Hello

[Jmark]

I just wanted to say hello and introduce myself,  my name is Jesse and I'm at the beginning of my journey from MTF and really don't know we're to begin. I've gotten a lot of advice on books and links but those got confusing pretty quickly and weren't consistent, I've always found that the best advice comes from people. Those who have already been there and did it, or people who are doing it currently. I already wear lingerie and woman's clothes which make me feel so sexy, but I need to choose my new name, I could really use make up advice. I am exercising so I can get my hour glass figure I want to be drop dead gorgeous and wear my padded 38c bra always. But any advice will be greatly appreciated. The name I finally use first and middle name I'm thinking classy, sexy, maybe a touch of exotic and adventureous mixed in so those are the suggestions I'm really looking for to start the legal process of changing my name,  thank you in advance for any help and I'll let everyone know which one I decide to take

[Daisy Mae]

HRT made me lose a considerable amount of bulk around my shoulders and back as well as losing quite a bit of weight in my hips and waist area. Keep wearing the clothing that makes you feel sexy as one of the most important things when transitioning is feeling confident and happy with what you are wearing and who you are. In the end it really doesn't matter how others perceive you, but at first it is very hard to remember that. It will come though. 

 

As for your name that is something that is unique to you and as for myself it is something I did not permanently change till very close to the end of my transition. My birth name was David Mark so I kept my name close to that in changing it to Daisy Mae. It is also quite sassy as well. I can't really give you names though as you have to really come up with that decision. That is why I wouldn't worry about a permanent change to much later in your transition.

 

Welcome and Good Luck in your transition process.

[MaryEllen]

Hello Jmark,

Welcome to TransPulse.   I think we'd all like to have that hour glass figure and be drop dead gorgeous but, unfortunately, most of us never achieve that.  Quite a few cis ladies never achieve it either.  There are cosmetic surgeries that can enhance our looks.  But unless we have the financial means for such surgeries we have to be content with what we have. Yeah, I know. That's a bummer.

 

If you intend to go all the way to SRS, your first step should be to consult with a gender therapist. You'll need a letter of recommendation from him/her to give to your doctor for hormone prescriptions. But, again, it depends on how far you want to take this.

 

Anyway, welcome and feel free to ask any questions you may have.

 

MaryEllen

 

 

[BrandiBri]

Welcome Jmark. I agree with MaryEllen, the best place to start is to find a good gender therapist. Please feel free to ask any questions you may have. We'll do our best to answer them.Take your time as your journey is not a race, but a marathon. As for a name, my choice was based on not wanting to have people call me by the nickname that I have had all my life. That and I like the name Brandi. My middle name is Brianna. 

 

Hugs,

Brandi

[Jmark]

On 5/5/2018 at 8:19 PM, MaryEllen said:

Hello Jmark,

Welcome to TransPulse.   I think we'd all like to have that hour glass figure and be drop dead gorgeous but, unfortunately, most of us never achieve that.  Quite a few cis ladies never achieve it either.  There are cosmetic surgeries that can enhance our looks.  But unless we have the financial means for such surgeries we have to be content with what we have. Yeah, I know. That's a bummer.

 

If you intend to go all the way to SRS, your first step should be to consult with a gender therapist. You'll need a letter of recommendation from him/her to give to your doctor for hormone prescriptions. But, again, it depends on how far you want to take this.

 

Anyway, welcome and feel free to ask any questions you may have.

 

MaryEllen

 

 

Thank you MaryEllen, I Actually got some answers to a few questions I had, I was just very excited when I made my decision that I got ahead of myself some.  I fully intend to go all the way with my transformation into the woman that I want to be. But I've slowed down a little and I definitely am going to take your advice and seek out a gender therapist and get things going. 

[Jmark]

On 5/5/2018 at 9:26 PM, BrandiBri said:

Welcome Jmark. I agree with MaryEllen, the best place to start is to find a good gender therapist. Please feel free to ask any questions you may have. We'll do our best to answer them.Take your time as your journey is not a race, but a marathon. As for a name, my choice was based on not wanting to have people call me by the nickname that I have had all my life. That and I like the name Brandi. My middle name is Brianna. 

 

Hugs,

Brandi

Thank you for the advice Brandi may I also say you made an excellent choice with your name and middle name

[Timber Wolf]

Hi Jmark,

Welcome to TransPulse. I'm glad you've found us!

 

When we first accept that we are trans, we often want to jump right into becoming the person we were meant to be. But I've learned that it's important to slow down and take the time to get to know who we really are. So pull up a chair, pour a cup of coffee, and join in the conversation. This site used to be called Laura's Playground, because we're kind of starting our 2nd childhood here. I discovered I had a lot to learn. I still do and always will.

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf?

 

 

[Carolyn Marie]

Welcome to Trans Pulse, Jesse.  I'm glad that you will seek out a G.T. for consultation.  They can usually help with a lot of the different aspects of transition.  It is rarely as simple and easy as we would like the process to be.  Please ask whatever questions come to mind.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

[BrandiBri]

Just now, Carolyn Marie said:

It is rarely as simple and easy as we would like the process to be. 

Wow! is that ever so true! If I knew how complicated and the massive number of people it would impact, I don't know if I would have had the guts to transition. However I don't for one minute regret my decision to transition. 

 

Brandi

[Jmark]

Yes I do have to slow down I just really got overjoyed and happy when I finally realized yes I'm a trans and I want to be who I truly am and got into high gear so to speak, but I've slowed down and I realize that the image I wanted might not be the person that I want to be. So I'm going to seek out a gender therapist before I do anything else other than what I've been doing. I'm wearing the women's clothes that i find are sexy, wigs, until my hair grows long. But I'm really looking for makeup tips so and tips,  advice, or links that can help. Thank you for caring enough to give me the advice that you have so far and any advice or answers to questions during my journey to becoming my true self

 

 

[Jani]

Hello Jesse and welcome.  I hope to see you around the forum!

 

We all want to be seen as being good looking.  I don't know if you go out yet but before you do take a look at what other women your age and size are wearing for good ideas on how to dress and present yourself.  While sexy clothing is fun, it isn't necessarily practical for everyday wear while shopping or running errands.  

 

Jani

[Julie J]

Hi Jmark. I totally agree with Jani. Dress and behave appropriately while out and about and even if you don't "pass" you can blend in. I have developed an acceptance of my ability to transition as I grow more comfortable and confident in public. With the help of my trans friends and my developing support network I am growing into the lady I always wanted to be. Keep asking questions and keep an open mind as you listen to the answers.

Remember, it's not just the end of the journey that matters... enjoy the journey! I'm very happy to be on my way and plan on making the most of my journey! 

Cheers, 

Julie J