More Questions

[Alex-John]

i dont get me  part of me wants to be fully male   am female to male i am pre everything  but i feel once am male  i may want to cross dress female  i know its sounds weird  but am unsure what the heck i am 

...mmm maybe am weird 

Edited December 26, 2017 by Carolyn Marie
Prior title/healine of "???" was not clear as to subject of post.

[Jani]

Alexx it is certainly all right as Mary states.  In my former persona I always dressed in brighter colors and tailored clothes that were unlike my male counterparts at work.  Regardless of where you are on this journey its never wrong to be who you are, even if you're not sure who that is.  It can be hard but embrace all of who you are.  

 

Cheers,
Jani 

[Timber Wolf]

It's good to hear from you again!

 

Alexx, what ever you are is ok. One thing I don't think you are is weird. You're ok!

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf?

[tracy_j]

Hi Alexx. I hope you have something good planned for the New Year celebrations up there

 

I feel a little of what you do too as I am very female, but, although I don't feel I would desire to dress male (the clothes don't mean much so if I wore men's clothes it would be as a woman), many of my hobbies are usually regarded as male as they are very technical. I do think about that quite a bit as it seems unusual at the least. It does make me uncomfortable at times when posting on technical forums.

 

A difference here is that we talk about things. From reading between the lines I think many non trans people have a desire to cross dress occasionally, but most would fear doing so. It's who you are inside which is important.

 

Tracy

 

 

[RikkiWilson]

The feelings you are feeling are totally valid. It's okay to be unsure about it all. 

It has taken me 10+ years to get where I am today in regards to my gender, and I'm still not 100% sure what that is or what I want yet. All I do know for sure is that I am not cisgender. 

When I first started questioning my gender back around 14 years old, I had no clue there was anything other than woman and man, so I thought I had to be the most masculine person I could possibly be. Deep down I felt completely out of place. Eventually I learned what non binary is and started researching and learning from others and realized where I actually fit in. And it's okay that it took me over 5 years and then some (because I'm still not sure and that's okay) to figure that out.

What I'm saying is that it's okay if it takes you awhile to figure out exactly what you may want weeks, months and/or years down the road. 

And if you do go through every part of FTM medical or non medical transition and you wanna crossdress in feminine clothing, that wouldn't make you any less of a man if that's who you are. Clothing is not what determines our gender. Even if you wanted to wear feminine clothing now, you still wouldn't be any less of a man than if you dressed in masculine clothing.

~ ZD/Rikki ~

[MarcieMarie12]

For me the further I transitioned the more things (male clothing in my case) bothered me. But I do have to say, male clothes are boring by comparison IMHO. I know plenty of crossdressing men, they are still men, they just like to be feminine for a while.