Not sure what I am.

[Ashley1]

Hi everybody. I’m new here and you can call me Ashley. Ever since I was 12 I had feelings and desires of being a woman. These feelings were off/on sometimes I’m satisfied being a guy. Others I wish I was a girl. I’m 30 years old now and I still get these feelings and they seem to be getting stronger. Any advice would help. 

[Susan]

hello. i have been in your shoes to. i did alot of research before i started my transition and talked to a few people here and a few i text with from here as well as one i have met from here. my best suggestion is to seek a transgender therapist and maybe find a transgender doctor as well. i actually started with my doctor first and am on hrt now but here very soon i will be seeing a terapist as well. hope this helps. Susan

[Ashley1]

Thanks Susan, I’ve been looking up therapists. Fortunately there are quite a few in my area. 

[Jani]

Hello Ashley and welcome.  I'm glad to hear you're looking for a therapist.  I believe that is a good move.  That your feelings ebb and flow is natural, we've all been through this.  Yes they will get stronger as time goes on so deal with it now if you believe its in your best interest, which it seems to be.  I'm glad you found us and hope to see you around.

 

Cheers, 
Jani

[Raven1981]

Hello Ashley:

 

Welcome here.  It is good that you are asking.  We all have gone through the first part of questioning ourselves and weather or not it's right and natural or something else.  The only person who truly knows is you.  It is also good that you are looking for a therapist.  

 

There was a little fun test that my therapist did with me and no one needs to know and it is a easy test fun test.  For a week straight, go and wear only the female bottom underwear all the time.  No one needs to know and no one will know.  After a week go back to wearing the male underwear.  See what you prefer.  You will most likely have your answer.  You can keep everything a seceret if you are not out yet or still questioning.  You dont have to change anything.  and wearing the other underwear is just a fun little test that only you will know.

 

Lots of Love

 

Amy

[Willow]

Hi Ashley,

 

Welcome.  Your are in good company.  I too have had feelings about of wanting to be a girl and being satisfied not being a girl for a long, long time.  A few months ago it came to a head and I finally sought out a therapist.  After a number of sessions, while we agreed I was TG, I decided I did not want to transition at least not now.  There are a lot of "simple" tests meant to explain to you your needs.  What works for you, what you really are is something only you can figure out with professional help.  The first place you need to seek help is an experienced TG therapist.  We can be your friends, and you will needs friends in the same situation, but we can't help you figure everything out.  Only you can do that and it sounds like you need professional help to understand your feelings and what they mean for you.

 

Good luck.  Stay here for support.  You are going to need it regardless of your choices.

 

Willow

[Jani]

2 hours ago, Willow said:

We can be your friends, and you will needs friends in the same situation, but we can't help you figure everything out.  Only you can do that...

Yes this is true.  All of it.  Remember we are here for you, whether you need to vent or ask advice.  

 

Jani