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Hi, my name is Ashley. I'm not a transgendered person myself, but my best friend is a FtM. You probably know him as Misaki. I'm 100% behind it, and he knows that. I'm just really new to the whole idea; yeah that's pretty much it.

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Guest AshleeB

Hey Hey welcome to the forums! if you dont mind just getting comfortable and waiting JUUUST a bit longer, im sure someone will be here shortly with some fresh baked cookies for you :D

I hope being a part of the playground helps educate you further on what Misaki is going through

and btw, i think thats really sweet of you getting behind him 100% like that.

Lots of love!

Ashlee :wub:

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Guest skyy

welcome to the forums. the world would be so much a better place if more people supportive like you. thank you for being such a good friend for him. and yea, it wont be long until sally will show up and welcome you.

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Guest Neuro

A friend of Misaki? That makes you awesome!! Welcome to the site, feel free to ask any of us questions and post in the forums; 'cause that's what we're all about. Posting and... stuff. I'm FtM as well, and certainly appreciate the fact that there are people out there supportive of their friends--needs to be more people out there like you!

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Here I am,

I was baking fresh cookies, so sit down and I'll get you some hot cocoaa and youmay have the first of a fresh batch of my double chocolate chip cookies.

So you are a friend of Misaki, that will open a lot of doors here.

Being someone's friend makes you very special, we are all about friends here and people who care enough to come in and learn more about our community are always welcome.

Just wait to see how many more people will drop by.

love ya,

Sally

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Guest Elizabeth K

WECOME WELCOME WELCOME

So GREAT to have a friend of a transperson come on board. You might want to look around - real diversity here - really a fun place (well usually - can be heartbreaaking).

And the welcoming committee with the virtual food may be a bit behind schedule. Sally is under the weather a bit - not the 'swine' flue - but we think there are some pigletts involved - shhhhhh - don't say anything... she's kinda a ham anyway... and has to work hard (to bring home the bacon) ... she would squeeeeeal with surprise to know we were talking about her... oh my.... sooooorry - we get a little silly here sometimes.

Glad to meet you. Post if you have comment or questions - and if you would - tell everyone about you supporting Misaki - yeaaaaaaaaaaa!

Lizzy

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Guest AshleeB

Lizzy...

seriously...

you are probably the funniest person i ever had the pleasure of knowing. i was reading that post just above mine giggling to myself at all the silly puns!

i was like "AH HAHAHA! AHAH!!" or somehting like that.

but yeah, welcome again :P

Ashlee :wub:

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Ashley, any friend of Misaki's is a friend of ours. Welcome to Laura's. You'll learn a ton of new info about transgendered issues here, and meet all of Misaki's web friends to boot.

And BTW, just ignore that silly Lizzy, she is totally weird and silly. We just tolerate her around here. :P

Misaki has a great friend if you care enough to join him at Laura's. Good for you.

Carolyn Marie

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Guest 1charlotte1

Hello! I'm new too! I'm MTF but haven't told my family yet. It warms my heart to see that u care about ur friend like that!

Hugz from Charlotte

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Guest joe0117

Hi Ashley,

Welcome to the Playground! It is so great to know that you support Misaki! He is very cool! It is so great to meet someone who is supportive and cares enough to find out information and hardships that accompany our community. Please don't hesitate to ask any questions here. Everyone is super friendly loves helping others out. Welcome again!!!

Joe

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Guest Angelgrlsue

Welcome Ashley, so good to have you here and that is so wonderful that you are so supportive of your friend. Please take a look around the playground, we have much to offer and post when you can. Very good advice and support here.

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Guest mia 1

Hi Ashley are you also related to Misaki. Because if you are that makes you even more wonderful than I can imagine..so welcome to you friend or family member either way you are just a great human being and thanks for understanding Misaki and all of us...Love to you ,,,,Mia B):D

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Guest Donna Jean

Ashley...............

OMG! So totally awesome to meet you!

When anyone comes here as a supportive Friend or spouse of a Transperson, the Positive energy meter takes a HUGE spike!

I'll just give you a Bigg virtual Hugg....{{{{{HUGG}}}}} from all of us...

Seeing someone supporting and loving any one of us makes the light shine brighter..

Misaki gets the love from you directly, but we all share in it here....so warm ...and wonderful.

See?..This forum isn't about tractors or tropical fish or sewing.....it's about feelings...very heavy stuff sometimes.

And all of us smile at your care and support.....

We bask in that glow, too....

You're a peach!

XXOO

Donna Jean

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Guest Meredith_Baxter

Ashley,

Welcome, welcome, welcome!!!! Welcome to the most wonderful non-judgmental,embracing,loving, supportive group I've ever encountered.

Love,

Meredith

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Guest brenda lee
Hi, my name is Ashley. I'm not a transgendered person myself, but my best friend is a FtM. You probably know him as Misaki. I'm 100% behind it, and he knows that. I'm just really new to the whole idea; yeah that's pretty much it.

Ashley , Thank you for supporting someone who is transgendered . Thats means so much to that very special person.LOL Brenda Lee

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Guest Ashley394

oh wow i didn't expect that much of a welcome, thanks :)

i don't see why people AREN'T supportive. people can choose to live their lives however they want, what's wrong with that?

virtual cookies, yum :D

we're not related, but we have been best friends for almost 5 years.

definitely a big welcome crew hahaha:)

i think i answered everything..... and i'll be sure to ask questions when i can think of some. im not a really good thinker..... hahaha :D

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Guest ~Brenda~

Hey Ashley,

Welcome! Oh what a wonderful friend you are!! Your support and your honesty is very much appreciated. I have come to know and love Misaki. I have taken a real warmth towards him. I consider Misaki one of my children and will do anything to help him. Ashley dear, thank you for joining us! You and I, and all of us will help Misaki through everthing that we can.

Welcome Ashley,

You are wonderful!!

Much Love

bernii

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oh wow i didn't expect that much of a welcome, thanks :)

i don't see why people AREN'T supportive. people can choose to live their lives however they want, what's wrong with that?

virtual cookies, yum :D

we're not related, but we have been best friends for almost 5 years.

definitely a big welcome crew hahaha:)

i think i answered everything..... and i'll be sure to ask questions when i can think of some. im not a really good thinker..... hahaha :D

See, Ashley, I told you they were all so nice!

:P

Teehee.

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Guest Ashley394

I never said they weren't nice. Everyone's been really awesome.

Yeah I'll do whatever I can to help him, I don't know what else I can do besides being supportive like I have been, but that's definitely more than nothing. :)

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O rly what?

sorry, im slow. hahaha

and you never answered my IM of WHY

lol

Why what?

lol

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