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I'm confused and depressed and anxious. I just want to know? 

 

Am I just a confused tomboy? I don't know. Because I feel like this is something more than just being tomboy. 

 

Because I feel different and it's hard to explain. Anything feminine makes me very uncomfortable like makeup, skirts, dresses, skinny jeans, shaving, periods. I hate my chest and I think it could be dysphoria. But I don't know. I've hated my long hair for years. I've never felt connected to my name. I hate being called words like girl, girly, lady, cute, pretty.  

 

I'm afraid of the future and I just don't want to end up doing something I might regret. 

 

 How to know if your genderqueer or ftm? Whats the difference? How did you realise it? How to know if your experiencing dysphoria or low self esteem or something else? 

 

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I would suggest that you find a good gender therapist in you area to help you sort through your feelings. It sounds to me that you have dysphoria, but since I am not a therapist, don't take my word for it. As for me,  I am ftm, but looking back into my past I found that, although I thought I was a crossdresser, the emotions and feelings indicated that I was and still am transgender. For me, there was no question. 

Take your time to evaluate your feelings and what steps you want to take for the future. I agree with you, I would hate to see you do something that you would later regret. Maybe some one else can give you better advice, but in the meanwhile hang in there and know that you are not alone. 

 

Hugs,

Brandi

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I am not a therapist at all, but I wanna tell you that whatever you decide in the future is ok.

The difference between Genderqueer and FTM is that, Genderqueer people don't identify as neither Male nor Female, where as  FTM transgender people were born female, but currently identify as male.

Personally, I started questioning my gender as soon as I saw transgender people over the internet talking about their experiences, but I haven't decided which Gender I identify as yet. 

Something else you asked in your post was, "How to know if your experiencing dysphoria or low self esteem or something else?". Low self-esteem means that you have a negative view on your self-worth, and believe you aren't worth as much as you should be. If you are actually going through that, I'm sorry you are, and I don't know you personally but I can assure you you are worthy of everything and you'll NEVER be alone. You can count on us.

However, Body Dysphoria is a profound state of unease or dissatisfaction about your body image. If you dislike your breats, your hips or any female trait of yours, then you may be experiencing it, and it may cause low-self esteem.

I hope you find thid information useful :) feel free to post again whenever you want!!

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56 minutes ago, Cass Kasinski said:

I am not a therapist at all, but I wanna tell you that whatever you decide in the future is ok.

The difference between Genderqueer and FTM is that, Genderqueer people don't identify as neither Male nor Female, where as  FTM transgender people were born female, but currently identify as male.

Personally, I started questioning my gender as soon as I saw transgender people over the internet talking about their experiences, but I haven't decided which Gender I identify as yet. 

Something else you asked in your post was, "How to know if your experiencing dysphoria or low self esteem or something else?". Low self-esteem means that you have a negative view on your self-worth, and believe you aren't worth as much as you should be. If you are actually going through that, I'm sorry you are, and I don't know you personally but I can assure you you are worthy of everything and you'll NEVER be alone. You can count on us.

However, Body Dysphoria is a profound state of unease or dissatisfaction about your body image. If you dislike your breats, your hips or any female trait of yours, then you may be experiencing it, and it may cause low-self esteem.

I hope you find thid information useful :) feel free to post again whenever you want!!

Thank you so much! ☺️ This is helpful. Thanks for making the definitions clear to me. 

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Cass has it right with the definitions.  Low esteem can certainly be the result of gender dysphoria.  But as Brandi suggests a good therapist would help you sort through this.  I never thought this would be a path for me but I found it to be wonderfully beneficial.  My ill feelings towards my body are gone now that I addressed the core issue.  Counseling doesn't have to go on forever, just as long as you need assistance.  

 

If you want to be a tomboy and avoid "girly" clothing there is nothing wrong with that.  Be YOU.  Everyone else is taken!  

 

Jani

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On 9/8/2018 at 8:54 AM, PurpleBlue said:

I'm confused and depressed and anxious. I just want to know? 

 

Am I just a confused tomboy? I don't know. Because I feel like this is something more than just being tomboy. 

 

Because I feel different and it's hard to explain. Anything feminine makes me very uncomfortable like makeup, skirts, dresses, skinny jeans, shaving, periods. I hate my chest and I think it could be dysphoria. But I don't know. I've hated my long hair for years. I've never felt connected to my name. I hate being called words like girl, girly, lady, cute, pretty.  

 

I'm afraid of the future and I just don't want to end up doing something I might regret. 

 

 How to know if your genderqueer or ftm? Whats the difference? How did you realise it? How to know if your experiencing dysphoria or low self esteem or something else? 

 

Hey I know this sounds crazy but don't worry about it too much. Less than a month ago I came on here with the same questions and though I moved fast I started referring to myself as Trevor for a trial period n I realized I really lik ed it. Now my next step is binders and stuff. We're all just slowly creating ourselves as we see fit and some experience s are different. Trans or not. Experiment, create, enjoy and most importantly breathe. Good luck to you ?

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On 9/10/2018 at 2:37 AM, hmillerrr said:

Hey I know this sounds crazy but don't worry about it too much. Less than a month ago I came on here with the same questions and though I moved fast I started referring to myself as Trevor for a trial period n I realized I really lik ed it. Now my next step is binders and stuff. We're all just slowly creating ourselves as we see fit and some experience s are different. Trans or not. Experiment, create, enjoy and most importantly breathe. Good luck to you ?

Thank you ❤️

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