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Sharon Aml

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Congrats.  Sounds like life is great.   Looking forward to your next post.  

I'm very happy you and your wife are working through this.  As me and my wife are. For me the hardest part is to talk to her about all of this. 

Do you have a hard time talking to your wife or has it gotten easier?

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Ok the wife topic.

It seems the more in your face I am the more pushback I get

when I first found myself and accepted my journey I was over the top. As I have traveled this road my priorities have shifted. Being on  HRT has calmed me down a bit.I am less about me and more about letting my wife adjust to the new situation in her life .We definitely have our ups and downs ! All I can say is one day at a time, relax and communicate with your Wife gently.

              All the best to everyone on their journey      

                                     Sharon Aml

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Sharon I'm happy to hear you've calmed down and are thinking more of your wife's concerns.  As a married person, you are both going through transition although she did not choose to.  One day at a time is a good start!   I agree wholeheartedly about keeping the lines of communication open and clear.  

 

My best to you both,

Jani 

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Well I’m headed into my 11th month HRT. Definitely getting better at the makeup ? 

I changed my profile picture . Still on the journey of a lifetime and very comfortable.

Happy Easter to all !

                                   Sharon Aml

 

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Happy Easter Sharon.  You look great.

 

Jani

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The road to acceptance began 

First and foremost fear would be the word which Summarizes it all 

Fear of loss

loss of family friends job all the things you think of loosing 

Fear it’s not really you 

It can’t be me it’s wrong in every way it has to be wrong it’s what we’re taught 

I spent many months trying to disprove my feelings until I couldn’t find a reason not to accept who I really am and believe me I worked hard at it 

Even after my personal acceptance there was fear of letting anyone know.I had such a hard time signing up here. If you read my story you will see the stars lined up I ended up at my Doc on HRT as the hormones took affect it Reaffirmed my choice 10 fold. I was not depressed or dysphoric I was just in need of being my true self.

SRS is not for me. Going out as myself is not for me I’m ok just being on HRT and self acceptance  As each day goes by I am more comfortable. I just take it one day at a time. My views are my own although some journeys I hear of Echo my own story. I don’t think anyone is to be judged as to how they should feel. We are all different. Well that’s my ramblings  

           

            Sharon Aml

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 I still do not know where this journey will take me . Like a vacation to a far away place it's going to take awhile to get there . It's just great to be on the road

                Sharon 

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Sharon you are on a journey that you do not know the destination of.  Smile and enjoy the trip.  It may take a short while or a lifetime.  Each day is a wonder.  

 

Jani

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Here I am at the one year mark on HRT still feeling great. I have had a lot of ups and a few downs along the way. This journey is not as forward as it was in the beginning. I’m still confident that I’m on the right path it’s just that the scenery along the way has become familiar. That’s not a bad thing. I am myself. I have found a lot of relief here throughout this past year listening to the Echos of my life through others I would like to Thank all in this community 

                                      All the best to everyone on their journey

                                                      Sharon Aml

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Happy anniversary!  The journey can be a long one, but the time goes by quickly.

Wishing the best for you.

 

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Brandi

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Thanks for checking in Sharon.  There is a lot to be said for being one's self.  Peace comes to mind.

 

Jani 

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Today I reflect on the choice I have made and understand a. Little bit more how someone else might not understand. That it’s that which drives us as humans. We are who we are never to be held down again. As I have traveled the path of transition I feel more at ease as each day goes by. Another day to affirm my choice ! 

                        All the best to everyone on their journey      

                                                Sharon 

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It is indeed a beautiful journey regardless of our path.

4 hours ago, Sharon Aml said:

I feel more at ease as each day goes by

This statement alone can comfort others.  Thank you for sharing.

 

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Charlize

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On 6/29/2018 at 4:39 AM, Sharon Aml said:

We are who we are never to be held down again.

Sharon, this is the gift.  You are free to be you.  

 

Hugs, Jani

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Hello to all !

One year has passed as of today since I wrote first time as myself ! 

The journey continues one day at a time.

Best of luck to all on your own journey

      Sharon Aml

 

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I truly enjoyed reading this great thread and timeline.  There are so many parallels in your life to mine and it's comforting to know I'm not the only one in this similar situation.  Also, I understand the "take it one day at a time" philosophy in your journey.  I am so glad I found this thread and look forward to future updates.  Someday, when I feel up to it, I want to open up like you have here. Thank you for sharing, Sharon Aml.

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 Self Acceptance 

 

 Feeling Held under the water almost to the point of drowning then bursting thru the surface frantically gasping for all the air you can get then finally calming down and breathing  I think I’m finally  breathing

 

       Sharon Aml

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10 hours ago, Sharon Aml said:

 Self Acceptance 

 

  Feeling Held under the water almost to the point of drowning then bursting thru the surface frantically gasping for all the air you can get then finally calming down and breathing  I think I’m finally  breathing

That's some really powerful poetic imagery, Sharon.  This is the exact feeling I had when I finally gave up fighting myself on my lifelong gender issue.  That acceptance which happened over a year ago now has allowed me to really start living life as it was intended.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan?

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I think I am,I feel I am, I physically am becoming  so   Maybe I am ! Now  someone says I am !     I must be me

              I know I am 

      Sharon Aml

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Sharon, you've always been.  Now you actually see and feel it.  Fantastic! 

 

On 4/18/2018 at 9:04 PM, Sharon Aml said:

 I still do not know where this journey will take me . Like a vacation to a far away place it's going to take awhile to get there . It's just great to be on the road

                Sharon 

Sometimes we go on "vacations" and find we like it so much we decide to stay permanently!  

 

We have seen the "real" Sharon and I'm happy you do too!  

 

Cheers, Jani 

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Well I passed the two year mark on HRT in June  The road has become familiar.

That familiarity translates to comfort. I find myself not even thinking about the road I’m on that often anymore . I guess that’s a good thing !

           All the best to everyone on their own journey  

                                Sharon Aml

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I think it is a very good thing Sharon.  It's funny though how when our gender issues fade into simply living our lives other issues seem to pop back up.  Life has it's ways of keeping us on our toes.  I try to practice accepting what comes as i often am unable to control it.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Sharon I was wondering where you've been!   I totally agree that familiarity is a good thing and comfort is where its at!  Settling in to just living the life is all its about.  I'm glad to hear from you.

 

Cheers, Jani

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