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I am -dimwitted-, I mean "retired" military. I have outlived all members of my family, whom I could not face, as me. I came out to my spouse of 30'ish years last week... and survived! Not only did I survive, I have her support! (although as physical changes begin, she says she will need time to adjust. ...Who wouldn't, when blindsided?)

 

My question to my military bretheren is... where do I stand with the military?

 

Will I lose my health care? (That would be the health care that was supposed to be free for life!) 

 

Can I get any help from them in this?

 

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I did not write "dimwitted!" in my original post. I wrote that I was *filter evasion*  Are we being auto-censored here? Censoring is not what my military service was about.

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Filter evasion.
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We do have an auto word filter that will change offensive words to something that is less offensive. Looking at it now, I can see that the term, dimwitted, is probably just as offensive as the word it replaced. We'll have to see about fixing that.

Please accept our apologies for the stress this has caused you.

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It's worth noting that the rules, to which you agreed on signing up, advise against evading the profanity filter.  Offensive terms are not allowed to be used here; that's not censorship, it's common sense.

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Erin, welcome and back to your point.  The VA will treat you regardless.  You can ask for a referral to therapist and even obtain hormones after normal protocols are done, just like in civilian life.  

 

What branch of service?

Jani

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 So I know for myself separating at 7 1/2 years, that yes some VA centers provide some basic care and treatment. But for those who made the long stretch to 20+ I was under the impression ya'll get Tricare still correct? I'm not sure how the VA's basic services are compared to still remaining on Tricare. As for current service treatment, still Tricare but obviously on post, I've not stopped receiving care up to this point. The army still continues to refine, but March is still slated to be the termination for surgeries covered, but I don't believe that affects HRT or BHH. Assuming Tricare's on post and retirement plans or similar perhaps expect something along those lines? But of course your best bet is to probably start calling and asking about it now.

 

~Sara J

 

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On 11/21/2017 at 5:32 AM, Dev said:

It's worth noting that the rules, to which you agreed on signing up, advise against evading the profanity filter.  Offensive terms are not allowed to be used here; that's not censorship, it's common sense.

I think it is even worth more to note that NO PROFANITY was involved.  Nor was the original word offensive to me (and I am the only one it was applied to). I came back here looking for a safe place. This place is not safe from the imposition of others' subjective morality. 

 

I find it a bit surreal that a forum for those typically oppressed by the imposition of the morality of others, imposes an even more subjective morality on its' users.

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In case you didn't read the community rules on joining, this is the rule. While the word in question is not profanity, it is considered offensive no matter in what context it was used. The word could easily be used as a direct insult toward someone, hence that's the reason it is included in the prohibited word filter. This is a G-rated site and we strictly enforce the rules, We have members here as young as 13 with their parents watching so we will go to any length to provide a safe environment for them. Providing a safe, non combative environment for them is one of our top priorities. You seem to have taken offence over this matter and for that, I apologize but the rules are the rules and we will not make exceptions. If you wish to pursue this further, please use the instant messenger or email to contact Dev or myself. Thank you.

  1. Do not attempt to evade the profanity filters. The filters are a little less restrictive in chat than they are in the forums. In either location, however, deliberately evading the filter to make a forbidden word seen is likely to get you removed from the environment.
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