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First Therapist Appointment on Monday


katea

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So after a seemingly endless time, I've finally made it to this key milestone. This therapist came highly recommended and after chatting with her via email, I can see why. She knows what she is doing and has worked with a lot of transgendered people. I'm pretty confident that she's going to be a good match to work with. 

 

I'm less nervous than I thought I would be and more excited than expected. My sights are set and I've been able to press forward to this point. I feel like I'm looking down from a mountain across to the next that I will climb; but it feels closer and more within reach than I ever thought before. I know there is a lot more left to this journey, but at this moment I feel confidence and renewal of purpose. 

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Welcome Katea.

 I was both nervous and excited about my first therapy session.  I found it simply wonderful to finally be able to let so many feelings flow.  Just relax (as much as you can) and be honest.  Please let us know how it goes.  I know i was almost walking on a cloud and couldn't wait until my next appointment.

 You might want to take a moment and write a post in the introduction forum so more of us will get to say hi.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

 

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Having a first appointment with a therapist can be a little stress inducing but I found it to be a wonderful experience where I could unburden my soul without judgement.  Good luck at your meeting.

 

Jani 

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I felt having someone to talk to with out judgement really helped me too. In some ways it was an outlet for my anxiety's about coming out to my family. Once that was done, the therapist was their to help me navigate my transition with all its ups and downs.

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Weird that post came up as my first post. I was a semi-active member back before the forums changed over. I can actually see some of my old posts...  oh, silly technology.

I have been super busy since starting this thread. Sorry for my late reply.

Saw the therapist and things went very well. We had discussed a bunch of stuff in email like how long she had been working with Transgender clients, things about referrals, discussions on how things typically proceed with letters of recommendation and their time frame, and such other things. So most of the session was a getting to know each other and allowing her to get an idea of where I am coming from. 

I was mostly excited though I did get a little nervous when I sat down in waiting area. After all, meeting new people especially someone who will be in a formative position can get to you. But once I sat down and we began to talk, it was relaxed and freeing. You never realize how much we kind of keep back from people until you have the opportunity to speak to someone judgment free. Moreover, it was great to hear someone speak my female name out loud and address me with it. It felt good to be able to answer back as well. 

We scheduled the second session for two weeks out, which is this Monday. 

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Great news.  I find speaking with my therapist to be relaxing.  I'm glad you enjoyed it.  Hearing your name out loud is certainly validating.  

 

Jani

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Oh, wow. I can't believe it has been this long since I made that first post. (Can't believe I forgot about it either....)

 

Still, its been a ride since October. Right now, I've got my first Endocrinologist appointment coming up for hormones in about 4 days. I'm now out with most of my friends and loving that I can now be myself with them. Most of my family is still in the dark, but the proper time and place to tell them will come. 

 

To all those who debate about beginning with a therapist of any kind, go ahead and do it! IT is worth it in every aspect. 

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I'm glad you checked back in with us.  Thats great that you found the experience with your counselor to be a good one.  Congratulations on your upcoming Endo appointment. 

 

Jani

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