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Mia Bunn

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Hello everyone! ^^

Ive been amidst a gender crisis for some time and to find this hub for those between and moving on the gender spectrum has been a godsend. Being here only a short time Ive already made a little progress in finding myself. Ive always been a very tolerant person and the more my life went on the more I felt I was tolerateing being male. My boss could have me work 14 hours without a break and I would just accept it... Its about time I take charge of my gender amongst many other things in my life. Im hoping here I can get a decent grasp of my gender identity and find strength to execute the necessary lifestyle changes. The concept of becoming a minority has been keeping me at bay but I need to start doing what makes me happy.

Thank you for having me here!

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Hi Mia and welcome to Laura's!

Probably the first step is seeing a gender therapist to help you sort through your feelings. For myself, this was very helpful when at your stage of things. Other things I did such as under dressing, and working on presenting female and gauging how I honestly felt about it. I would not have been happy as a cross dresser or genderfluid. I realized for me going back and forth was not who I was, and as time went on this got more painful.   

Hugs,

Marcie

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Mia the beauty you see in this place is because it reflects you.  I came here uncertain and confused about my gender issues but as i found acceptance.   i found a beauty as well.  It is something i hadn't seen before.  Today my mirror is a place to preen a bit and make things better but even before i "pretty up" i've found peace with my reflection as i never have before. Doubts, frustration, fear and shame poke their heads out on occasion but quickly fade when i remember what it was like at the beginning.  

Sure i lost that white male privilege but so what.  I'm a happy member of the human race and i don't have to be at the "top" of the pile.  I like my perspective now.

We help each other here by simply being ourselves.   Glad you've joined us.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize 

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Hi Mia,

Welcome to Laura's! Here at Laura's, we find lots of acceptance and support from knowing we are not alone with all of this. I'm glad you've found us!

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf?

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Hi Mia!

Welcome and nice to meet you!  I can also tell you that this place has saved me in so many ways.  It is nice to be in a sanctuary with others like me that support one another.

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Thank you all for the welcome!

Whenever I feel the need to stop and look over my shoulder Ill be thrilled to have you behind me. ♥

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Welcome Mia! Yes, we are always there! We give support when needed and get support when needed, we are family!

Love and Light!

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If you're here to "get a grasp" on your gender issues, Mia, then I'm sure you will succeed.  It worked for me, and for so many others over the years.  We can't, and won't, tell you what the right path is for you, but we can help you figure it out for yourself, or at least provide the answers that will help you.  Please ask all the questions you wish to, and we'll be here to provide the best, most honest answers we can.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Hello Mia and welcome!  I have to agree with all that my friends have written.  This place and the people here are wonderful.  Please do join in the conversation.

Jani

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