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So tomorrow I start a new job in a developing country, very small island nation. i'll be there for 3-4 weeks at a time and then back home for the same. There is alcohol there but mainly beer, anything else is hugely expensive and not always available. All is imported. I'm a little worried because of how much i'm used to drinking. I told my doc where I was going (not mentioning alcohol) and he didn't hesitate to write me a double script for benzos so I have that. I'm thinking about packing a few bottles too and trying to ration it but not sure whether it would be easier to just make a clean break. Beer is like water that smells ha - no use to me. I don't know, does anyone have advice or am I just screwed? 

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Regn, normally packing a few bottles to last many months might be a good idea.  That is certainly true of social drinkers.  I know for me it would be an invitation to get loaded and it might not last more than a day or so.  I would suggest that you speak honestly to your doctor about your drinking.  You might want to look for an AA meeting on the island.  Others there could help.  Please also don't forget the TGAA meetings.  As you know you are very welcome there.  You will  be in my thoughts.  Thank you for sharing here.

 

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Charlize

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thanks charlize. i couldn’t really go to AA meetings on the island if there are any, which is doubtful , because of my position there. i can’t really explain here. also not enough time to see my doc again. flight leaves in uh a few hours. it’s pretty messed up. i knew for a week that i was going and just sorta thought it would be ok.likenyou know just brain shuts off thing.

 

anyway worst thing i guess is i have to fake illness to come home and i lose my job ?

could ne worse, right?

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Best of luck.  Let me know if there is anyway i can help.  Sounds like quite an adventure. Please do take care of yourselflf.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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I’m back in Australia forn3 weeks, It turns out that alcoho isn cheapernthetr. an$38 bottle ofnspirotsnherenn is $31 there and if you ask about bulk they give you them for $25 amazing. 

 

foodn is very exoensice like $15 for small box of brakcadtn cereal and $25 for jar of peanut butter so it’s better to just get calories form alcohol 

 

its bad for the local pplmthey renreally unhealthy but works for me. i worried for nothing 

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Regn i am glad you made it home but please remember that there is a path to sobriety.  We would love to see you at TGAA.  Like you i had become powerless over alcohol.  It was certainly more important than food.  I understand that.  Those of us who find a path out of that life of not being able to see a life without a drink realized we couldn't do it alone.  I was unable to seek help for years but at the birth of a grandchild i saw some beauty in life.  I couldn't hold the baby as i was shaking like a leaf and had occasional hallucinations.  Realizing that was the miracle that opened me to accept help.  

 

Hugs and Love,

 

Charlize

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that was some bad typing there. sorry. 

 

um yeah i dont know charlize. lots to say, probably shouldn't. can you go to the - i forget was it zoom meetings> but not be on the email list?

 

in other news i  got my letter for top surgery yesterday :) :) :)  

 

the gt asked about drinking (with all the other screening questions) and i said a tiny amount - 5 or 6 a day - and she acted like i said 50 or 60. that was pretty confusing but she gave me the letter anyway, happy days. 

 

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Congratulations on getting your letter for top surgery.  I know how good that feels.  I will ask about coming to the Zoom meetings only without being part of the list serve and i'll PM you about that.

Please be careful and honest with your surgeons regarding your drinking.  When i had open heart surgery my dishonesty about how much i drank caused me a great deal of unnecessary pain.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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