Hello all.

[Susan]

Hello all. Please call me susan although i have not changed my real name but that will happen sometime soon and i am going to be 55 in oct. I do have a daughter who is will be 15 3 days after my bday but I don't get to see her. Which is very depressing.. I am just starting my mtf transition. Honestly, I am scared to think what others are going to think as I go through my transition fully and I know it will take a long time to complete. I am doing some basic stuff like shaving my legs and arm pits and going to get rid of my beard and mustache. I am going to use hair remover for now until i can get done for good. I have also started by bra's and dresses and all that good stuff and wearing them at home but i have been starting to tuck and go out in public with that. I have even been doing my finger nails but with clear finger nail polish. I do have a long time friend that I am going to tell about my transition. I am hoping she will understand. I have felt this way since I was about 12 or so at which time i was sexually abused. I even remember when my mother asked me about trying on her cloths and i did that as much as i could until she asked me that. I knew then that i was in the wrong body. I have yet to get ahold of my insurance company to find out if they will cover therapy but i am pretty sure they will and honestly i can't wait to start HRT. I am going to save as much money as I can so I can get SRS because i really want to go all the way. I welcome any comments and I am looking forward to see what everyone else says and support I can get here.

 

 

Thanks!!!!!! Susan

[Dev]

Hello and welcome!  I think in all the time I've been here, I've only met one other Idahoan on the site, and here you are right in my back yard.  This being the case, I have a local resource you might want to look into - the Tri-States Transgender Group:

 

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Tri-States is a closed/private group, which is serious about safety and privacy. An initial interview with the facilitator to vet any new attendees is required for authorization to attend the meetings. Tri-States is a low-volume group -- participation is encouraged. Bi-monthly meetings are held from 7-9 PM on the 1st and 3rd Saturday of each month at The LGBTQ Community Center (TCC) --1088 North Orchard Street, Boise, Idaho 83706. After each meeting, some of the attendees go to a restaurant as a group to socialize. There is no dressing protocol…whatever makes each attendee feel comfortable.

Facilitator: Emilie Jackson-Edney
Co-facilitator: Dianne Piggott
Co-facilitator: Elizabeth Price
208-830-7253
[email protected]

 

I haven't been to the group in ages, but it's a great place to ask about local resources such as doctors who work with trans folks.  Emilie, who leads each meeting, knows everyone and everything that goes on in the state, I swear, and she's one of the nicest ladies you could hope to meet.

 

If you need a primary care provider you can trust, let me know and I'll send you a private message with the contact information for mine.  She didn't bat an eye when I came out to her, and aside from that she's just very good at what she does.

 

If you have any questions about transition or living the life, feel free to ask.  We'll all be happy to help!

[Susan]

That would be great! I will message you later. What is really going to be hard is my work accepting me. I don't think the law protects us.

 

[Dev]

No, it doesn't, sadly.  There's been a movement for years now to get the legislature to add sexual orientation and gender identity to the protection laws, and of course it comes down to a party line vote every year.  When you're ready to message me, you'll want to reply to the automated welcome message you got from me.  The forums won't let you start a brand new one until you have five posts / comments total.

[Susan]

I know. I watch the legislature every year. I would like to get the info for the therapist. I know that would be very good for me.

[Cyndee]

Welcome Susan, to Trans Pulse forums, from neighboring WA state ?. Coming to the realization transition is necessary is to plan a long journey, I hope yours is a smooth and beneficial process. I begin the process myself at 51 and never looked back...

 

I hope you find your time here on the forums useful and enjoyable.

 

Cyndi -

 

 

[Susan]

Thank you!

[Susan]

I would like to know if I am starting out right by doin the things I said I was doing now?

[Cyndee]

Absolutely the steps you mentioned are just fine, we all move at our own pace, finding our own unique comfort zone Susan.

 

For the MTF, I would recommend facial hair removal earlier, sooner rather than later. For me this step would take years (5) of electrolysis and cost well over 20k (300 + hours).

 

Voice training earlier rather than later or not at all. Having wonderful outfit and being all dolled up, gets ruined pretty fast if you sound like a baritone in the wrong company ? Having a passable voice and using speech in the feminine context, has many benefits.

 

And if medically supervised, starting hormones will ease the body hair and create more calm for the MTF. Loose any excess weight, before starting HRT.

 

The wardrobe becomes experimentation, and lot's of fun finding what works, what does not ? Know your body type. Emulate what women wear in your area, that is age appropriate and fashionable (of course). Think less flamboyant, dress to blend in....

 

Enjoy

 

C -

[Susan]

I only weigh about 160 and I have a pretty good voice. I love to sing. I have been practicing to bands like heart and female singers. I do have hair remover that I am going to use this week. I drive concrete truck for a living.

[Cyndee]

I love the band Heart (a local fave),

 

Kick it out....

 

or

 

Susan Vega, I have a similar range with her, and her songs are great...

[Susan]

i sing to the bangles song.?

 

[Susan]

i was in band in highschool. i played clairinet for 4 years and chello for 2 yrs in jr high.?? i also am still leaning how to play my electric guitar.

[Charlize]

Welcome Susan.

I'm glad you've joined us.  I have a dear local friend who drives trucks for a living.  When it snows here she climbs into a tandem to spend days on major highways.  Otherwise she's moving goods around the state.  It may seem unusual but many women (including some who are trans) drive trucks. 

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[BrandiBri]

Welcome Susan. Glad you're here!

 

Hugs,

Brandi

[Susan]

Thank you!

 

[Timber Wolf]

Hi Susan,

Welcome to TransPulse. I'm glad you're here!

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf?

[Susan]

t Thank you timber wolf and thank you all who have welcomed me!!!! can someone tell me which topic i can post in for beginning transion? i do have a couple. of qestion. thank?

 

[Dev]

Transition Issues would be a good place to start, or the MtF forum.  Either one would work.

[Roche11e1]

Hello Susan

 

best wishes for you

 

Rochelle