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Wish me luck! Going out with my wife.


Jennylynn

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So my wife convinced me to go out for a drink tonight as Jenny! Wish me luck. First time out in full view!

 

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Jenny

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Good luck hope you have a great evening with your wife.

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Jocelyn

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You will be fine. Have confidence and show that confidence. You do that and everyone will see you as you wish to be seen. 

Hugs and love 

Shawnna 

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Your looking fabulous girl. Go out and rock it.

Let us know how everything turns out. 

Hugs and love 

Shawnna 

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OMG we had so much fun! Ran into a little bit of an issue with some redneck boys but honestly I don't think a single one of them had a gf. Awesome time! My wife was an amazing support. I got called a lady which did tons for the self esteem.

 

Hugs,

Jenny

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Congratualtions Jenny!

 

Tracy

 

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That's so awesome girl. I'm glad it all worked out and you had fun. 

Hugs and love 

Shawnna 

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Awesome...and you look great!  That's awesome that she's so supportive.   I remember that 1st time.  I was scared but felt determined.  As we moved about having fun I actually began to wonder and worry about her in terms of what others were thinking and the realization of just how wonderful and awesome she was just hit me. 

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Sorry if this is a little long!

 

So a little more details about last night. When we got to the bar they had a guy checking IDs at the door. My heart fluttered a minute but said to heck with it. As I handed it to him I simply said you're not going to believe this! He said he would not have guessed and was very nice. He told us to have a good time. We walked up to the bar and the bartender said what can I get you ladies? I mustered my best girl voice and asked for a vodka cranberry. He smiled and went on about his business.

 

We found a seat and kicked back talking. Our cocktail server came around and immediately smiled and said you guys are the Halloween couple! She remembered us from that night. Turns out she is a lesbian and out as well. She spent a lot of time at our table talking with us about transition. She said I'm doing fine and not to worry. Also told us about a couple of other trans women in town. 

 

We stepped out for a smoke ( need to quit.) That's when things went a little south. There were some guys out there and I got clocked. They were never direct but started making comments about seeing a transgender woman at the bar and wondering if there were more at another bar across the street. Just rude.

 

I smiled politely but my wife wasn't having it. She said we should go in and finish our drinks. Inside she was ranting about wanting to tell them off. I told her the best thing we can do for our community is to ignore it and move on. But I have to admit it was amazing that she had my back like that!

 

Overall I think the night was a success. Did wonders for my self esteem and I can't wait to get out again!

 

Hugs,

Jenny

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I love it when my wife gets all "T-Rex" about defending me.  I'd do the same for her obviously but it melts my heart  nonetheless.

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WOW! I am so jelly of you and your wife right now! I keep hinting at my wife for us to do each others nails, I think we might tonight or tomorrow night after the kid goes to sleep... You are such a cutie, it's really great you two went out for drinks and had fun, those red necks may not be quite what they seem, I was one myself, but I would have just been super curious about transition details. I hid behind a beard and my F250 for fear of getting accused of anything remotely truthful, I wish I could go back and kick myself in the butt for waiting so long! Your wife sounds amazing, she was going to go to battle for her bestie! My wife is my favorite super hero, I call her Super Bunny! She is quite legitimately superhuman, her lower body strength is off the scale, easily matching pro body builder levels. I've never understood why but I've seen her lift huge, nearly 200 pound containers and toss them like a sack of cat food! Back when I was fit, racing motorcycles and weighed 197 pounds I couldn't even get them an inch off the ground! Then again, my Bunny's from Texas, she aint little by any means, and has a grip like a hydraulic press... God I love her so much!

Big Squishy Hug!

Jae

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Lol. You crack me up Jae! I hid for a long time too. Trying to convince myself I was CIS. The truth is I still love doing a lot of the same things I used to. Just kills me to tear up my manicure turning wrenches! Lol. JK

 

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Jenny

 

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HA! I love that!  I spent a good part of my day today underneath a CNC machine and got all greasy and I’m worried about getting the grime out from under my nails as I really want to have my wife paint them tonight!

squishy hugs,

Jae

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 Oh, and why is it you can never find the exact size Allen wrench no matter how many of them you have, I swear I had 200 of them out in the tray and not one of them would fit the specific metric size Allen that I needed and of course the one I had was too long to fit in the space and the ratchet I had wasn’t exactly right or the one that kind of fit had a rounded tip... Aaarrrgggh!!! Curse you Mr. Allen!

Squishy hugs!

Jae

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I'm dieing! Lol. It's like that darn 10mm socket. 

 

Hugs girl!

Jenny

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     Jenny congrats on going out with your wife I have been out to my wife for 3 years and it is only recently that she will go out with me you are lucky to have such a supportive spouse . I also ruin my nails at work every day as a mechanic you can' keep your polish intact for long on the upside I am getting much better at doing them 

     Jai  the allan wrench you need is usually under the drawer liner or some other silly place they are a conspiracy 

 

     bobbisue

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I gave up working on my cars long ago, so now I don't have to worry about getting grease under my nails or ruining my polish. I am sitting here really enjoying the three of you discussing losing tools. I used to lose mine as well, only to find them a couple days later.

I'm glad you had a good time with your wife.

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Brandi

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Ohhh... I think I got a cramp laughing at those responses! I threw out all the tool mats for that very reason! I know from experience that 10mm bolts are the single most common size found on any 80’s or 90’s Japanese sport bike and that all the good 10mm sockets and extended length 10mm box wrenches are deep in the floor wells of all racing trailers, vans or RV’s... Forever lost to any human that could benefit from their use!

tears from laughing!

Jae

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I've always had a problem trying to find the wrench I was using. You know that one that slipped one to many times so you throw it in frustration. It's such a problem for me. 

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