Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

Living Full Time


Raven1981

Recommended Posts

Hello All

 

So I want to ask about finally being able to live full time as the woman that I want to be.  So my family and friends all know since I have come out to them.  I have started to come out to my new job where the individuals I work with in Phoenix and my HR rep knows and now I would love to start being able to live full time.  On my time off from work, I am finding myself always dressed as myself.  I just need to officially come out at work.  I have been now really thinking on going and getting my name leagelly changed with my gender markers from the court to the SSN to the DMV,

 

Lots of Love

 

Amy

Link to comment

I think that would be great! I wish you the best of luck! I know my day will come soon as well and I will be well prepared. :D   

 

Susan

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

Well it seems you have a good start going.  What else do you need to do to make it official at work?  Getting the document to change your name and gender marker would be awesome.

 

Jani 

Link to comment
15 hours ago, Jani said:

Well it seems you have a good start going.  What else do you need to do to make it official at work?  Getting the document to change your name and gender marker would be awesome.

 

Jani 

Hello Jani

 

So with me working on my homework from my therapist, that is one of the questions on my homework is to make the legal change at work.  I can come in fully dressed as myself.  But for the remote facilities, Will need to actually do the court for the name change first so I can then go to the SSN office to get that changed and then to the DMV to have that changed.  Then work can officially change everything in one sitting with letting everyone know that I am now to be addressed as Amy and not James and my insurance will be changed over to female along with all the other paperwork.

 

Lots of Love

 

Amy

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

Very good.  Sounds like you have it all mapped out.  

 

Hugs, Jani

Link to comment
10 hours ago, Jani said:

Very good.  Sounds like you have it all mapped out.  

 

Hugs, Jani

 

10 hours ago, Amy LeBlanc said:

Hello Jani

 

So with me working on my homework from my therapist, that is one of the questions on my homework is to make the legal change at work.  I can come in fully dressed as myself.  But for the remote facilities, Will need to actually do the court for the name change first so I can then go to the SSN office to get that changed and then to the DMV to have that changed.  Then work can officially change everything in one sitting with letting everyone know that I am now to be addressed as Amy and not James and my insurance will be changed over to female along with all the other paperwork.

 

Lots of Love

 

Amy

I am in California. I just needed my Doctor to prove I'm under treatment and presenting female full time and file with county court. It's final July 13, 2018. I go to DMV and SS July 16. My Trans Health group is going to be there for photo op

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

The process of name change and SS change was so validating somehow.  It was as much perhaps making that declaration to the world as it was getting past awkward times when i had to show an ID. 

It is wonderful to read of others finding the same comfort with themselves and the world.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

Hi Amy, the legal name change pays you back into the future, so many times. If you are planning on coming out at work, then it's a step certainly worth considering. For someone transitioning the legal name change / gender marker is one of the premier events, so many things fall in line after that....

 

Best to you

 

Cyndi -

Link to comment

Hello CyndiRae:

 

Thank you so much.  I have slowly come out to work where I came out to my supervisor and co-worker since it's just the 3 of us that work together since the main office building is in Chicago.  Then I just recently came out to my HR rep.  She was wonderful and is ready for me to inform her when I am ready to take the next step.  I do want my body to get more female like with the hormones and glad that I am on the injections now from the patches.  But I do have my wig that will help me out and have worked for years on trying to pass as a woman.  I have worked well before the hormones and the talking to my therapist that I have tried to make myself look as real as possible as a woman and even have pictures of me trying  to look female and when I have looked at those pictures compared to my recent pictures, I cannot believe how far I have come.

 

Lots of Love

 

Amy

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   7 Members, 0 Anonymous, 108 Guests (See full list)

    • Abigail Genevieve
    • RaineOnYourParade
    • Siobhan F
    • April Marie
    • Phant0m
    • Betty K
    • SamC
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      80.7k
    • Total Posts
      768.6k
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      12,031
    • Most Online
      8,356

    jacobb
    Newest Member
    jacobb
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. Adele Svetova
      Adele Svetova
      (25 years old)
    2. BROOKSGLASS
      BROOKSGLASS
      (34 years old)
    3. FinnyFinsterHH
      FinnyFinsterHH
      (16 years old)
    4. fool4luv
      fool4luv
      (26 years old)
    5. itsaddison
      itsaddison
      (20 years old)
  • Posts

