First Time out dressed

[Raven1981]

Hey all:

 

So on Saturday April 14th, I finally went out dressed in public and I had so much fun.  I went to the most public place to the mall by be where I had lunch and then went from lunch to walking around the mall.  I went into the Saphora store where I was greeted and I got there typical makeover.  Then I went into Victoria Secret where I picked up a new bra and panty set and was greeted very nicely.  I had a blast.  I was a nervous wreck when I went out and even had those people who you can tell were the ones who don't understand and that were laughing behind my back.  But I did not let that stop me.  I enjoyed my day at the mall fully dressed up and cannot wait to go out again.  

 

Lots of love

 

Amy 

[Raven1981]

My outfit that I went out dressed and wearing.

 

Thanks

 

Amy

[bobbisue]

     I am soooo happy for you the first time is always the hardest and also the best 

 

     Bobbisue

[Timber Wolf]

Yay Amy!

I'm glad it went so well and you had such a good time. Congrat's!

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf?

[BrandiBri]

I'm glad you had a good time!  btw, you rock girl!

 

Hugs,

Brandi

[SugarMagnolia]

That's fantastic, Amy! I remember the first time I did that I expected to be chased by villagers with pitchforks and torches. :-)

I'm glad you had such a good time and that you were able to not let anyone bring you down!

Hugs,
Julie

[Rachael]

I am glad to hear you had a good time. It gets easier every time you go out. 

Keep smiling. 

[jae bear]

Wow Amy! What a courageous tiger you are! I am such a huge chicken, who knows when I will finally get brave and go out as myself... could be quite a while. Hearing how confident you are gives me more strength to keep pushing, toward my goal. I was out with my wife today at the mall and she convinced me to buy a nice perfume set called CK1, or maybe that’s just cologne, the girl at the counter said it was unisex (I was kinda hoping it was just for girls) but it has a nice clean cucumber like scent, my wife loved it so I bought it on the spot. I was wishing all day that I could have been dressed as myself but alas, big ole chicken me is still stuck in slightly femme male mode...

Hugs,

Jae

[Charlize]

Congratulations for what i remember was an extremely difficult first step.  Each time i went out it got a bit easier but perhaps the desire to live as myself became a bit more demanding.  Kinda like cracking the egg and getting that first breath of fresh air.  

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[BrandiBri]

Jae, that first time out can be intimidating, just remember to step out with an air of confidence and don't look suspicious and everything will be fine. Take it at your own time, I'm sure you will know when you are ready to take that first step. When you do be sure to let us know how it went.

 

Hugs,

Brandi

[jae bear]

6 hours ago, BrandiBri said:

Jae, that first time out can be intimidating,——— When you do be sure to let us know how it went.

Oh holy moly, absolutely Brandi! if I ever do make it out in the real world I will be back here to post over and over and over again about the experience, and you couldn’t keep me away from a digital device to save a life if I’d gone out and had fun as myself! I have an enormous amount of work left to do on myself, and that keeps most of my time busy, I actually love seeing the results and feeling the improvements in my body. Stepped on the scale today and it said 213, woo hoo! Finally pushed past the 216 mark, Although one day it dipped below the 214 Mark for one day. I’m down to my last set of jeans that still fit without hanging too badly so I’m definitely losing weight...  I got all sorts of interesting looks today when I dropped off my kid at school, it’s at the same church we’ve gone to for years and years, and a few of the older people who know me made a point to stop and talk to tell me how different I look, if only they knew what was really going on, HA! At some point most of them are going to know but I’m definitely biding my time with that one, I need to make sure my daughter is in a school that will support the decisions that I’ve made, and still provide her with the type of education I need for her... my wife and I are working diligently to see what we can do to make sure that happens in a seamless fashion without affecting her or making it difficult for her and her education process.

Hugs,

Jae

[Raven1981]

16 hours ago, jae bear said:

Wow Amy! What a courageous tiger you are! I am such a huge chicken, who knows when I will finally get brave and go out as myself... could be quite a while. Hearing how confident you are gives me more strength to keep pushing, toward my goal. I was out with my wife today at the mall and she convinced me to buy a nice perfume set called CK1, or maybe that’s just cologne, the girl at the counter said it was unisex (I was kinda hoping it was just for girls) but it has a nice clean cucumber like scent, my wife loved it so I bought it on the spot. I was wishing all day that I could have been dressed as myself but alas, big ole chicken me is still stuck in slightly femme male mode...

Hugs,

Jae

 

Hello Jae:

 

It will take time to be able to go out as yourself.  I was in the same place and being chicken and afraid.  But I am glad that I finally got to go out and just be myself and finally say I am who I am and who cares what people think.  Here is a selfie of me when I am out eating something.

 

 

[Jani]

Looking good Amy!  

 

I remember my therapist recommending I stop on the way home to pick up something in a store or pump some gas in my car.  I was almost home before I mustered enough courage to stop.  She said just put a couple gallons in but I filled it.  No one looked at me funny, and the sky didn't fall.  After that experience I was liberated.   You'll get there eventually Jae.  

 

Jani

[jae bear]

 Gosh girls, I sure hope so, I don’t mind if it takes a while right now, I just don’t have whatever it is that it takes. But I definitely see hope and a light at the end of the tunnel so to speak, I’m starting to get ready to go out with my daughter to the gym and do our one hour spin routine, I’ve been adding 15 minutes lately, so it’s actually an hour and 15 minutes. I must say as the weight starts to drop I really think that it could be possible for me to start being myself but I don’t know when that will happen, I’m  just such a humongous chicken that it might be quite some time, but honestly I feel pretty good in my own skin for the moment so it’s not really that bad. My wife says she’s really noticing a lot of femme qualities coming out and she’s a little worried it’s too much, but at the same time I’m not seeing it at all so it’s either leaking out on it’s own or subconsciously ‘she’ wants out, either way just as both of you so adequately pur it, this girl wants out, she’s not gonna stay inside forever so I  guess I better start making preparations so it’ll all work out if she becomes impatient.

Hugs,

Jae

[Raven1981]

Hello All:

 

So it is correct that after your first time going out dressed that it get's easier and I am going out dressed more often.  I just got done going grocery shopping.  Have been enjoying going out dressed.

 

Thanks

 

Amy 

[BrandiBri]

Good for you! Before you know it, you'll be out full time.

 

Hugs

Brandi

[SugarMagnolia]

That's great, Amy! Whoever thought that buying groceries is something that we'd look forward to?