Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

Transition cake refused


Cyndee

Recommended Posts

  • Forum Moderator

Honestly why go there ? IMHO this story appears wrong on so many levels, do these actions really help or hurt us ? Are lawyers (trans or not) pouring gasoline on the religious freedom fire ?  I would never go to this baker for anything, knowing what you know, would you ?

 

https://www.npr.org/2018/08/16/639147599/colorado-baker-sues-state-again-after-refusing-to-make-cake-for-transgender-woma

 

 

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

I read that story this morning and wondered the same thing.  Is someone itching for a fight?  This is wrong.  I would never darken the door of this bakery. 

 

Jani

Link to comment

I know I would rather give my money to somebody who is either a part of the LGBT community or a good ally. But I'm lucky to live in a place with many options like that. 

Link to comment
  • Admin

I am sad to say that this was a fight that should not have been picked.  He got to keep his ball last time because the state blew the thing. Ignoring him and giving him and his money backers no press is what we can do to him.  Lets find a better bakery store, and I know there are better bakeries in town, and make them rich. The dude uses too much vanilla extract no natter what he puts together.

Link to comment

Folks, The thought of Attempting to force "Anyone" to do something that they don't believe is right, is abhorrent in itself. Those of us that are in the CD/TV/TS/TG community don't need to draw negative attention to our selves. Now if we don't agree with a business, then we vote with our feet and pocketbooks. All sides need practice tolerance and coexistence. There are places, businesses and people that I don't agree with or like, I don't go out and agitate them, I ignore them and go my way. That is what I expect them to do to me as well. 

Link to comment

I have to respectfully disagree although I certainly understand the sentiments expressed above.

The incident in the article took place in 2017 so it's before the most recent rulings, I believe. Also, the action being taken is by the baker not the customer that asked for the cake. What bothers me most is what the baker is asking for:
"Phillips is asking the court for permanent injunctions against the state from enforcing Colorado anti-discrimination laws against him as well as $100,000 in punitive damages."

I suspect that the transition cake request was a political action. I have no problem with that. What is at stake is the question of whether or not religious beliefs trump all other considerations of social equality. If they do, then all civil rights that have been fought for are in grave jeopardy. What will prevent someone from saying that their religious beliefs prevent them from serving non-white people or an  ambulance business owner from instructing EMTs  not to provide life saving care to trans people? 

It's all well and good to want to avoid this and shop elsewhere, but doing so normalizes the behavior and is a slippery slope to enabling much worse things, in my opinion. 

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

Thanks Julie for pointing out this aspect to the story, I appreciate your input. I get that the original complaint could have been an activism maneuver. Without knowing many details, it just smells like a predatory litigation that started at the CO state level in the first place. A lawyer, going after someone they knew would object to making a "transition cake", for the purpose of "making a case" and here we are today.

 

While I certainly understand the activist angle to motivate someone to "go there". Now one has to question the outcome and where this might be headed given the timing of events. The baker is now emboldened, having already won the case against the gay couple, now going after the trans person or the state in this case that acted on behalf of the trans person. Given the larger context, and we are now awaiting a pending SCOTUS nominee. Given the fact that the US attorney general Jeff Sessions is now heading up a "religious freedom task force", it's concerning where this might be headed. Is this appeal working in tandem with Sessions ? Would this case if tried before the next SCOTUS line up including someone like a judge Kavanaugh actually make things worse in the long run, especially if the baker wins his appeal ?

 

No one really wins in the end, except lawyers I suppose with something like this....Sad it's come to this, really.

 

C -

 

 

 

Link to comment

I think we'll have to agree to disagree on this, CyndiRae. We could both argue our various sides of this until we're blue in the face and have important reasonable points to make. I suspect we'd even agree with each other about a lot of it.

I'll simply say that I believe the civil rights act of 1964 did the right thing in restricting private business from arbitrarily denying public accommodation to those in protected classes (race, religion, color or national origin). I'm of the belief that gender and gender expression should also be included and thankfully I live in a state in which it is. How best to handle situations where businesses disregard those laws is another thing entirely and I agree with you that the lawyers are the ones that benefit the most. ?

