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After 4ish years of hiding from it I suppose I finally realised I needed to tell someone so I came out to my mum a couple of weeks ago. The conversation was awkward as I didn't quite know how to explain myself however she accepted me and is very supportive of my decision. Apart from her and my brother none of my other family know, they are for the most part quite open minded so I don't fear rejection but I'm not quite sure how to bring it up or put it into words.

At the moment I generally dress in quite feminine clothing but present as a male apart from when I'm at home where I present as female and lounge about in women's pyjamas.

I thought the idea of transitioning too difficult for a time. I often used my excema as an excuse because it makes it difficult to deal with my hairy legs and face or that I wouldn't be able to take the hate that trans people face.

I think now I need to go forward with transitioning as puting it off and denying myself I feel will be more dangerous for me than anything caused by transitioning.

I know I'm not all that knowledgable about all the trans terminology so forgive me if I've misuse any of the words.

Anyways, my name is Charlotte I'm from the UK and I'm looking forward to making friends with you all :)

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Welcome Charlotte.  You are certainly not alone in your struggle.  I found being with others here has helped me.  Hope you found the same.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Welcome to The Playground Charlotte (that is my granddaughter's name).  I too have very nasty eczema and have had it since babyhood and of all the problems of full transitioning, it has been the least of my real obstacles.  Mine has been helped by HRT, and many of the skin care products I once used with limited success now really help.  My Endocrinologist actually thinks that some of mine was hormone related.  Dermatologists are also using aestheticians to their office staff who help us find the right make-up and types to help our looks, and be sure our skin is healthy.  It is more fun as a girl that way.

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Hi, welcome to Laura's! For me getting to where I am at was a lot of taking it day by day and trying not to get overwhelmed by the entirety of what I was doing. I find make-up fun, and luckily have not reacted to badly to any of it yet. 

Hugs,

Marcie

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Hi Charlotte,

Welcome to Laura's!

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf?

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Welcome to the Playground, Charlotte.  I hope you find here the friendship, support and information that you need to succeed.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Hi Charlotte

Welcome :)

There are a few people from the UK here so don't hesitate to ask questions and join in as you wish. There is a wealth of information and experience around

Tracy x

 

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Welcome to Laura's!

Congratulations! You've just begun a journey to become who you know yourself to be!

Love and Light!

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Hi Charlotte

Welcome to our Playgrown.  Glad you found us.  We'll do our best to help you along on your journey.  It's the same journey that all of us are traveling on.  My journey is mostly finished, but I got started in 2012 with enormous help from folks here on Laura's. You are in good company here.  

So welcome 

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Kathryn

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Hi Charlotte and welcome to Laura's. Happy that you found the site.

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Hello Charlotte and welcome! 

I have to second what Marcie wrote.  Take it easy and take your time.  There really is no rush.  I'm over 60 so I know you've got plenty of time to reach that place where you are happy! 

On 6/6/2017 at 7:13 PM, MarcieMarie12 said:

For me getting to where I am at was a lot of taking it day by day and trying not to get overwhelmed by the entirety of what I was doing.

Please join in the conversation.   As Tracy notes there are a number of UK members.  I sure they can possibly assist with specific information on the NHS care that you may have.  We're from all over, with a wide variety of experiences.  Now you're one of us too.

Jani 

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Hi Charlotte!

It is really nice to meet you!  I was in the same position as you, but the people and friends here have helped me through a lot of my issues.  I am sure they can do the same for you.

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