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Guest Vicky

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Yes, HRT may be at doorsteps for me!! I finally took courage and shared with my doctor that I am transgender, and need help. For his questions I talked to him about my fears and that I really want to start taking hormones. He also told me that he will find out what to do and "start the ball rolling" ! I could not believe I got so positive response!

But I am still full of fears, especially when it comes about my wife. She already knows that I am transgender. Coworkers also surely noticed a lot of changes in my look, and started to make occasional friendly comments. I have big fear how to gain acceptance from my family once they will see that I REALLY change?! Hence I am mixed up a lot about my feelings and I don't even know what to do and what to ask or say?

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I know what you mean Vicky, it can be intimidating as hell. For me, I took it one step at a time. Slow and steady wins the race. Too much change and too fast will throw your life into chaos. Just pick your way carefully and take each step one at a time. I assume you have a therapist of some kind? If not, I highly recommend it, they can help in many ways you may not understand. Congratulations on such a good response from your doctor, having your GP on board and willing to help is wonderful! Best of luck with everything, and remember, we are here for you!

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My GP was very accepting and helpful as well.  I think she would have handled  HRT but i was fortunate to have a clinic close enough to use.  My family was difficult for me as much as for them.  It all took time but once i got to a certain point i simply went full time and handled each situation as it arrived.  Keep in touch here.  Sharing can help.  Also if you get get to a GT either in person or on line and or by Skype it can be very helpful for you and your family.  My GT was very helpful with family, both with my fears and theirs.

 

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Thank you girls for the good advise to to take it slow, and step by step. When I came out to my wife, she got very frustrated, so I am really fortunate that we stayed in the relationship. Yes, I am afraid, but also so excited about the future. I can't imagine how great it is when you can have a better opportunity for self expression, better clothing, way less stress because of transition issues. My GP told me that he will talk to a psychiatrist who works there in the same building! I was very happy about that, because my situation may improve if I get help. Not yet sure how soon I can start on HRT, but I trust that my GP will figure it out.

I still can't believe that I came out to my doctor :)

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Good for you, Vicky!! Yes, everyone around me knew something was up, and then when I started HRT, within three months the physical changes were obvious enough that there's little way to no notice. Very few people actually took the imitative to actually approach me. I will also finish transition this year, or bust trying!! hahahaha

 

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Fiona, 

Woww, then let us put this way: by the end of this year I still surely be busted but still keep on trying.. :) 

At work, I dress as feminine as I can but without really coming out, and sometimes I use very basic make-up and lipsticks, and my nails are done too. So some of my female co-workers already reacted that "you are pretty", and "the coffee dropped into your cleavage" and such. Others said "you would not look good as a girl" and "do you grow your hair to have a ponytail?" and "your earrings are running with you and your long hair follows them". But when they will see me actually, when already on HRT for a while, things will naturally fell in place, I guess? Or out of place? But true, I haven't been approached for a real conversation about what is happening with me and why , just yet

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Fiona, 

Woww, then let us put this way: by the end of this year I still surely be busted but still keep on trying.. :) 

At work, I dress as feminine as I can but without really coming out, and sometimes I use very basic make-up and lipsticks, and my nails are done too. So some of my female co-workers already reacted that "you are pretty", and "the coffee dropped into your cleavage" and such. Others said "you would not look good as a girl" and "do you grow your hair to have a ponytail?" and "your earrings are running with you and your long hair follows them". But when they will see me actually, when already on HRT for a while, things will naturally fell in place, I guess? Or out of place? But true, I haven't been approached for a real conversation about what is happening with me and why , just yet

It's actually quite liberating! And you're clearly more 'dressed' at work than I am yet!

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My profession may be a little advantage though, because I work as a nurse. This is why it is easier for me having more feminine clothing at work :) 

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