Best,
Julie

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

We also enjoy protections at the state level here in WA for gender expression in many areas, agreed with you and quite grateful for that Julie :)

 

C -

 

Link to comment
6 hours ago, SugarMagnolia said:

It's all well and good to want to avoid this and shop elsewhere, but doing so normalizes the behavior and is a slippery slope to enabling much worse things, in my opinion. 

 

The conclusion I came to is that for him to have an open storefront means that his shop is open to serve the public. If there are exclusions he wishes to have he should not open a public business and work on referral only, within his approved "christian" community. He is trying to have his cake and eat it too. Can he refuse a Muslim wedding cake, a Hindu wedding cake too? Again it is a slippery slope. And if you did allow it and there was constant protests in front of his business, he should not expect to have any recourse either. Nor for those he does do business who decide to boycott him in retaliation. 

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

I agree with you Marcie.  A business open to the public is just that.  Unfortunately we are sliding towards a religious justification for prejudice in the same way racial recrimination was used.  November is coming but even so old ideas will take generations to change and some will hold on to hate as a way to feel better about themselves regardless.  It is a pity that it hurts some so profoundly.  A cake is just a symbol of that which instead should be a symbol of joy.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   4 Members, 0 Anonymous, 114 Guests (See full list)

    • Stefi
    • Susan R
    • AllieJ
    • Ashley0616
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      80.7k
    • Total Posts
      769.2k
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      12,051
    • Most Online
      8,356

    Luna29
    Newest Member
    Luna29
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. ciara
      ciara
    2. Jamieleann
      Jamieleann
      (62 years old)
    3. Lukey19252
      Lukey19252
      (22 years old)
    4. Maye
      Maye
      (66 years old)
    5. Spirefreedom
      Spirefreedom
      (21 years old)
  • Posts

