Being Honest

[Guest angie]

I have a male friend Scott,

Scotty always saw me as just another gg.(thanks Scotty)

All my friends are trans men and women.He would/will see one of my girlfriends,

and make a comment about her being a transsexual.Naturally,I would jump to her

defense.Informing him of the facts of being a transsexual,that ladies and gentlemen

like us have no choice.Like most straight folks,his education on trans comes from

those wonderful shows like Springer.Jading his view on not only who we are,but why

we are.The other day while sitting on my front porch drinking coffee and having our

usual morning visit,I outed myself to him.Needless to say,he was stunned that the

lady he had always seen as a(real woman) was/is one of those kinds of people.

Then,I grew my face out for four days for my next round of clearing.Scott sat down

with me yesterday,before my clearing,and just checked me out.This morning I was

out front as usual.Scott came up sat down next to me,and said,"Angie,you are still

a very pretty woman,even if you were a man." Sometimes being honest has it's rewards.

Big hugs,

Angie

[Guest Donna Jean]

Angie.......

That was very moving and beautiful.......

There IS hope......

Please give Scotty a big HUGG for me......OK? How wonderful ...and to out yourself to him was love in itself....

I came out to my electrologist yesterday and was accepted....it's an incredible feeling. Although I present male right now for the most part...it made me feel like a million dollars!

Angie you are blessed with friends like that!

Good for you, Girlfriend!

Donna Jean

[Guest julia_d]

He sounds like a really nice guy.. didn't instantly come out with anything but went off and had a think.. decided you are a friend and what he thinks about the whole situation.

Give him a hug from me.. If I wasn't married already I would be asking for his phone number XD

[Guest AshleeB]

naww thats sweet! thats a really motivating story... im glad you shared that with all of us and im even more glad it worked out so perfectly

luv Ashlee

[Guest Leah1026]

Don't want to start a fight....

But you are a "real" woman and you were NEVER a man. Male bodied, but never a man.

I refuse to give in when it comes to my identity. I am a woman and not a "transsexual" (noun).

That said I transitioned on the job several years ago. Some people know, but due to turnover and size of the place (hospital), most do not. In my experience 95% of folks who know will never get it. They will put up a good front, but inside they can't relate. Part of transition is accepting this fact, having a thick skin and to keep moving forward. In time some may even forget you're medical history, all that matters is your job performance. Over time your self-confidence builds and what others think starts to matter less and less. Arlene Lev wrote a book about this process and used this term "emergence" to describe it. In short you go from living for others and trying to fulfill their expectations, to being YOU and living up to your OWN expectations. Jamison Green likened the process to growing up. Because we are incongruent (brain-body mismatch) we become frozen in time mentally during adolescence. Through the process of transition we come out of that stasis, move forward and mature into the people we should have been.

You are a woman.

[Guest leo]

thats great news!

you friend scott is one in a million

keep hold of him

[Guest shanna_bana_1]

you need to lie to cover up your lies. don't even get me started. honesty is great.

[Guest angie]

You are a woman.

Sweety,I know I am.

That being said,I embrace the term Transsexual Woman.For that is the stage I am at.

One day,following my surgery,I will be just another woman,no longer trans anything.

My ex and daughters recognise my claim to womanhood,even stating I am a woman.

They are the only ones that matter to me.For now,I am a Transwoman and proud to

lay claim to that title.It's been a long time coming.

Big Hugs,

Angie

[Guest Cait]

That is a pretty good story!!

I told my family and friends about my desire to transition, and it went over better than I thought it would.

do you think sometimes it affects people in how they look at themselves?

I often feel like the people i tell go thru all these changes, and in general I end the relationships.

Your lucky to have alot of people around you like yourself, it makes a big difference in your outlook on life.

Being the only person that I know in my city this way, life is pretty scary and lonely.

The worst part is how they incorporate their feelings into your Gender Outlook.

I guess it makes them uncomfortable?

I think we are pretty nice people across the board, I wonder why they act so stupid?

Cait

[Guest Cait]

I have a male friend Scott,

Scotty always saw me as just another gg.(thanks Scotty)

All my friends are trans men and women.He would/will see one of my girlfriends,

and make a comment about her being a transsexual.Naturally,I would jump to her

defense.Informing him of the facts of being a transsexual,that ladies and gentlemen

like us have no choice.Like most straight folks,his education on trans comes from

those wonderful shows like Springer.Jading his view on not only who we are,but why

we are.The other day while sitting on my front porch drinking coffee and having our

usual morning visit,I outed myself to him.Needless to say,he was stunned that the

lady he had always seen as a(real woman) was/is one of those kinds of people.

Then,I grew my face out for four days for my next round of clearing.Scott sat down

with me yesterday,before my clearing,and just checked me out.This morning I was

out front as usual.Scott came up sat down next to me,and said,"Angie,you are still

a very pretty woman,even if you were a man." Sometimes being honest has it's rewards.

Big hugs,

Angie

is he beaming people up?

C

[Guest angie]

That is a pretty good story!!

I told my family and friends about my desire to transition, and it went over better than I thought it would.

Being the only person that I know in my city this way, life is pretty scary and lonely.

Cait

Cait,

I have a young girlfriend 28,who is transitioning in a midsize town,the only TS around.

She is living life authentically as a female,has been since this past October.

I guarantee it is tough for her,guys hitting on her,name calling,staring,all the usual crud

that happens to us,but in a concentrated form.Ahhhhh but,Jazzy is becoming a very thick skinned,stronger,more confident and assured woman by the day for this adversity also.

Age or local has nothing to do with determination and the need to live an authentic life.

Hugs,

Angie