Want libido back

[Peta]

About 2012, after many years of depression and low testosterone (sleep apnea, obesity), a friendly doctor, knowing I liked to cross dress, suggested taking estrogen as a replacement for testosterone. I was very lonely and a bit ambiguous about my sexuality, although totally hetero male. I had been thinking about it for a long time and researched it a fair bit, so I knew what would happen. He prescribed Progynova (estradiol) XXmg daily. I also saw an endocrinologist and he had no problem with me taking it.

 

I had been very unfortunate in my life and had never had a serious girlfriend, so reading about loss of libido didn't particularly worry me. I thought I wanted the estrogen effects more than libido. In fact, I found that for the first few years of taking it, stopping the estrogen temporarily always brought my libido back strongly so I wasn't too worried.

 

In 2016, lightning finally struck and I met a woman in a case of mutual love at first sight. We are so similar in our upbringing and life, likes and dislikes it's uncanny. Also, even in her sixties, she's hot for sex and easily orgasmic. In the spirit of "no secrets", I told her of my hormone ingestion and my cross dressing. After a bit of hesitation, she was fine with both. (Am I lucky or what?!)

 

Trouble is, although I stopped taking the hormone about 18 months ago, my libido is now totally gone. I even find myself trying to avoid sex. I surmise that something has been altered in my brain.

 

Now I want my libido back! I feel fine, great in fact, no depression, but there's just no effect from erotica or porn or anything that used to stir the loins. That's very depressing.

 

Has anyone been in this situation? Anyone know if it's possible to reverse the brain effects and get libido back.  I'm aware of the ideas that the brain is plastic and can be changed, eg in the case of brain damage, by training (book: The Brain That Can Change Itself). Anyone have experience of this?

Edited October 8, 2018 by Jani
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[Jani]

Hello Peta.  Welcome.  I don't have any advice or experience in your question.  You would be best to discuss this with your doctor.  There may be something they could prescribe or offer as a tactic to cope with lack of libido.   Your woman friend is older and so I surmise you are also.  That may be a part of this as libido in genetic males does (in general) wane as they age.  Just a thought...

 

Why don't you post an introduction?  

Jani

[KeiraC]

Estrogen will shrink certain parts and after a time at least in my case errections cease, thankfully this is the result I wanted, messing around with hormones is something that is done under doctors care and with informed consent, you may have done damage at this stage.

 

Keria

[Carolyn Marie]

First of all, congratulations on finding love and a soul mate. It may be late in life, but love is always welcome.

 

It is true that you may have had some permanent changes to your system; however, I've been doing this forum long enough that I've heard of many instances when libido came back after someone thought it was gone forever.  So never say never.  Specialist doctors have a world of methods and drugs that can help with sexual dysfunction, so go see one and find out what they can do for you. Keep those hopes up, and perhaps something else will come up that may be to your liking. 

 

Carolyn Marie

[Peta]

20 hours ago, Jani said:

You would be best to discuss this with your doctor.  There may be something they could prescribe or offer as a tactic to cope with lack of libido.  
Jani

OK, thanks Jani.  I have discussed this with my doctor and he doesn't have anything to offer except a referral to an endocrinologist specialising in sex issues. He just vaguely said they have all sorts of funny drugs these days, a bit casual, in other words. I said I would work on the mental exercise approach for a while, ie trying to stimulate myself as much as I can with pictures and video to try to recapture the feelings.

 

I confess that, as you surmise, I'm in the older age group, I'm 71  ? But I sure don't feel that old! Unfortunately I'm also type 2 diabetic and pretty well impotent, but until about 18 months ago I still got the urges regardless. I still wanted any kind of sex I could get, but not now. It faded away over a period of 12 months or so. Very noticeable. Viagra and Cialis do nothing.

 

Luckily my partner loves my "digital stimulation" ("Only you, no-one does it like you." Nice) so I can satisfy her, and I tell her I get off on it too, but I don't really.

 

I'll post a bit more about myself separately since my story is interesting, I think. Thanks again.   Peta

[Jani]

Hi Peta.  I'm sorry to read that the usual ED drugs didn't help.  Your doctor doesn't appear to be taking this too seriously, but at least he offered a referral.   Being in a loving relationship is great and hopefully you can find some happiness on your part.  Please do write an intro, we'd love to hear from you.

 

Cheers, Jani

[TclosetGirl]

Go see your urologist, TRT will replace it, bi-weekly shots, happy moods, and that libido will be back in days, if not hours.

 

I just left TRT because of the libido but I fear someday I may be in the same position!