
      768.7k
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      12,033
    • Most Online
      8,356

    ArtavikenGenderflui
    Newest Member
    ArtavikenGenderflui
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. afraid of self
      afraid of self
    2. Chaidoesart
      Chaidoesart
      (14 years old)
    3. Faith57
      Faith57
    4. Joyce Ann
      Joyce Ann
      (70 years old)
    5. Kelly21121
      Kelly21121
      (56 years old)
  • Posts

    • RaineOnYourParade
      happy trans birthday! I can't speak personally on the subject, but I hope hormones bring you the changes you're looking for <3 
    • MaeBe
      That’s super healthy, to see that something that becomes common has less effect on you and that you are able to decipher these feelings.   Sadly, this trend tends to only deaden good feelings as we tend not to let bad feelings attenuate the same way.   I have noticed less euphoria, but still feel the dysphorias that I have. Sometimes the good sneaks in and reminds me, but often time it’s just me seeing myself in the mirror and being comfortable about what I see when embracing my realized self. I may not get the same buzz I once did, but I don’t feel incongruous when looking at a more “drab” reflection.    Wishing you strength, you are amazing!
    • KayC
      Congratulations! and Happy Trans Birthday @LittleSam! That is such a BIG milestone.  I can still remember walking out of my clinic with my first HRT presciption.  I was on Cloud-9.  Wishing you all the best in the start of your new Journey!
    • missyjo
      maebe thank you I try to be. I thank God for blessings, try to share them, beg forgiveness for my shortcomings n vow to try to do better...2 priests have said no, God doesn't condemn you just for being trans...but apparently evangelicals do   I shall vtry dear thank you  
    • MaeBe
      Meet him at the being good to others part of Christianity. At the heart of it, there are excellent tenets of the faith. Those that condemn are judging, Jesus would have us be selfless; stone casting and all that. Are you a good person? Are you putting good into the world? If your gender is an issue for God, let God judge. In the mortal realm, let your actions be heard. 
    • missyjo
      and just fi sweeten it..I'm catholic n he hasn't been for years..he's evangelical..whatever that is
    • MaeBe
      Let’s stick to cite-able fact. Most of my posts have been directly in relation to LGBTQ+ rights as it pertains to P2025 and I have drawn direct links between people, their quotes, and their agenda. I have made reference to the cronyism that P2025 would entail as well, by gutting, not cutting, broad swathes of government and replacing it with “conservative warriors” (I can get you the direct quote, but rest assured it’s a quote). All this does is constantly force the cogs to be refitted, not their movement. To say that agencies have directly defied a President is a bit much, the EPA did what Trump told them to do at the direct harm to the environment, the department of agriculture did the same by enacting the administrations forced move to KC which decimated the USDA.      How about Betsy DeVoss for Education? Or Bannon for anything? What about the revolving Chief of Staff position that Trump couldn’t stay filled? Or the Postmaster General, who did much to make the USPS worse?   Let’s not mix politics with racism, sexism, or any other ism. Because Trump made mainly white, male, appointments—many of them not, arguably, people fit for service—or unwilling to commit to term. I can argue this because, again, he’s up for election and will do what he did before (and more of the same, his words).   Please delineate how the selected diversity appointments have negatively affected the US, other than being black, women, or queer? Representation matters and America benefits when its people are inspired and empowered.
    • missyjo
      ok ladies if I've asked this before I'm sorry please delete    ok so I have 2vsiblings..one is overly religious..n preachy n domineering..so he keeps trying to talk with me n I'd like to..but he always falls into this all knowing all wise domineering preachy thing tjaz tells me he's praying for christ to beat Satan for control of my soul..which is doomed to hell bc I'm transgender    I'd like to try to have a civil conversation n try to set him strait n gsin a cooperation n real conversation    any suggestions?
    • missyjo
      abigail darling what about extensions or a wig? be brave n hang in there  to thine own self be true  good luck
    • RaineOnYourParade
      When I first started figuring things out, I got a lot more euphoria. Every time a friend would use he/they pronouns for me, I'd get this bubbly feeling, and seeing myself look masculine made me really happy. Dysphoric state felt more normal, so I guess I noticed the pain it caused me less.   Now, it's more just that my pronouns and such things feel natural, and dysphoria is a lot stronger -- I know what's natural, so experiencing the opposite is more jarring than everything. The problem is, most of my natural experiences are from friends, and I rarely get properly gendered by strangers, much less by my family. I've found myself unable to bind in months due to aches, colds,, and not wanting to risk damage.    It partially makes me want to go back to the beginning of my journey, because at least then I got full euphoria. I'm pretty sure it'll be like this until I medically transition, or at the very least get top surgery (you know all those trans dudes online with tiny chests? Not me, unfortunately). It's a bit depressing, but at least I know that, eventually, there's a way out of this.
    • RaineOnYourParade
      Major mood, right here ^^^    I've listened to Lumineers to a long time (a major portion of it by osmosis via my mom), so that is almost painfully relatable
    • RaineOnYourParade
      As for getting a button-up/formal pants suit, you can try to talk to her more -- Cis women in tuxes have worn tuxes in recent years, after all, (for example, Zendaya) so it can still be a relatively safe topic. For jumpsuits, I'd recommend going with a simple one with a blazer, if you can -- this'll make it look overall more masculine. There's a lot of good brands, but going for one without a lot of extra glitz on it will make it look less feminine under a blazer. I don't know many specific brands though since I usually just get my stuff from chain stores, sorry :<   When it comes to your hair, if you can't cut it, you can look up tutorials on fluffing it up instead. If you can pull it off, it can look a lot shorter and more androgynous instead!
    • RaineOnYourParade
      As far as I'm aware, he wasn't -- he just sometimes wore skirts, which was why it was a question in the first place.   In my opinion, part of that is because of the way press spares attention on issues like that. As a bit of a true crime nut and what I see: Child predator cases' (and cases of a sexual nature in general) press focus on those with an AMAB perpetrator generally, and very rarely are AFAB perpetrators given much press time or even getting tried due to a whole bunch of issues I'm not gonna get into. Because of this, when you see these types of cases and a boy is the victim, it's almost always a queer person who is the one who committed a crime that gets press. Therefore, with the amount of cases seen with this type of perpetrator (and due to the fact "99% of queer people are not sexual criminals" doesn't attract eyes), the human brain can kind of naturally makes an association with it. It's not right, but it's also a fault I think falls partially on the media.   That's all my opinion, though!   This is extra confusing to me, as a feminine man is usually viewed as gay. If someone is refusing the acknowledge the existence of trans people, then gay would be the societal connection that comes after, I think. So, that sorta implies that trans women wouldn't be interested in women in the first place by those assumptions? Of course, trans lesbians exist (most trans women I know like women, actually), but it's a little ridiculous to me that people will deny trans people's existence, call all feminine AMAB people gay, and say that trans people are looking to peep all in the same breath.   Wow, this was a lot longer of a response than I was planning to write--
    • Abigail Genevieve
      For one thing, the practice of putting into office wholly unqualified people simply because of racial, sexual or national characteristics.  It is no accident that Karine is a Haitian immigrant, Black and lesbian.  Kamala Harris is a Black female. Pete Buttigieg is gay.  Often you find that Biden explicitly stated that this is why he hired them, not because of competence, but because they checked so many boxes on his little list.  It makes a mockery of people and is a disservice to the US. 
    • Abigail Genevieve
      I am not sure why people are in favor of unaccountable agencies with bloated budgets and wasteful spending. 
  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.

Legal

Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules

Hosting

Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.

Sponsorship

Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
×
×
  • Create New...