    • RaineOnYourParade
      Crazy fact, was gonna go to the school where this went down at before I moved, have a lot of friends there. I know at least one of my friends met the guy on one occasion, not knowing who it was.
    • Abigail Genevieve
      They are thinking of Loudon.  The problem there was the girls were not protected from a known predator, who was moved from one school to another instead being effectively disciplined.  Outlaw school administrators? <sarc>
    • Abigail Genevieve
      How ironic.  I agree with the governor "“You cannot change your gender; you cannot pick your gender…there is a confused group of people that somehow think you can,”    - we are what we are, we are fighting the fact we CANNOT change our gender, which we did not pick.  Many if not all of us would not have picked a trans condition and have sought to evade, deny or move out or resolve it anyway we can.  Those who are confused on this issue are not trans folk.  They want us to change our gender but they deny we can.  Confusion.  
    • Vidanjali
      @FinnyFinsterHH no one can satisfy your questions about what will the future hold. But I can advise you to slow your mind down as much as you're able. Take it slow and one moment at a time. This advice goes beyond the practical reality that that's truly all you can do - further, try to enjoy each moment. It's clear you have a lot of aspirations regarding transition. But it's best to try to accept the bounds of your life circumstances at present because if you develop worries or even resentments about them, that will only make you bitter and more anxious. Instead, try to focus on anything you find affirming. Practice positive self-talk and give yourself affirmations too. Try to let go of expectations of your family members - they can only deal with change to the capacity they're able due to their own life conditions. Allow them grace as you wish they would allow you. Practice patience.   Try this exercise - read through your post and make one list of the positive developments and another of things you cannot control (including the future). If you have a sense of spirituality, offer the second list as a sacrifice to however you understand a higher power - leave it in their hands. If you're not spiritual, then offer it up to hope. Then throw that list away. Keep the list of positives and leave some room on it because guaranteed you'll have more and more to add. Look forward to that, but don't let your mind think it can rush things. Try to enjoy the ride. 
    • Vidanjali
      Happy birthday, Sam! Lotsa love!
    • Abigail Genevieve
      I still have not read much of this.  Very little of this document pertains to trans folk.  Some of the statements are more than problematic concerning trans folk.   It certainly was not written just to get us.   " those with gender dysphoria should be expelled from military service."  and "Reverse policies that allow transgender individuals to serve in the military. Gender dysphoria is incompatible with the demands of military service,"  https://static.project2025.org/2025_MandateForLeadership_CHAPTER-04.pdf are two lines out of hundreds if not thousands regarding the Department of Defense, targeting trans folk in an almost off-hand manner.    So if a fighter pilot, say, or a ship's captain, highly experienced and trained at enormous expense, is determined to be transgender (method unknown) the US loses someone badly needed due to the personnel shortage who is ready, willing and able to perform their duties.  Many trans folk have served well and transitioned later.  I don't think this point is well thought out.    A number of policy recommendations I would disagree with.  I am not sure there is a method to discuss those with the authors; I am attempting to find out.  I have good conservative creds.    They are fully intending to implement this, regardless of who the president is, as long as that president is conservative. It is not Trump centered.  I don't think he had anything to do with it. 
    • April Marie
      I wear a Delimira Mastectomy sleep bra with Vollence sleep rated breast forms. The form fit inside pockets so they don't touch your skin. I bought the bras on Amazon and found the forms on eBay. They were much less expensive than buying through the other sources. 
    • Ashley0616
      I wore an olive corduroy coverall dress with a navy blue shirt underneath. 
    • Ashley0616
      @LittleSamCongratulations on one of the biggest decisions. Looking forward to your progress. 
    • Ivy
      I don't wear a bra to bed.  The girls aren't big enough to need it, but still enough to appreciate.  Just a flannel nightgown suits me fine.
    • Ashley0616
      You're welcome. I'm here quite often if you need me. 
    • Ashley0616
    • Ivy
      Yeah, that is the point.  And of course they can be proud of themselves for saving humanity.   Yeah.  That would be scary.  I'd find a bush somewhere like our GOP governor candidate recommends.  So far I've gotten away with the women's.  I've been told I pass better than I realize.  But it would only take one a55h0le.   This is all so stupid.  I mean, who gets off on hanging out in a bathroom?
    • Ashley0616
      Oh yes. It was not fun cleaning it up but he is better.
    • FinnyFinsterHH
      Thank you! 
  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.

Legal

Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules

Hosting

Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.

Sponsorship

Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
×
×
  • Create New...