Gender Dysphoria

[Evie]

What are some of the lesser known aspects of gender dysphoria? I want to prove to myself that I am truly a girl and I was hoping to find some examples of minor dysphoria. Also anything that you realized to be dysphoria after transitioning?

[Dev]

For me, it's a sort of cognitive dissonance with my anatomy.  I know I've got male bits, but my mind refuses to acknowledge the fact.  It operates under the assumption that I've got female bits.  Phantom anatomy is pretty common with trans folks pre-op.

[Evie]

I don't really have a dislike for my private parts. I mainly want to become a girl for the girly activities and having a female body will allow me to be socially accepted while doing those activities.

[clair dufour]

Its how you act and interact with girls not how you look. Some girls let gay and boys who don't fit in with boy groups into their circle. But, you got to have some girl brain and ego. Good thing is many  girls are now trying hard to grow their boy brain and ego so they  can succede in the world. Keep in mind they read men  better than most men read women so don't try to fake it.

 

[Evie]

Any advice on how to heighten my girl personality? I want to show I'm a girl without physically showing it.

[Dev]

Here I think we're veering into dangerous territory.  If we suggest ways to artificially alter your personality, that takes away from the real you.  The best way to show you're a girl is to simply be one.  I don't mean physically - I mean through pursuing whatever your natural interests are, however "girly" they may be.  That's the way to show signs, if that's what you want to do, without sacrificing being who  you truly are.

[Charlize]

I completely agree with Dev.  Be yourself!  That doesn't mean trying to be someone your not but simply accepting the person you are.  We are all a bit of a mixture of genders.  Enjoy that and relax into yourself.  It's you.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[Jani]

Just be you.  Our personalities are a big mixture.  You can enjoy both girl and boy things.  At a young age girls can be quite cliquey but they can also be empathetic and love to share.  Guys can tend to hold their feelings close so not to expose perceived weaknesses.  Its these things that show others we're human and worth knowing and caring about. 

10 hours ago, clair dufour said:

Its how you act and interact with girls not how you look.

You don't need to paint your nails or wear anything specific to fit in.  Be you, Be kind. 

Jani  

[Alicia]

   Something that really helped me was watching videos online about transitioning. There were trans-women talking about how they felt before transition and afterwards.

I've noticed how much I could relate to them. It was crazy to me, but I felt just like them. From depression to specific dysphoric feelings. And in time, after doubting myself and worrying I'm not truly "transgender", I realized that it's just me. That's who I am, and I learned to accept it. Acceptance is hard.

[DenimAndLace]

I used to have this REALLY strong aversion to ANYTHING feminine so no one would suspect I was gay or, god forbid, "perverted" not to mention transgender. I wouldn't wear anything remotely feminine or do anything feminine according to western gender roles.  I was hiding what I wanted to do, wear, say and who I wanted to be with from the world in order to reinforce my masculinity and, I suppose, repress my true identity. I'd then insert things like feigned interest in sports to maintain my masculine persona. All that for the comfort of those around me and for fear of what God would do to me for my "wickedness". In transition, I was able to relax and just be myself.  It's not about creating a NEW, false persona.  I love what William Paul Young said though he wasn't speaking about a gender transition.

The process of transformation isn't about becoming something we weren't, it's about unvailing what we were the whole time.  ~William Paul Young