    • Susan R
      Trans Group Zoom Meeting Tomorrow!!   It’s almost time for another Zoom Meet-up and I’m sure it’ll be another entertaining time to get together with others from our community. As usual, these meeting can last up to 4 hours or longer. Come when you can and leave whenever you want. The start times are listed below.   If you need a Zoom Link, Message me as soon as possible as I will be gone early all day tomorrow (Sat.). I will PM you a link here before I leave for the day tomorrow. See you all next week.   Have Fun! Susan R🌷   From Zoom Host AllieJ: We had 15 at our last zoom of April, with great discussions as usual. When there are this many people attending, we have to be a little stricter with keeping our talking time short and watching for hands up so everybody can contribute. Best is to use the electronic ‘Raise Hand’ so it is more visible.    Trans Group Zoom Meeting Times: May 4, 2024 6:00 PM Pacific Time May 4, 2024 8:00 PM Central Time May 5, 2024 11:00 AM Australia/Melbourne
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      Wow, Birdie, I hope you get better soon.  At least the nurses figured out that you're not their standard patient.  Hopefully they treat you right.     I wish my husband would replace our stoves.  Of course we use propane, being way out of town, but they're old.  They are supposed to use a battery igniter, but one hasn't worked in years.  There's actually a hole sawed in the bottom plate of the oven where I stick a match.  And the other one had some sort of valve problem, and couldn't get the parts.  I was hoping for a new stove, but I got to watch in awe and dismay as my husband made a "something" with a piece cut from a roll of bulk automotive gasket material.  It works, no leaks.  But I swear we don't replace anything here until it is absolutely dead.  With my luck, that will be another 20 years on those stoves.      I don't complain much, but I wish I had some nicer kitchen things.  Nobody understands that if I'm serving dinner for 36 people, cooking on sheetmetal plates or using stuff from a 1980s junkyard is a bit....suboptimal.  When I mention it, I get lengthy apocalyptic tales of the deprived life in Argentina or Mexico or "In Soviet Union, stove cooks you..."  Thanks, GF.  Or maybe I'm just too spoiled?
    • KayC
      I do the best I can to 'Pass' and I think I have become better at feminizing my appearance ... But, I have also come to realize that no matter how much I feel I pass, it's more up to the individual I interact with than with my efforts and appearance. If they are self-aware humans they will see me as I truly am ... and then I will receive a compliment, or a 'Ma'am', or just a friendly smile.  That's all I really need.
    • MaybeRob
      In my case, at almost 9 months, most changes have been very subtle. I was 60 when I started, and overweight. Also, I am not very observant when it comes to changes. In the last 3 months I have been on T blockers and breast growth have definitely started having suffered irregular "ouchies", but at the same time I have been slowly losing fat, so Bust measurements have not changed. What has changed in the density, I can feel a difference. Face wise the skin feels softer, and my lashes seem to be more visible. Head hair regrowth is a maybe- maybe not situation.  I do have to select men's clothing carefully to camouflage the change in breast shape. I guess I'm still at the not passable as a female stage especially with no makeup. I'm also over 6 foot and well over 100kgs which I guess is problematic to start with!   Hope this helps somewhat   Kate .
    • EasyE
      I started feminizing HRT about 6-7 weeks ago. I began with what I called the beginner's patch. I immediately found myself wanting to level up to the next dose and did that this week (yay!). So far, I am enjoying the ride.   I've read everything I can find on this topic. For the HRT vets on here, what is reasonable to expect in terms of physical changes for someone starting in their 50s? I know "your mileage may vary." I guess I am curious if I stay on my current trajectory for six months, a year, multiple years, how pronounced will the physical changes be? Will I reach a point where it is totally obvious or will I land in a "middle zone" somewhere in which I could pass either way?   Thanks! Like I said I am enjoying the ride so far and always curious to know others' experiences. Not sure anyone else in my life will be excited about these moves I am making, but I have been over that in many places on here already so need to rehash... Love and blessings to all!   Easy
    • April Marie
      Sending prayers and love!
    • Birdie
      Being admitted into the hospital after a long ER visit. I started passing lots of blood and they are keeping me for observation.    Nurse came in to see about a condom catheter, that of course doesn't work on me. 🤣   She said, "I guess we will use incontinence supplies on you."  
    • Ivy
      Yeah.  I think this is what it is about.  Since they are not transgender, nobody else could possibly be either.  I'm not sure that a cisgender person can understand being transgender.  But that hardly means that a transgender person's experience is not real - just because it is not theirs. Why is a transgendered person's experience not valid, while a cisgendered person's is?  Why should it be the cisgendered person that decides? Nobody is forcing a cis person to transition.  What I do for myself is my own business.
    • Abigail Genevieve
      @maebe   It sounds exciting.  I hope all goes well.   Abby
    • Adrianna Danielle
      Decided to head for Lowes after work early and bought a new stove.Was in stock and put it back of my truck.Luckily a neighbor of mine whom does appliance repair did come to remove the connection and convert the stove to natural gas in the new one.Was set up for propane.Happy with it and the scrap metal guy came to pick up my old one.He was happy to get it,said he needed one more to make it a load in his trailer full of junk appliances
    • Maddee
    • Abigail Genevieve
      I've been thinking it is a matter of belief.  They simply do not believe someone can validly be transgender and should not be allowed to practice their beliefs, but should be forced to practice their belief, that is, that there is no such thing as transgender and it is all mental illness/sin/hormonal imbalance. 
    • KatieSC
      I am really kind of sick of everybody who is not transgender deciding on what we need and do not need in the way of procedures. They act like all of this is play acting, and we can just apply cosmetics to our entire body. It might be refreshing if someone asked us directly what services we need in order to transition. I could say more as I am frustrated, but I do not want to violate the TOS.
    • Emily Chen
      Thanks a lot for letting me know! Unfortunately, I'm not available during this time period. Have a great meeting!
    • missyjo
      April good it looks like you've been successful with it. I'm glad  sorry bitchy mood not related to you or here be well dear
  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.

Legal

Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules

Hosting

Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.

Sponsorship

Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
×
×
  • Create New...