The times they are a changin'

[Guest AshleighP]

There was a time not too long ago that when I was home alone and dresssed, I would run and start stripping off clothes at the slightest noise outside. I was SURE some one was at my house and was going to catch me as Ashleigh. Lately, there has be no panic when I hear sounds. My thought is, if it's my wife coming home, she should have sent a text telling me she was on her way, as she always does. If it's anyone else, I just don't answer the door. 

It seems the more comfortable I become with the real me, the less I care about getting "caught". I mean, what's the worst that could happen?

[Charlize]

I certainly remember the terror of being caught being myself.  It left me slowly.  I'm so glad it's gone and years of fear and shame have gone with it.  How do you spell relief?  Acceptance......

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[tracy_j]

I remember those times, although when I think about it I was bound to be found out with both my partner and a couple of teenage children. Dresses are hard to hide  

There was always an inner conflict - doing anything to avoid being seen and really wanting to be seen so things were in the open and I could appear as me.

Tracy

 

[Guest Wanda Michelle]

Wow! That's pretty amazing, Ashleigh. I feel the same. Like you, I'd be worried at the slightest noise. Now, I truly don't care as much. I even dare to take my dog out walking wearing feminine clothing or to sit on my back porch and relax. Older and bolder I guess. As you said "What's the worse that could happen?"

Hugs, ?

Wanda

 

[Guest sandra6sandy9sand]

Hi Ashleigh, you are absolutely correct. I have been running from sounds while dressed at home most of my life.  These days I am much more relaxed and don't run to hide when I hear sounds from outside. 

I wear panties every day and a bra most of the time under woman's pants, shorts and shirts.  I'm dressed as completely as possible each day in feminine cloths that are acceptable in public.  My dresses and skirts are still relegated to indoor use.

Life is better with self acceptance, honesty and openness.

Huggs

Sandra

[Guest Eve Caillard]

My goodness, Ashleigh, I understand how you feel about being 'caught'. I am SO skittish at the moment.  I will wear a skirt and carry a pair of jeans around the house with me for a quick change. I just retired from work, yet I can't settle to cross-dressing like I used to.

I find it so soul-destroying. I wish I could relax. It is ruining what I want to do. My only happiness is under-dressing because it is hidden.

Sadly, I can't relax and just say "sod it".  I have teenage children who are in the dark about their gruff, down to earth, northern UK dad actually being a cross-dresser. My wife knows, but disapproves.

I often wonder if it is better I come out, and let the kids know, so I can be myself. I think my daughter would be OK with it (she's 21, very 'modern' and accepting of folks), but not sure about son.

It is not an easy thing. I envy anyone who relaxes and take life as it is. I wish I knew what to do.

 

xx Eve