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By KayC · Posted
Hi @Madelyn Rain - nice to meet you and Welcome! To answer your question, when I first talked to my Dr about HRT I was in 'boy-mode" - partly because I was not socially out to anybody yet and was not dressing publicly. But my Dr was very accepting and understanding. He knew I had been in gender therapy for a couple of years and this was likely the next step. He noted my preferred name, and my gender pronouns (she/her). He updated my records to indicate this and referred to me as she/her in my medical records. My experience was very positive and I hope yours is also. Congratulations on your decision to start HRT. Deep breaths .. One step at a time -
By KayC · Posted
That's a truly inspirational story ... I love the focus of Zaya's mission - "The question was presented to her as, 'If you have one thing that you want to see change in this community, what would it be?'" Wade recalled. "And for her, it goes right to parents. It goes right to the adults. It goes right to us. It's not the kids. It's us." -
By Davie · Posted
Thanks @VidanjaliNow that's uplifting. -
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By Ladypcnj · Posted
As an admin myself of a group, I truly understand the importance of rules and regulations. -
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By Ivy · Posted
Yes. I appreciate y'all mods and what you do for us - including reining me in when I'm heading in a bad direction. -
By April Marie · Posted
I could not agree more or be more appreciative of this. As one who has come out to only a few people, here I can truly be myself with little fear of inadvertent exposure. Having that ability has helped me to find myself and to gain confidence in expressing my true self. It has helped me to love myself, something I could never do before. -
By Vidanjali · Posted
I appreciate this so much and it's one of the reasons why this community feels like home - a rare treasure among the world wide web. -
By VickySGV · Posted
As far as things being lost on the Web, accidents happen, Just here alone, I have 20,825 posts showing in my number count, but probably only 19K of them are still actually here to view. There was a change to a new server a number of years ago, and a segment of the data base they were in became locked and could not be transferred to the new drive in the servers we use now. Why or how that segment of the data base became locked has not been figured out in the time since but at least we know what happened and it was not intentional or aimed at a single element of behavior here. Data accidents happen with not one single person really responsible for them or for that matter even the computer itself. Frustrating as all get out when it happens, but it does happen. Some other electronics I work on as a hobby had their similar problems here a couple days ago because of the Solar Flares, and power outages or dips in voltage can make electronic life miserable. -
By Carolyn Marie · Posted
This is very true, Jani. The original owner of this site, Laura, and her chief assistants, developed our community rules more than 15 years ago. They have been modified many times, to take into account changing tastes, mores, technical issues and legal issues. Sites such as TikTok and X didn't exist then. Our naughty word filter, as just one example, has been modified many, many times. On this site, as on most private sites, in order to become a member one must agree to the T's & C's and abide by, in our case, the "Community Rules." If you seriously violate those rules your membership can be terminated. So, yes, freedom of speech here is restricted. Some sites are lax about enforcement, but that has never been the case here. We guard the safety of members, and your emotional comfort, zealously. We aren't perfect and sometimes let things get out of hand, or we go too far with restrictions, but those instances are uncommon (IMO). Every site has different standards. Luckily, for every interest there are numerous sites and it's usually easy to find one that fits your needs and temperament. When it comes to the Internet, one size does not fit all. Thanks for your question, @Ladypcnj. Carolyn Marie -
By Ladypcnj · Posted
Thanks Jani and Vidanjali, it helps me understand more. -
By Vidanjali · Posted
If I take time to type something up which I find personally important or impactful, I will first type it on a Word document or on the notes app on my phone and save it before sharing it online if the intention of the writing was to be shared in that way. Indeed, it is extremely frustrating for that sort of work to vanish when it was an emotional experience to have recounted and written it. But if it does happen, my advice would be to try to focus on having had the personal catharsis of transforming the thoughts into words. Even if the writing has vanished, your intention was acted out. You cannot control the results, whether it disappeared or not. So we can try our best to focus on gratitude for having been able to express what was expressed in the way it was expressed, rather than disappointment over it not bearing the fruit we expected it to. From a higher point of view, all things of this world are non-permanent. So when something like that happens, at best we can view it as an opportunity to practice mitigating grief over non-permanence of all things. All this is easily said - I acknowledge it is challenging. But without challenge, we do not grow. As far as freedom of speech is concerned, my view is that implicit in freedom of speech is duty in exercising that freedom responsibly. That means applying ethics to speech. One may ask, "whose ethics?" which is a valid question. The answer is, your ethics. If you wish to participate in a community with a specific code of rules or ethics, it is up to you to use your art and skill to express yourself within that framework. Of course in certain contexts it becomes imperative to speak up, breaking the rules - blowing whistles as it were. But that likewise should be done skillfully as much as possible. If one feels unduly constrained within a community ethical framework, one may also exercise their freedom to not participate in that community. It is a balance, like anything else in life. There is no ethical framework which is ideal because this is not an ideal world. So, tldr; do your best and make good decisions.
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