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Hello! I'm an 18 year old male androgyne and recently I've been asking myself questions about love. Is it possible for an androgyne to fall in love with a normal guy? Can true love only exist between two androgynes? I'm so lost and I need some insight. I'm not even sure I'm able to romantically love someone as I've never felt what love really is.

Thank You

Marc

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Guest Ryles_D

Who you fall in love with is more determined by your romantic orientation than your gender. Boys and girls can fall in love wiht girls or guys or genderqueer or any number of variations. Same with genderqueer.

I don't see why androgyne could only fall in love wiht ohter androgyne any more than females can only fall in love with females. It's not true- in fact, the majority of the time it's false. Loving a person with teh same gender might help, they're more likely to understand, btu that's it. There's no reason you can't love a guy- you might find out that you never feel that way about another androgyne, either.

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Guest ~Brenda~

Dearest Marc,

Love finds you. You do not find love. Be open to people, then love will find you.

LOL

bernii

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Listen to Bernii - you can not 'find' love, it has to find you.

You are young, be patient.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Elizabeth K

What is that expression?

DITTO

Just fall in love - whatever - don't worry about it!

Labels belong on cans so you know what in 'em. But one can looks like any other can if the label is missing.

People always are what they are - no label required.

Lizzy

[was a bit down - got my minx fix!] :rolleyes:

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Guest Cazz333
Love will always find a way to meet you, regardless of station.

True. The issue is how do you know when people love you? I'm pretty rubbish at knowing whther someone likes me that way or not.

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Guest Sophie H
True. The issue is how do you know when people love you? I'm pretty rubbish at knowing whther someone likes me that way or not.

I know how you feel. I never ever read the signs properly. I have to have someone spell it out for me. The amount of times my mates in the past have told me that I was being hit on or that someone really fancied me, and I had not even noticed.

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Guest 1charlotte1
Love will always find a way to meet you, regardless of station.

Very very true! Every person I've ever loved I still love! They are wonderful friends of mine and the firsts I ever came out to! I u have the love butterflies, enjoy it! And don't limit who u want to date or meet! That=sad

Luvs and hugz, charlotte

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Guest Sable Dove
Love can belong to any two people it decides to

Two or more. I've got about three or four people I love, who, if not for distance, I would be in a relationship with. Definitely.

Just wanted to point out that it can be more than two people.

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Guest Ryles_D

If we're talking specifically about romantic love- not everyone experiences it or even wants it. I thought the OP was asking more about what sexual/romantic orientations were possible for an androgyne, guess I misread.

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Guest mia 1

Stay open in your thoughts and in your heart love finds a way to you and one day the "lightening bolt "will hit and you'll be head over heels cupid finds a way...Mia

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Guest androgynous

I think it can.

But I also want to add affection next to it, I can feel affectionate to someone without loving them or having ideas about sex. People never quite understood me and we're either in for a relation or simply sex, while I wasn't. I do notice that when i see a guy I like, I am in my feminine part SOLELY. And it sometimes switches back to male again, thinking by myself: Oh my goodness am I doing?

:lol:

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Guest Elizabeth K
I think it can.

But I also want to add affection next to it, I can feel affectionate to someone without loving them or having ideas about sex. People never quite understood me and we're either in for a relation or simply sex, while I wasn't. I do notice that when i see a guy I like, I am in my feminine part SOLELY. And it sometimes switches back to male again, thinking by myself: Oh my goodness am I doing?

:lol:

I see the chuckle smiley - my goodness - that answeres the reply - I mean you already know the answer - you are androgynous and by definition you are doing exactly what you are supposed to do. Find someone you love as a female and as a male.

Lizzy

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Guest androgynous

Lizzy, Oh, yes I embrace it for the better. I wouldn't want to be any other than I am now. Sometimes I don't enjoy the tightrope balancing act and want to drop either way, but since I have very stable thoughts I can find it quite amusing at times, it's something to be embraced.

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