I need encouragement

[Jenny Leigh]

I have been drawn toward comfortable women's clothes for most days of my life.

My wife of 28 years has always knew wn I enjoy wearing panties, tights, shapers and friendly stretching yoga pants and Capri pants.

once my doctors told me to wear tights for circulation purposes, I decided to start collecting a larger wardrobe of tights that were of assorted colors, and even some patters.

my wife has said whatever gives me comfort, she is fine with. But as fr bras and tops, she doesn't understand why I want to wear these more feminine garments. My answer is simple. When I dress as a lady, I feel much more comfortable and more at peace. I also feel the support of a bra offers me better posture, and it relieves the strain I feel on my breasts(I have larger than normal man boobs). 

I must confess, I would rather dress every day, and be accepted as the more soft version of me. I still love EV and am attracted to women, and couldn't imagine ever being gay. But if I dress as I do, and still desire my wife, does that make me lesbian? I like my male parts and could never part with them. 

I want to allay any fears my wife may have about my feminine side. But I also want to be the best me I can be. I don't want to hide in my bedroom for the rest of my life. 

I am disabled, suffer from leukemia, and I have no idea how long I have left. But as long as I am hear, I want to enjoy being more pretty, gentle and fulfilled, and yes, more comfortable and sexy.

any suggestions? We have one full-grown adult daughter. I don't think she will protest, as she knows my situation. But I don't want to be misunderstood...I am not gay. I am just a man who wants to feel comfortable in my skin.

[AnonLP]

Hi Jenny

When i wear bra's and knickers to bed i also have that 'at peace' feeling.i only wear mens underwear if i have to. I cant wear outer clothing atm.

Many people automatically associate men wearing womens clothes with being gay, including my wife. I think she does it to wind me up, but, wearing womens clothing has absolutely nothing to do with sexuality. There are many straight men who like to dress up. If i could dress up and be accepted as a girl everyday then i would and i would still be the same old me who likes women  

I hope everything works out for you

Natalie

[Charlize]

I can only suggest that you are as honest with your wife as you are here.  It may help to see a therapist as well .  Mine was certainly helpful in understanding and accepting myself and also helped my wife and i.  Time here understanding that i was not alone helped as well.  

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[Guest bobbiw]

Hi Jenny,

My wife doesn't know about my CD'ing yet so I've been doing a fair bit of research as I work up the courage and pick the best timing to tell her.  Everything I've read says loving, caring, honesty is the best policy!

On 12/30/2016 at 0:39 AM, Jenny Leigh said:

My answer is simple. When I dress as a lady, I feel much more comfortable and more at peace. I also feel the support of a bra offers me better posture, and it relieves the strain I feel on my breasts(I have larger than normal man boobs).

My conversation isn't as "simple" in its honesty as your answer since I have decades long explaining to do, but my plan is honesty with a huge helping of love.  Charlize pointed out the honesty component in talking with your wife.  My hope is by being honest about my CD'ing when talking to my wife and applying that same honesty to how much I love her, the conversation will go well.

My suggestion is to focus on your love and care for your wife in the discussion and point out that wearing bras and women's tops will enable you to be a better person for her.  In reality, this is what your post conveys to me.  You know your situation better than any of us, but I think if you focus on how much you love and care for your wife it will allay most if not all the fears she may have.

Hugs,

Bobbi

[Emmacd]

Hey.

Being Gay and Cross dressing are two entirely separate things, and it is unfortunate that they are so readily packaged together.

As something further to note here: Almost every woman living in western society is a cross dresser to some extent. Why is it ok for women to wear pants but not for guys to wear a skirt or bra?

Luv Em x

[Tanya]

Well if you want to get technical I am a CD and I love being wit men when I am in the girl mode so I guess you can say I am gay or bi or whatever...but you are right in the sense that most people who CD are not gay.  I also still love women.  I  know I am very complicated.lol